Wedding Keepsake Garter Bear Poem Help!!!

ashleylaurenr

I recently read about a tradition that I want to use in my wedding.  There is a poem that goes along with a Teddy Bear.  You keep your keepsake garter, put it around a bear neck as a necklace or waist as a skirt, and give it to your first child.

Is there anyone out there that has or can find the poem that goes along with it?
I cant find it anywhere without having to buy the bear and garter (which I already have both of)

THANKS!!

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]I recently read about a tradition that I want to use in my wedding.  There is a poem that goes along with a Teddy Bear.  You keep your keepsake garter, put it around a bear neck as a necklace or waist as a skirt, and give it to your first child. Is there anyone out there that has or can find the poem that goes along with it? I cant find it anywhere without having to buy the bear and garter (which I already have both of) THANKS!!
Posted by ashleylaurenr[/QUOTE]

Why the heck would you want to give your GARTER to your child?  Ewww. 

aerinpegadrak

1) How many boards did you post this on?

2) Why do you need a poem?  Where would it be printed, who would read it?  This seems like a fairly private observance, not one that requires explanation to anyone.  Also, I tend to be against wedding poetry in general, it's usually torturously bad.  If you really do need some sort of text to describe the tradition, just write up something in prose.

allisong23

Yeah, this is gross. And unnecessary. So unnecessary.

trix1223

Giving a GARTER to your child?  Well that just seems highly inappropriate to this mom.  I'm not sure why you think this is a cute idea.

missy68

I'm all for the handkerchief/christening bonnet one, this one .... not so much.

SarahPLiz

Gross! I don't want my kids knowing what type of lingerie I wore on my wedding day. Yes, a garter is lingerie. There's a line there that one should not cross with their kids, I think. And poems make it worse. 

I HAVE heard of a tradition of using your wedding dress to make a christening gown for your child, and that one doesn't need a poem. 

tidetravel

Where did you hear about this "tradition?"  Because google gives me nothing.

DodgersBride

I don't think it's a good idea. Even with a poem. How would you explain to the kid what the garter is.

mgietler76

I'm going to have to echo the PP's. Just imagine your mother giving you her garter to use for your upcoming wedding. All sorts of creepy IMO.

naomikb

Ha. I am just now realizing how many boards this was posted on.

Unfortunately it is for sale online, although it seems like only by one company.  Presumably the rest realized how bad of an idea it is.

Chasity08

I hope this is MUD. I couldn't imagine giving my garter to my daughter...gross.

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]Ha. I am just now realizing how many boards this was posted on. Unfortunately it is for sale online, although it seems like only by one company.  Presumably the rest realized how bad of an idea it is.
Posted by naomikb[/QUOTE]
So in other words, it's not so much a tradition as it is a marketing ploy to get a few more bucks out of unsuspecting brides?  Oh okay.  I get it now.

HobokensFury

This is very odd to me.  If it's such a big tradition why hasn't anyone heard of it before.  Seems like a way for someone to make a few bucks.  I agree with PP.  I don't think it's appropriate.

[Deleted User]

So, I guess my Mr. Thong bear was a bad idea? Damn it.

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Keepsake Garter Bear Poem Help!!! : So in other words, it's not so much a tradition as it is a marketing ploy to get a few more bucks out of unsuspecting brides?  Oh okay.  I get it now.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

That was my thought, too B, when google produced 0 results about garter/bear/tradition.

Starmusica

OP- why on EARTH would you give lingerie to a child... and defile a teddy bear in the process? This is just icky.

megk8oz

Listen here, my child
Listen hard and good
We've had this for a while
And we think it's time we should

Present you with this bear
In a true poetic form
We hope you'll think it dear
Even though not quite the norm

'Round it's neck, please notice
A special tie, indeed
The day we shared a special kiss
'Twas worn on Mommy's knee

Then later when the lights were off,
Daddy, in a passion,
Removed that lace, oh so soft,
And totally in fashion

Child, you must understand,
That night we were not sleepy
Now please enjoy your brand new friend
And accept that we are creepy.

Cynthia1207

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[QUOTE]Listen here, my child Listen hard and good We've had this for a while And we think it's time we should Present you with this bear In a true poetic form We hope you'll think it dear Even though, not quite the norm 'Round it's neck, please notice A special tie, indeed The day we shared a special kiss 'Twas worn on Mommy's knee Then later when the lights were off, Daddy, in a passion Removed that lace, oh so soft And totally in fashion Child, you must please understand, That night we were not sleepy Now please enjoy your brand new friend And accept that we are creepy.
Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]

OMG  Hilarious! 

Amisslis

This is odd and disturbing on so many levels. Please be fake.

flapper2011

I'm going to agree with everyone else: this is disturbing on so many levels. And this is coming from experience.
When I was 12 my aunt gave me her used lingerie along with a bunch of other hand-me-downs. Scarred. Me. For. Life.

Bad idea, all the way around.

mattycam

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[QUOTE]I recently read about a tradition that I want to use in my wedding.  There is a poem that goes along with a Teddy Bear.  You keep your keepsake garter, put it around a bear neck as a necklace or waist as a skirt, and give it to your first child. Is there anyone out there that has or can find the poem that goes along with it? I cant find it anywhere without having to buy the bear and garter (which I already have both of) THANKS!!
Posted by ashleylaurenr[/QUOTE]

You might as well buy the bear and garter because no one (including myself) has heard of this "tradition". I'm sure you can find something better to give your child.

Viczaesar

That's just wrong.  *shudder*

ashleylaurenr

WOW!! So much for  my fellow brides being classy and nice!  This is a tradition that many of my friends and sisters have done, however I cant seem to locate the REAL poem.  To me a garter worn SLIGHTY above the KNEE is not lingere such as underwear or a nighty.  Its also not given to a child as a toy but rather to decorate a nursery.  If anyone does have access to the real poem please private message it to me.  If not, please have some decency, stop the vulgarity and grow up!

aerinpegadrak

If everyone you've ever known has done this, why not ask one of them for the damn poem?  Clearly no one here has ever heard of this so-called tradition.  And yes, a garter is classified as lingerie, no matter the manner in which it is worn.

I still don't understand what you'd be using the poem for.

HobokensFury

If it's such a tradition with your family and friends why are you asking us then?

klynette84

OP, your two posts in this thread are contradictory. Your first post says that you recently read about this "tradition," but then in your second post you say that several friends and family members have done this. If this is such an awesome keepsake, wouldn't your friends and family members have kept the poem?

deepcovejackie

The only thing vulgar in this thread is the original idea.  Please don't give a garter to a child, that's a dangerous toy.

megk8oz

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[QUOTE]WOW!! So much for  my fellow brides being classy and nice!  This is a tradition that many of my friends and sisters have done, however I cant seem to locate the REAL poem.  To me a garter worn SLIGHTY above the KNEE is not lingere such as underwear or a nighty. <strong> Its also not given to a child as a toy but rather to decorate a nursery</strong>.  If anyone does have access to the real poem please private message it to me.  If not, please have some decency, stop the vulgarity and grow up!
Posted by ashleylaurenr[/QUOTE]

Um ... what small child sees a teddy bear (Which is a toy) on their shelf and figures "No, that's not for playing with, that's just for decoration?"

And even as just nursery decor: a garter is still lingerie, this idea is still creepy and inappropriate, and I still stand by every word of my last post.