Ok, this may come out snotty, and I'm prepared for that, but I'm really asking for advice, I want to be as inclusive and welcoming as possible!!
My family comes from money. I grew up in one of the wealthiest parts of the US, had a car, have always had nice things. I don't think I take it for granted- I know how hard my family has worked to create this life.
FH's family does not come from money, they often live paycheck to paycheck and are more conscious about spending money.
So far- no problem- until...certain things come up, like hotels for the night of the wedding, they're going to go back to a cheaper motel, my family is staying at the venue (which is also a hotel), attire some of his family doesn't own suits (I think he's exaggerating but whatever...), my mom is concerned because she doesn't want to look like she's trying to "out-do" anyone, FFIL hasn't seen a razor in months! FMIL wants to make her own dress, and that's fine, she's a great seamstress, but I want her to feel as pampered as my mom.
I just want everyone to do whatever makes them comfortable! If my mom wants to wear her sapphire earrings, fine, if FMIL wants to make her own dress, fine! But FH is kinda freaking out about the whole situation!! Any advice?