thought it was supposed to be my year...need to vent

guidoner1

I feel like I have really become bridezilla... I know the world doesn't revolve around me and my wedding but everything is still getting me down... one of my MOH's  has a complete control freak husband and he is being really difficult about everything that has to do with my wedding (giving my MOH a hard time about money and time she is spending) I wouldn't care but I was her MOH and did EVERYTHING for their wedding.. he is prolly not even going to let her come to my bachelorette weekend... then I found out one of my bridesmaids is pregnant, which wasn't that much of a big deal because we just ordered the dresses and were able to get a different size.. but her wedding was supposed to be 3 months after mine, but since she is pregnant they moved up their wedding to 2 months before mine.. we are in each others weddings so its making it financially hard on me to do everything for her wedding before mine because my fiance and I are paying for most of the wedding ourselves.. I got over everything and was back to my wedding mode until today I found out that another bridesmaid is pregnant (my soon to be sister in law).. I'm so happy for her but at the same time I'm frustrated because now the attention from the family is going to be towards her and not the wedding (my soon to be inlaws first grandchild)  I really wish I wasn't having all these feelings but I can't help it, I want to be happy for everyone too but when I booked my wedding 2 years ago nobody else was getting married the same year, now there are 6 weddings (including mine) and now 4 baby showers... its all exciting stuff but too much to pack into one year.. now I'm wishing that we just got married last year.. I have spent so much time and have been so excited about my wedding, but I feel like I'm the only one that is excited about it.. really wish people would help out more and be more excited but its not going to happen... I really need to get out of this funk and not worry about every other wedding or baby and just focus on my wedding and being happy.. Hopefully everything will be okay..

RailWayWife

In Response to Re: thought it was supposed to be my year...need to vent:
[QUOTE]I have noticed that the longer someone stays engaged (not that there's a problem with it), less enchanted those around them become with the whole process. But more than that, these are all other happy events in other people's lives, and when it comes to your wedding day it WILL be about you guys as a couple, and after that life will go on, unexciting and normal. Just like a marriage is supposed to be.  Be thankful that no one is sick or dying or going to rehab (without going into too much detail I know a thing or more about that one).
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]

I completely disagree with this. Its not how long you are engaged but how long your planning process is. If you have been talking about your wedding for 2 years then yes people will get bored with it, but if you only recently started your planning process then why would people be less “enchanted”?

 

Anyway your friends and family have their own lives. You should be thrilled they are pregnant. As for your MOH husband saying how his wife is spending their money… Well I think he has a say how it is spent and you have Zero say how their money is spent. Stay out of it.

TheValidator

Clearly you should have handed out contraception at your engagement party.

ChristineNB

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_thought-it-was-supposed-to-be-my-yearneed-to-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:5c4f84d2-0013-40e7-bb13-04c04368e7acPost:2bc1b583-d7c1-43ce-ac19-c4f54f31af88">Re: thought it was supposed to be my year...need to vent</a>:
[QUOTE]Clearly you should have handed out contraception at your engagement party.
Posted by TheValidator[/QUOTE]
LOL  I love this.  Mix it into their cocktails, perhaps?

I do agree with the PP that the longer your engagement, the more chance of other things coming up in the family that you would have not expected with you announced your engagement.  This isn't saying long engagements are bad, but just with a short engagement not enough time for someone to say get pregnant and have the baby, etc.

Bett2012

The title of this post made me think the wedding was postponed to another year

Chobot

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_thought-it-was-supposed-to-be-my-yearneed-to-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:5c4f84d2-0013-40e7-bb13-04c04368e7acPost:2bc1b583-d7c1-43ce-ac19-c4f54f31af88">Re: thought it was supposed to be my year...need to vent</a>:
[QUOTE]Clearly you should have handed out contraception at your engagement party.
Posted by TheValidator[/QUOTE]

<div>HAHA,,, You mysteriously give away funny tasting altoids and you direct your female quests to take it every day..at the same time..and don't skip days. </div>

AlyssaNichol

"You get one day.  Enjoy that one day to the fullest!

As hard as it sounds, no one will be as excited about your wedding as you because everyone has their own lives.  We're all doing exciting things!  I got my Ph.D. during my sister's wedding planning; my sister got her Ph.D. and got pregnant with my parents' first grandchild during mine.  I promise - our wedding day was still beautiful and lovely.

Lower your expectations a bit for everyone around you.  People aren't going to be beating down your door to put together favors or cooing over every wedding thing you buy.  That's life and it's okay.  You don't get a year - you get a day.  Stop thinking about how all the focus isn't on you and just focus on your own plans, your future, and your happiness."





Well said, Joy2611. 

JoshLovesJekka

You should feel just as joyous for your friends as you expect them to feel for you. After all they are your friends.

Smashleyk

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_thought-it-was-supposed-to-be-my-yearneed-to-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:5c4f84d2-0013-40e7-bb13-04c04368e7acPost:9b7fe4ee-3287-4abf-b240-5c62e913f79b">Re: thought it was supposed to be my year...need to vent</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to thought it was supposed to be my year...need to vent : Everyone else has lives.  They have a right to get pregnant, get married, and spend their money as they please.  Unfortunately the title of the post suggests you expect to get a year, you don't.  Look at it the other way around, you're going to have a year filled with amazing events. Your last line is correct.  Don't worry about the other weddings and babies, focus on being happy to be marrying your fiance.
Posted by 1covejack[/QUOTE]




She's right...you get a day Hun, not a whole year lol

guidoner1

def. picked the wrong title... wasn't expecting a year lol... I was just so used to family friends saying to me "this is gonna be your year"... thats where it came from.. I have never been a selfish person, I have just done so much for all my friends and their weddings and babies that now I want my day too.. just overwhelmed by everything.. I am happy for everyone else too.. its just frustrating that everything has been a rollercoaster lately... my future sister-in-law is pregnant with twins and will be 6 months pregnant at the wedding.. I really don't know whats going to happen because the bridesmaid's dresses will be in within the next month and I really do not want her in a different dress than the rest of the girls and if she cannot be in the wedding, I'm worried that my other bridesmaids are going to be stuck paying her portion for everything which isn't fair to them and I don't have the extra cash to help out... we shall see what happens