Age Gaps

jcamm11

Do any of you have a large age gap between you and your FI (or husbands for some of you)?

MissyCee

There is 10 years and 2 days age difference between myself and my husband.


Of course, several people made comments about that, especially because my parents had me so young and his parents had him in their 30's and it makes for some really wierd age differences between our parents...but what's important is not my age or his age or our parents' ages; it really is just a number. What matters is compatibility.

heyimbren

I think larger age gaps only matter when one half of the couple is very young. Like, potentially underage young.

Very rarely does it matter a whole lot. BF is 2 years older than I am, so I can't speak from experience about large gaps.

Missy- I can see how that could be kind of awkward between your parents and FILs haha.

mgbarbry

Fi is 11 years older than me.

banana468

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[QUOTE]I think larger age gaps only matter when one half of the couple is very young. Like, potentially underage young. Very rarely does it matter a whole lot. BF is 2 years older than I am, so I can't speak from experience about large gaps. Missy- I can see how that could be kind of awkward between your parents and FILs haha.
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

I'm going to disagree with you slightly.  If we're talking two adults it should be fine - as long as they're both honest with each other.  I've seen a few younger(ish) women marry men at least ten years older than them and it can be tough if the don't talk about having children prior to the marriage taking place.  

neelynicole

He's 11.5 years older than me. I really don't think about it until one of our birthdays rolls around. Then I just get to give him the old man jokes lol.

evilstepmom

My FI is 16 years older than me. It definitely presents its own challenges. But we've had the kids talk, and agree we both want them together (he already has 2 from his first marriage) so that's one big issue resolved. But b/c of the age difference I'll be having kids a couple years earlier than I would have preferred. That's really the only area where I notice age making a big difference.

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Age Gaps : I'm going to disagree with you slightly.  If we're talking two adults it should be fine - as long as they're both honest with each other.  I've seen a few younger(ish) women marry men at least ten years older than them and it can be tough if the don't talk about having children prior to the marriage taking place.  
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

My comment was regarding girls that are around 18 or younger. I know some girls at 17 who are dating 30 year olds, and I just don't see that as appropriate really.

I also don't mean it as a blanket statement. Just that generally, the difference in ages seems to close as you get older. I only side-eye it if one half of the couple is VERY young, as I said.

Wrkn925

I'm 24, The Fella is 37.
He looks about 28, so the subject doesn't get discussed a lot, because most people just don't know.

My family and friends really think nothing of it.

Dad is 51, and his Fiance is 37, so this isn't a new subject in our family. 
So, to prepare Dad when I brought The Fella home, I called him and said, "Ya know Dad, sometimes you're robbing the cradle, sometimes you're getting your cradle robbed." His response, "Our SOs are the same age, we just have to make sure they don't run off together."

We work, the age gap is big, but we figure everything out.  When I want to aggravate him when we talk about the future, I just tell him "I want to grow old with you.  Well, after you."

meganyani

We have an 8 year difference. Sometimes people raise their eyebrows to it but honestly FI looks like he's in his mid-20s like I am so no one takes too much notice.

We, too, have an odd parent thing. My parents were 30+ when they had me. FI's mom was 15 when she had him. So...hahah. Good times.

JenniferLuvsCandy

FI is 8 years older than I am.  He is 39.  We DEFINITELY had the conception talk hahahaha

retro_bride09

FI is 7 years older than me. It really doesn't bother us, and I don't really think of it until it's triggered. Like the "You were in 5th grade when he graduated HS" conversation that his sister brought up when we started dating. It was awkward, but thankfully she wasn't being mean about it!

jcamm11

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[QUOTE]Ladies, just make sure he has a good life insurance policy!;-)
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

I like your thinking!

BethMarie63

My FI is 7 years older than I am...I'll be 23 when we get married and he'll be 30. Age has never really been an issue between us.. His friends love to give me hell about being so young though...but in return, it's fun to call them all old farts.

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]FI is 7 years older than me. It really doesn't bother us, and I don't really think of it until it's triggered. Like the <strong>"You were in 5th grade when he graduated HS" </strong>conversation that his sister brought up when we started dating. It was awkward, but thankfully she wasn't being mean about it!
Posted by retro_bride09[/QUOTE]

Lol I always think of that with people! It does make it feel weird.

BF has a "little brother" he loves to refer to as being "so little" - but his little brother is actually 6 months older than me. I think that made him feel awkward at first.

MissCarly86

Fi is 33 years old and I am 24. We got a lot of jokes at the beginning of our relationship. My friends calling him old and wrinkly and his friends (mainly girls) judging him badly for it. His mom was on speaker phone (before I met her) and said '"Tell him to date a girl his own age!"... that was tough! But we made it through all of that and everyone loves us together as much as we love each other

slubkin

FI is 7 years younger than me.  I got a lot of "cradle robbing" and pedophile jokes from my friends. >.<  His family is ok with it and so is mine, although he's closer in age to my younger brothers, and I am older than the oldest of his cousins (only by 1 year!).  I think our grandparents were still in the same generation as each other, though.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

We're 8 years apart. We met when I was 24 and he was 32, and that was 4 years ago. We are planning on having children, but we are waiting a few years.

My parents are in their mid-50s and his are in their 60s (his parents are also 8 years apart).

He does look older (already going gray) and I look kind of young for my age. I get carded about half the time and he never does. But other than that, no one has said anything to us. It's only weird when he talks about pop culture references from his childhood, like seeing Star Wars in the theater, when I'm too young for that stuff.