I am getting married in 4 1/2 months. I picked my bridesmaids about a month an a half ago, except for one, who i picked a couple months before that. We were friends all through high school and college. When i had my son matthew 4 1/2 years ago, she started kinda distancing herself more. Probably just because we were at different places, i was a mom and she was still in school. Different prioreties. I got engaged to matthews father and asked her to be a bridesmaid (this was in 2008) well the wedding never happened because i found out he was cheating and i left. Shortly after i started dating a guy i was friends with in high school, and he was so great. we have a 2 year old son vincent and been together almost 4 years now. Anyway. when my friend got married she asked me to be in her wedding even tho we were not as close as we once were, because after i had my second son she distanced herself even more. She never calls, texts or emails. I always have be the first to try to initiate a conversation and every time its real forced and she is short with me. I dont know why. She wont tell me. its always .. "sorry im just to busy" Anway, im feeling bad and guilty because i picked her to be in my bridal party for the wrong reasons, because she was supposed to be in my first wedding, and i was in hers so i thought i needed to ask her to be in mine even tho we were not very close anymore. I'm regretting my decision for asking her because any time i text or call with anything wedding related she is like 'i'll talk to you later, im to busy right now" and she rarely gets back to me. I have not asked her to help with anything because i dont expect anyone to. i have not asked my bridal party for help with anything because i just want my close friends with me at the wedding, they are not my slaves! lol. anyway, what i do try to talk to myfriend about is the dresses, because that is one thing she does need. my other 4 girls have decided on a dress and some are going shopping with me and my OOT girls are shopping at the closest davids bridal to them.. This one friend however wont even get back to me with her opinion on the dress everyone else chose. I gave them a list of 5 dresses to choose from and they all chose.... she wont even return my text.. im getting so frustrated.. i know i cant Uninvite her to be a maid,, and i dont plan to. but i dont want her to just Not show up to the wedding too