Hey everyone, I came here for some advice. My FI family didn't like me at first when we started dating, I think because I was "taking away their only boy" but they seem to have gotten over it. We're getting married soon and I had my bridal shower a few weeks ago (picked a different wedding date on here cause I don't plan on using this site much more than this post)
Well tonight my FSIL who took over planning most of the shower called and my FI put it on speaker, I was in the kitchen so I could hear what she was saying. She was telling him about how she hopes I liked my shower cause my aunt (matron of honor) was a huge pain in the a$$ and "you can even ask ___ (their other sister) it was so frustrating planning with her" and other things about how much my aunt sucks basically and FI was just like oh okay. He didn't stick up for her.
Any time they say anything about me or my family he just lets them roll over him and he never stands up for me. We talked about it in premarital counseling and I thought he understood but guess not apparently. His way of putting it "I don't wanna get involved" well he needs to tell THEM that cause he's the one who gets an earful from me when they're done talking sh!t. And then he tells me I'm the one over reacting and being psycho and he's just trying to avoid conflict.
He says he does stick up for me by not inquiring further when they talk ish, basically being vague as hell and beating around the bush. All I'm asking him to do is say something along the lines of "that's inappropriate, I really don't want to hear you talking bad about her family" I don't think drawing a firm line in the sand telling them what is okay to say to him is a bad thing.
Am i wrong here for wanting him to stick up for me?