weird question where did you meet your couple friends

pinkbunny8385

Couldn't think of a better way to phrase the subject. Where did you and/or FI meet your friends that are couples as well?

FI and I have individual, mutual, and of course friends that we met together. The thing is most of our friends are single. We have one couple that we're friends with, but don't see often because they have kids. We don't see our individual friends, we basically just talk to them through FB. Our mutual friends are people that we shoot pool with 2x a week.

We rarely go out and do our own seperate thing. When we do it's usually the couple, and we meet up afterwards. Like T and I will go to dinner, FI and J will go to dinner, then we'll meet up to watch a band play.

Anyway, we're trying to figure out a way to meet new friends, that are couples. Any thoughts? Sorry this got a bit long.

MiksChick23

I don't think she means it that way, I would hope she has no intention of ditching her single friends, but also wants to find friends who are couples. I get it!

Most of my friends are married, or in serious relationships, FI's are not. When we want to do double dates, we usually call my friends, but if its a casual mixed get together, we bring in everyone!

Your friends will eventually find people. Why not bring FI's single friends around your single friends? There is still then a healthy mix of male/female....they don't need to be paired off. And who knows, maybe they will?

You can also try things like dance classes, couples bowling/dart leagues etc. Meet people the way you normally would!

Edit: I should also add, that we have met a bunch more couples by hanging out with the couples we already know. My best friend's boyfriend has a lot of married friends so when they have football parties and such, we meet them. Its very rare that we actually do a double date...its always more so just a group of friends hanging out.

jemmini6

I don't think that's exactly what she meant, Retread.

For example, both H and I still hang out with our friends, single or not, like we always did, but recently, we've had several of them get job opportunities in other states and move away.  In fact, we are going to a going away party for one of them tomorrow.  As such, we don't really have as many people to do things with like we used to, so we figured it's always a good time to make new friends, so why not try to meet other couples?

I went on meetup.com and found a young couples group in my city.  We haven't gone to any of their events yet because I only joined a few weeks ago, but it's something you could check out to see if they have anything similar in your area.

pinkbunny8385

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_weird-question-where-did-you-meet-your-couple-friends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:709f22c4-8274-4313-9591-b48a16c8c1c0Post:4cfe6df1-eb82-4df1-869c-f2a63b693490">Re: weird question where did you meet your couple friends</a>:
[QUOTE]You know, that's a really good way to hurt your single friends....cut them out of your life once you're married. I've had that happen to me both when I was single, and after I was widowed.  Why can't you socialize with people who aren't part of a pair? Do you feel threatened by single women, or men, or something?
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

Where did I say I was going to cut them out of our lives? Why do you assume that its us cutting them out and not the other way around? Or could it be that we grew up a bit and don't spend our lives in a bar?

We rather go out and explore the world, but would like other people to do it with as a group. Our single friends aren't interested. Our single friends are only interested in going out drinking and having one night stands (their words not mine).

And for PP we have introduced some of our single friends, nothing in common, and when we go out some friends or friends won't come.

pinkbunny8385

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[QUOTE]I don't think that's exactly what she meant, Retread. For example, both H and I still hang out with our friends, single or not, like we always did, but recently, we've had several of them get job opportunities in other states and move away.  In fact, we are going to a going away party for one of them tomorrow.  As such, we don't really have as many people to do things with like we used to, so we figured it's always a good time to make new friends, so why not try to meet other couples? I went on meetup.com and found a young couples group in my city.  We haven't gone to any of their events yet because I only joined a few weeks ago, but it's something you could check out to see if they have anything similar in your area.
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]

Thank you for putting it a better way. Its not that I want to cut anyone out, it's the fact we don't have many people to do things we're interested in like we used.

I guess I was wrong, I thought meetup.com was a dating site for some reason.

NcsuPsych

Lol I'm sure there are parts of meetup.com that are for dating or swinging or whatever, but there are many 'couples' groups. I've even seen groups that say you HAVE to be in a relationship/couple to join the group.

We've thought about joining, but DH is a bit on the shy side when it comes to meeting random people. Which thats kind of funny since we met each other online.

pinkbunny8385

I know not all singles are into the bar scene. it just seems that everyone we meet or are friends with are into that scene. thanks for the idea of church.

ChristineNB

Hmm  Good question.  My and my partner's "couple friend" is actually one of his best friends from high school and his gf.  When we lived in a different city where neither of us grew up, we made friends by getting involved in some local community groups and clubs and meeting people that way.  I have made friends through clubs in my new location too, but more of them seem to be single.

jennipea382

The one couple (well, whole family, they have 2 kids) we hang out with a lot is FI's best friend. They met in like 1st grade and have been good friends ever since. Other couple friends we met the same way we met our single friends.. class, work, from our sorority/fraternity, mutual friends, etc.

Rachel405

Has anyone seen the episode of King of Queens where Carrie and Doug go "couple friends" shopping......it's hilarious. This just made me think of that haha.

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]Has anyone seen the episode of King of Queens where Carrie and Doug go "couple friends" shopping......it's hilarious. This just made me think of that haha.
Posted by Rachel405[/QUOTE]

Yup. That particular episode screams 'awkward!'

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]Lol I'm sure there are parts of meetup.com that are for dating or swinging or whatever, but<strong> there are many 'couples' groups. I've even seen groups that say you HAVE to be in a relationship/couple to join the group</strong>. We've thought about joining, but DH is a bit on the shy side when it comes to meeting random people. Which thats kind of funny since we met each other online. ;)
Posted by NcsuPsych[/QUOTE]


This is like the one we joined.  But yeah, there are groups for everything on meetup, from single moms, book clubs, hobbies, car clubs, etc.  H and I are even in a meetup group with our local dive shop.  Even if you don't join a 'couples' group, you can probably find a group of people that share similar hobbies and possibly meet friends that way.