Postponing the wedding? help. : (

Salem205

I'm not sure if this is the right place for this posting... but none of the other categories seemed to fit. So forgive me if I'm in the wrong spot.

My Fiance and I have our wedding set for 11-6-10. I have been planning and budgeting... but it seems like we have been plagued with unexpected expenses. I originally planned for that to happen in my budgeting... but too many things have happened and I'm now over budget.

I haven't put deposits down on anything, except the venue. I have just been saving up money first. But if I want this wedding to work... I'm going to actually have to start cutting some corners. The venue is super flexible and will allow me to move the date up... no big deal.

Would it be acceptable to push back the wedding to ensure that we have everything the way we want it? I haven't sat down with my fiance yet because I wanted to prepare myself. He would be happy with $5 pizzas at our wedding... so I'm not sure if he'll like the idea of postponing it. Him and his mom are very close and I know they will both freak.

We haven't sent out save-the-dates yet...

I know that a wedding can be done nicely with a minimal budget... but I already have my heart set on certain things. I don't know. What are some thoughts out there?

SwedishChick2011

If you want a lot of responses quickly, post this on the Etiquette board.  Plus, it's where all the cool kids are.  :-)

Salem205

Is there a way to move it? Or do i have to repost it?

MyNameIsNot

Yes, it's fine to move it, so long as your FI is ok with it.  It's his wedding too, afterall.  If your venue isn't going to charge you any extra, it sounds like a workable solution to your budget problem.

SwedishChick2011

I think you have to repost it, but you can just do a simple copy and paste.  It's okay if it's on 2 different boards. 

Salem205

Cool... Thanks so much!

aerinpegadrak

If you haven't actually made any commitments to your date that can't be changed, then it's absolutely fine to move it.  If your venue is cool with you changing the date and you're not tied down anywhere else, I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as it works for you and your FI.

kikipania

I would postpone it. Best of luck to you and sorry that you are in this predicament.

twinkle82576

I was in your shoes and I moved the wedding back a full year. I'm very, very happy with my decision, it's given me time to really have the wedding I want, and not have to go through with a wedding that wasn't what I envisioned.

Best of luck to you!

hildeedee

we were also in the same predicament and we moved ours back 8 months and luckily we were able to move the date with the vendors we already booked. i am SO happy with our decision because now we're able to do the things we'd like and have time to save up for it all.

goheels05

I'd postpone, just remember, though, your FI's input counts, too.  GL!

Janesse

As long as you and your fiance can agree, then postpone it.  My fiance and I have been engaged for over two years already and we aren't getting married until June.  The only reason I would suggest NOT postponing it is if it really won't make a difference budget-wise.  Put a solid plan together in terms of saving the money you will need before deciding to postpone.  There's no point in putting it off if you're going to end up with the same kind of wedding.

tammianddavy

My fiance and I were considering this option as well after we sat down and looked at the final budget.  I guess the only difference we have been involved in the planning together every step of the way.  He really had his heart set on the date so we decided to make the wedding more budget friendly.  It was hard for me at first, but in the end, it was more important to me that he and I were able to make some concessions together to make our budget work.  He got the date that he wanted and because we're considering other reception alternatives, I will be able to get some of the decorations that I initially thought that we would be scaling back on, etc. etc.

I am sure that you will find something that will work for the both of you.  It is a big day, but you have the rest of your life to spend with your fiance and soon to be husband so make sure that both he and you are comfortable with the decision.  Good luck!  )

flutgrl1

i would love a reception with pizza

millejj1

I would postpone it as long your FI is ok with it.  Talk to him about it, but you only get one wedding and saving to make sure it's exactly what you want is a smart thing to do!