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WTH is wrong with people??

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We had a new person start this week at my work and just a bit ago some of the girls and I were discussing my wedding and this new chic overheard and started asking twenty questions. One of those questions was to see my ring, to which she replied "Ew, he couldn't afford anything bigger?"..... WTH?? Who says that?! I think the ring is a perfect size, especially for my little fingers. Not to mention it's an heirloom ring, so that right there means more than anything. Luckily one of the other girls I worked with put her in her place but still, keep your nasty comments to yourself!
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    GoodLuckBear14GoodLuckBear14 member
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    Does she have and e-ring?

    If she doesn't I would have commented on the size of her non-existent ring.

    If she has a large one, I would comment that you do not need to overcompensate for anything with a ring that is too big for your hand.


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    AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Some people just have no manners and no shame about showing their ass. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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    Liane28Liane28
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    I REALLY wish there was a "like" or an "amen" button for GoodLuckBear14's comment LOL
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    shanding4787shanding4787
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    People are just ridiculous. I think the ring (see below :)) is absolutely perfect. I wanted to comment back with the fact that she wasn't wearing one at all, but I just bit my tongue and walked away.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_wth-is-wrong-with-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:7c62259b-6d90-4e00-80eb-82599a7aa72bPost:0eca2e8d-ec29-422d-aa0d-d1f10bf6030a">Re: WTH is wrong with people??</a>:
    [QUOTE]Does she have and e-ring? If she doesn't I would have commented on the size of her non-existent ring. If she has a large one, I would comment that you do not need to overcompensate for anything with a ring that is too big for your hand.
    Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

    She doesn't! And I wanted to say something so bad, but then I'm just stooping to her pathetic little level.
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    GoodLuckBear14GoodLuckBear14 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_wth-is-wrong-with-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:7c62259b-6d90-4e00-80eb-82599a7aa72bPost:b5062a18-d75a-4788-a2be-8131f5c0e1a9">Re: WTH is wrong with people??</a>:
    [QUOTE]The irony being that it was like pulling teeth to get H okay with getting me a ring like the one i have.  He was worried people would judge him (and apparently he was right) and really wanted to get a ring that was "special".  But after awhile he realized that if he wanted me to wear it every day, it should probably be something that I liked and was comfortable wearing and "special" jewelry is just not something I care for.  I love my ring more than any other physical possesion I own, I hate it when I can't wear it for this or that, and it is truly, perfectly ME.  
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    Our jeweler and I argued with DH about the center stone sapphire for my ring - which he wasn't sure about to start off with (he thought people would think a sapphire was cheaper than a diamond).  DH wanted a bigger sapphire and bigger diamonds as the two side stones.  The jeweler and I argued until DH gave in that the smaller one was the better quality stone and perfect.  I insisted on a plain thin wedding band so nothing would compete with the stones.  I still get comments from strangers about the ring and DH never believed me that this happens until a waitress at dinner one night did it.  He agrees now that the ring is perfect.

    OP - I got to design my own ring and it is perfect for me.  I also have my great grandmother's e-ring which is also unique (emerald and pearls) and I have no doubt "her".  This is the ring that you will wear for the rest of your life hopefully so don't let comments from others hurt you.  If they think you needs something big and sparkly to validate your FI, that says a lot about their shallow lives and nothing about you or your FI.
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    achiduckachiduck member
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    Wow, some people just have brass ones.

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    mandi195mandi195
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    That's insane. I would never in a million years even THINK something like that, let alone have the nerve to say it! I agree with all of the hilarious come-backs suggested by PP's. I have zero tolerance for people that are outwardly rude like that.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_wth-is-wrong-with-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:7c62259b-6d90-4e00-80eb-82599a7aa72bPost:fc416028-8b4e-4634-a88a-2e4638942576">Re: WTH is wrong with people??</a>:
    [QUOTE]People are just ridiculous. I think the ring (see below :)) is absolutely perfect. I wanted to comment back with the fact that she wasn't wearing one at all, but I just bit my tongue and walked away.
    Posted by shanding4787[/QUOTE]

    It is beautiful!
    The size of the ring should have no merit on the strength of the commitment. That's just silly. I personally never wanted a big one. I have tiny fingers (talking child size in the winter when they don't swell from heat). And my stone is a colorless sapphire, which I love so much more than a diamond. I'd just tell her to shove it.
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    Your ring is beautiful, that chic is out of her mind.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_wth-is-wrong-with-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:7c62259b-6d90-4e00-80eb-82599a7aa72bPost:fc416028-8b4e-4634-a88a-2e4638942576">Re: WTH is wrong with people??</a>:
    [QUOTE]People are just ridiculous. I think the ring (see below :)) is absolutely perfect. I wanted to comment back with the fact that she wasn't wearing one at all, but I just bit my tongue and walked away.
    Posted by shanding4787[/QUOTE]

    Your ring is exquisite and perfect for your small hand.  My own fingers are far from tiny.  Plus I was born in september, favorite color is blue, wedding will be in september, favorite earth, wind and fire song is "September", and always wanted a ring like the one in the photo.  But again, that is what I liked best for me not to prove a point to anyone else.  The relationship between a ring size and a relationship is the same as the one between a wedding budget and a marriage.  You can go super huge kim kardashian style or you can do vegas drive-thru britney spears style (1st marriage).  Both crashed and burned.  Because it's about the strength and compatibility of the two people involved and nothing else.  I say if you got the budget without debt and want to go big or your personality is more demure and you want something more customized and significant then either way as they say where I'm from, "Do you" and stay happy cause haters are gonna hate regardless.
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    QueerFemmeQueerFemme member
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    Your ring could be made of tinfoil, and tied in a bow to make the "stone", and that woman still would be a rude asss. 

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    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    The lesson from this story is that some people are a$$holes.  Period.

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    shanding4787shanding4787
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    [QUOTE]The lesson from this story is that some people are a$$holes.  Period.
    Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

    This exactly.
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    I think it was Liatris that gave the advice one time to put the rude comment back on the other person by saying 'Why would you say something so rude about something that makes me so happy?'
    Instead of you defending your ring, now SHE has to defend her rude comment.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_wth-is-wrong-with-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:7c62259b-6d90-4e00-80eb-82599a7aa72bPost:fc416028-8b4e-4634-a88a-2e4638942576">Re: WTH is wrong with people??</a>:
    [QUOTE]People are just ridiculous. I think the ring (see below :)) is absolutely perfect. I wanted to comment back with the fact that she wasn't wearing one at all, but I just bit my tongue and walked away.
    Posted by shanding4787[/QUOTE]

    I think your ring is gorgeous.  People are rude.
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    [QUOTE]I think it was Liatris that gave the advice one time to put the rude comment back on the other person by saying 'Why would you say something so rude about something that makes me so happy?' Instead of you defending your ring, now SHE has to defend her rude comment.
    Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]

    This is nice. Or you can take the other route of "Oh, I'm sorry.  I didn't realize that the size of the stones in my ring would have such a negative impact on you.  I'll tell FI we need to change the ring immediately so that you can sleep tonight"
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTH is wrong with people?? : This is nice. Or you can take the other route of "Oh, I'm sorry.  I didn't realize that the size of the stones in my ring would have such a negative impact on you.  I'll tell FI we need to change the ring immediately so that you can sleep tonight"
    Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

    Lol I like this one too.
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    [QUOTE]People are just ridiculous. I think the ring (see below :)) is absolutely perfect. I wanted to comment back with the fact that she wasn't wearing one at all, but I just bit my tongue and walked away.
    Posted by shanding4787[/QUOTE]

    That looks like my ring!!  I loooooove it!


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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTH is wrong with people?? : That looks like my ring!!  I loooooove it!
    Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

    Yes it does! Wow...
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    semi891semi891 member
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    Wow OP, some people are so ignorant.  I wouldn't know how to respond to that.  Your ring is stunning!
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    casswhitingcasswhiting member
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    Don't fret - I got several comments and family members trying to compare the size of my ring to the size of my sister's, who got engaged shortly after I did. I literally have child-sized hands - and when DF asked if I had a specific ring in mind, I told him that I'd much rather him spend money on the wedding than thousands on a big rock that will look funky on my childhands.

    The important thing is that your fiance chose something special to the two of you. That's why I love my ring so much (other than the fact that I think it's GORGEOUS!) because I know DF picked it out.
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    RamonaFlowersRamonaFlowers member
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    I can't believe how crass some people can be. If it makes you happy, what the heck else matters?

    Here's a picture of my e-ring and wedding ring together. The center stone on my e-ring is like 0.50 carat. It's what I wanted (Big stones tend to look like "costume jewelry" on my smaller fingers), and I love it. Yes, I know girls (Including my own sister) with freaking "promise rings" that are bigger than my ring, but this is MINE, and DH picked it out knowing it would make me happy. As long as you love your ring, stupid crap that other people say doesn't do anything other than make THEM look like buttholes.
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    Sassenach1743Sassenach1743 member
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    This is the kind of thing that makes me hate people! 

    Seriously? If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all! Whatever happened to that lesson on manners? 

    I'm sorry your ring was insulted. Clearly that girl has no idea how to be gracious and complimentary. She will either figure it out when someone someday insults her ring... or maybe she won't ever have one of her own!

    In any case, let this roll off your back. Remarks like that do not deserve a reaction. You did the perfect thing... you took it like a bullet to the chest and didn't give her a reaction. You walked away and now you have the perfect reason not to socialize with her again :)

    And, I think your ring is lovely! 

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    MeghannsixMeghannsix member
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    Crass, and that chick is just jealous!
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    GardenMavenGardenMaven
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    Man, I agree with PP.  What was she thinking?  I have seen all sorts of different e-rings and I have never thought something like that!  I get compliments on mine, and it doesn't have a large stone.  I think it might be the small diamonds on the band that do it.  I have huge hands, but very skinny fingers, so I am not sure what a big stone would even look like on my hand.  Most people are impressed that my FI picked out my ring with no help too.  Lol

    Something that I have heard from both my sister and one of my BM's is that they would hate to have a big stone.  For some reason they both have this fear that having a large stone would make someone want to cut their finger off.  So if someone had said, "Ew, he couldn't afford anything bigger?" to me, I would have responded, "Well he didn't want anyone to chop off my finger".  I can imagine the strange look I would get in response.   
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    wow... talk about a BSC girl?! your ring is PERFECT because its yours. In my opinion, it works perfect with your hands, its the perfect size :)
    Personally, I think she was probably just jealous because she's lonely and looking to put other down to bring them down to her state. not only that, but if she's new, she's probably one of those girls who has to be the 'alpha female' and knock everyone down so she seems better... what an idiot.
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    pesematologypesematology member
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    I'm a fan of, "Wow, you must be so embarrassed that you just said that! I'm so sorry!"

    Oh, and I have a silver ring with an aquamarine stone that cost like $30 and everyone I know has had the good sense to act impressed by it.
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