What's the worst wedding you ever attended?

melntaitt

I was just posting in the other board about this wedding I went to and realized that I've been to some pretty bad weddings, and here's an example:

The long travel time and no local accomodations were irritating. The ceremony was 2 hours and it was lovely. We went to the reception site and the hors d'eourves were there for everyone to take at their leisure; however, there was a farm nearby and some giant horse flies kept hovering (and eventually dying) in the food.

While dinner was served the guests were harassed by the large flies and we were near the water which equaled giant spiders.

The DJ was pretty bad but we decided to go dance; unfortunately the dance floor had gaps and was on a hill so me and the bridesmaids who tried to have a good time just hit the floor for one reason or another.

My FI had had enough and kept picking the dead flies out of his food and looked at his watch repeatedly. We finally decided it was time to go when a large spider was spotted making it's way to the cake from the tent ceiling. While we were saying our goodbyes the spider had made itself comfortable on top of the cake.

We left but by the time we got home and showered the dead flies out of our hair, we just had had enough of the great outdoors. Most of the other guests had left before us but we assured the bride and groom that we were happy to join them on their big day. 

melntaitt

I wouldn't want to pay for water and soda; that's a given at a wedding. Liquor, meh, I can handle my own.

Simply Fated

They charged for water? That's pretty ridiculous at a catered event.

melntaitt

LOL she's being snitty to a post I made on another board. Don't worry about it; I''m currently under attack that's all!

colstj1

Wow that is pretty sad. One of the worst weddings I went to was where the bride and groom left their reception shortly after the dancing started. The reception went until midnight but they left at like 9.  It was kind of sad that they didn't stay for their own reception just because they wanted to get back to the hotel room since it was going to be their first time sleeping together..

colstj1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What's the worst wedding you ever attended? : That's pretty pathetic.<strong>  If they knew they weren't going to be able to keep their pants on, they should have planned a shorter reception.</strong>  I bet their parents were really embarrassed, too. You should invite them over for dinner some night, then after you serve dessert, disappear to your bedroom with your FI.   I wonder if they'd get the hint.
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]


Exactly! I was surprised that if they waited long enough to wait until their wedding night, why couldn't they have waited a few more hours?! It was so rude..

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What's the worst wedding you ever attended? : That's pretty pathetic.  If they knew they weren't going to be able to keep their pants on, they should have planned a shorter reception.  <strong>I bet their parents were really embarrassed, too.</strong> You should invite them over for dinner some night, then after you serve dessert, disappear to your bedroom with your FI.   I wonder if they'd get the hint.
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

What?  Why?

melntaitt

You should invite them over for dinner some night, then after you serve dessert, disappear to your bedroom with your FI.   I wonder if they'd get the hint.


This.Is.Hilarious!

DeadUtopia

A good friend of mine just went tack-tastic on her wedding. I don't think you need to spend tens of thousands of dollars to have a successful wedding, but if you're going to go through the motions at least make them worthwhile.

My first complaint is that I didn't even get an invitation. I was asked to be a BM and waited for that invite to come in so I could put it a box of stuff that I like to keep (I'm one of those people:) but it never came. I asked her if she mailed it to make sure it hadn't gotten lost and she replied that since I knew where and when it was she figured I didn't need one, plus she had only made 25 or so and didn't want to waste one.

Simple church ceremony at a church where her uncle was a pastor, absolutely no problem with that. The flowers I had to carry as a BM were atrocious. They were fake (not the issue, I don't mind fake flowers) but they were just random stems in her colors that she got from the dollar store the night before and tied together. They were beat up and even my FMIL commented on the bouquet when we came by to pick our daughter up ("She made you carry THOSE?")

There wasn't a huge gap, but there was a big enough gap to where something should have happened. This wasn't all that bad, but just a lesson for me and my wedding.

The food didn't get to the hall until about an hour after is was supposed to. Her brother in law offered to cook the food and while yes, she only paid $300, the food was gross as helll and cold and bland. For $5 a plate, she could have had a local BBQ shop cater and paid about $100 more for it, but I think it would have been worth it.

Cheapest DJ they could find off of Craigslist=enough said. At least make sure you're getting someone who knows what they're doing if you're planning on going this route.

THE BAR. I've never been to an open bar wedding, so I was expecting cash bar, especially since it was a VFW hall and a small budget wedding, no prob. But absolutely nothing was hosted, not even water or soda. Thank goodness they had an ATM otherwise we would have been SOL if we were thirsty. The cash bar also doubled as a consession stand, so we eventually bought chips to fill us up since we didn't eat much.

I'm not ragging on low budget weddings at all (to this day she brags that her wedding cost less than $1000) but if you are going to do anything like the above, please think of your guests! I love her to death and even before TK educated me on what's proper for weddings, even then I knew that there was so much wrong with what was happening.

jennipea382

I've never been to a truely terrible wedding, but there was one I went to that was completely not my style at all. It didn't help that the groom is kind of a jerk (he's cheated on I think every gf he's ever had, can't get a job because he's ruined his professional relationships, etc).

Anyways, the ceremony was outside at a gazebo. It was in kind of a random place. It was like a grassy area near some little shops and a somewhat busy road was nearby. Not bad, but a little weird. The bride's sister was I think like 18 or something and was the "flower girl". She was wearing some weird short white dress and throwing petals. The ceremony was super short, which was nice I guess, but I like a little more to the ceremony.

The reception was just.. boring. No alcohol except I think the B&G had a bottle of something for themselves (and I don't even think they drank most of it.. why waste it??). The food was just spaghetti (which I don't think I'd want to eat in a white dress.. I think she wore a bib thing, lol). There was a little dancing but it felt weird to be dancing so early in the evening (it was maybe 5pm in the summer?). The reception ended by like 6pm.

I'm not knocking cheap weddings. If I wanted to get married sooner I would totally do something similar. I think not knowing them well (groom was a friend of FI's) mixed with groom being a jerk, no alcohol, and just everything together bored me so much. I've never wanted to leave a wedding so fast!

trixie549

We went to an incredibly tacky wedding a few years ago:

- The pastor said a super long rambling prayer about how he hoped God would make the couple "WEALTHY, wealthy beyond belief!" I don't think he was talking about spiritual wealth, considering they then had a dollar dance at the reception that lasted for a good 45 minutes. They also had a basket on the gift table with a sign that said "Honeymoon Fund" where people were supposed to contribute cash for their honeymoon.

- Total cash bar (including sodas and water)

- The dinner buffet was a gigantic bowl of lukewarm spaghetti noodles, and two vats of sauce (red and alfredo). No salad, garlic bread or any other side dishes. The cake was a dry Walmart sheet cake.

- And speaking of the dinner, I heard through the grapevine that the bride was very upset that she had to eat pasta with alfredo sauce (she didn't want to risk spilling red sauce on her dress).

- At one point during the dance, the bride and groom were grinding on each other while their bridal party stood around them in a circle and chanted their names.

Super klassy.

MairePoppy

The bride had her heart set on an autumn wedding in the Japanese garden of a local park. The day of the wedding was cloudy, drizzly 40 degrees.The bride and groom had this picture perfect, autumn in New England day in their heads, so they never bothered with a backup plan. So all the guests were standing (no chairs! no tent!) in the soggy park in their high heels in front of a pagoda, which was only large enough for the couple and the JOP. The drizzle turned to rain. The bride was late because she and her bms decided to hole up in a nearby bar until the rain stopped - she didn't want to ruin her hair or get her shoes and dress dirty. The JOP sent word to the bride that she would was leaving in 15 minutes wedding or no wedding. That prompted the bride to show. The JOP kept her word, shortened the ceremony to about 5 minutes and high tailed it out of there.

morenachica110

It wasn't a horrible wedding, but FI and I definitely didn't stay. It was at an old, run down "historic" house. They invited waaaaay too many people so we ende dup sitting in a back room crammed in with a bunch of other people where we couldn't even see or hear. I mean, I was literally sitting next to the kid who was controlling the music from his laptop and had to get up and move when he had to move to change a song. There was NO air circulation so I was sweating like a pig. Then we go to the reception and had to stand in line for ten minutes to sign the guestbook. You couldn't get in without signing. (This is what I hate about traditional guestbooks.)

The food was gross. I mean, soggy, bland, cold, undercooked.... grossness. But we were starving so we picked at it anyways. There weren't enough tables and chairs so we stood outside on the porch. Did I mention it was raining so while we were outside we couldn't even sit to eat?

There was no alcohol. Our drink options were overly sweet tea and water. (I guess not bad considering PPs had to pay... for water.) Then everyone stood around. Seriously nothing happened for a good hour. No dancing. No dessert. No anything. I think the B&G were making their rounds but you'd think they would at least play music or something?

Long story short, it was boring as hell and we couldn't even sit down. We didn't even stay to the cake cutting. 

cwaggoner07

I suppose I've never been to a really awful wedding... but any wedding with no booze and I'm gone as soon as the cake is cut.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What's the worst wedding you ever attended? : I can just imagine all the relatives asking Mom and Dad where the B&G were for the last three hours of the reception.  If that were my kid, I'd be embarrassed that there were all these people at an event to celebrate their marriage, and they went off to go consummate it while their guests were still there.   
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

Well Jesus, it's not like mom and dad have to walk around TELLING people the couple left to bang it out.  

Alcyone1

I didn't attend this wedding, but a good friend of mine was a BM in her friend's wedding, and to get to the ceremony site, guests had to cross a large creek.  The bridge had collapsed, so the only way to cross was on this weird zipline type thing that had a seat apparently made from a rusty bucket!  My friend (the BM) ended up being a BM in my wedding--every time I started to go a little overboard complaining about something that was frustrating in the wedding planning, all she had to say was "Bucket."

LizziebeeUT

I've posted about this wedding before, but one of my ex's friends was getting married. They hired some pastor who went on and on about himself and all the weddings he'd done. After the ceremony he passed around a paper with all of the celebrities he'd married.
After the ceremony, the groom and his brother passed around a fake ransom not made out of cut out magazines that said the bride had been "kidnapped" and wouldn't be returned until they raised $500.

They are some really trashy/tacky people. He cheated on her (with his ex girlfriend) two days after she had their first baby.

daria24

1. The bride had two extra showers that were "fundraisers" to generate money to pay for the wedding.

2. She had an obvious B list and sent out a bunch of invitations the WEEK of the wedding.

3. During the ceremony, the priest used his 15 minute sermon to rail against gay marriage (and this was years before states starting legalizing gay marriage, it wasn't a hot topic of the day).

4. The wedding party got champagne, the guest got zilch. Not even a cash bar. There must have been water, but I don't remember if there was soda or any other drinks available.

5. I never got a thank you note for the gift. Or heard from the bride again actually. 

B&K10+13+12

My bff's wedding was probably the worst.  The wedding itself was beautiful, but she was a total bridezilla.  Being her MOH, I was the lucky one who had to deal with all of her crazy 'zilla crap!   About two hours into the reception, she had a melt down and ended up bawling her eyes out in the bridal room.   She was convinced that everyone was bored and not having a good time (totally not the case).  After the wedding, she informed me that traditionally it's the MOH and best man's "job" to make sure that everything is running smoothly.  

LittleMissCutiePie

I've probably posted about this one before. I swear, it's one for the history books!

My cousin and his wife are very happy in their relationship, and it's great, but they are dirt poor, and have been even before they got married. He knocked her up about three months after the wedding, so they have never been able to catch up with themselves. Their wedding was a huge testament to this.

My cousin's wife's parents insisted on being traditional and paying for the whole thing. The problem is, they're a big family of failing wheat farmers, so they don't have a whole lot of money. What they do have is a huge money sinkhole of a failed bible camp, which they've tried to get rid of for years but no one wants to buy it because it's the middle of f@#$ing nowhere. So, the wedding was held at this bible camp. In Northern Alberta in April. That translates to=cold, rainy, and mosquito heaven. Everyone except the bride's family (and I mean everyone) had to travel at least five hours to get to this wedding. I had to travel ten, since I was away at school. I didn't mind, because I love my cousin and family is important. But, I at least expected to be hosted somewhat for travelling all that way.

The ceremony was held in a cramped, stinky (it literally smelled like manure) chapel that they used for the campers' daily church services. The poor bridesmaids came shivering down the aisle (there was no heating) in their knee length paper thin dresses and flip flops. The bridesmaids were dressed appropriately formality-wise, at least. They were dressed for a country wedding. The groomsmen wore tuxes that you'd expect to see at the Plaza. It was strange.

There was NO RECEPTION. There was a very strange, out of place cake cutting, and they were going to feed everyone cold burgers, but the MOG (my aunt, god bless her) pitched a huge fit about how no one would eat them. They had apparently BBQ'd them five hours earlier, and when we heard that, everyone made it clear they would not go through food poisoning over a lousy burger. The burgers were donated by the uncle of the bride, so it's not as if they lost money or anything. They were just being idiots.

They bride and groom quickly changed into warmer clothes that they had brought with them, while we were all shivering in our attire (there was a big cross-section of formality in the guests attire. I showed up in a nice halter-sundress, whereas the grandmother of the bride came in a windbreaker and muddy gumboots). They then proceeded to sit on the lawn and held an impromptu (at least it felt impromptu) gift opening, as if that was the reception. "Hey guys, thanks for driving miles and miles to see us get married. Now watch us open the presents you got us!". Yeah, klassy.

After the smarter of the guests hightailed it out of there and went back to the hotel, my aunt and uncle (the groom's parents) hosted us in a very last minute party in their room. They ordered pizza and we drank heavily and all had a good laugh (or cry, if you were my aunt) about the disaster that was my cousin's wedding. It quickly became apparent that my aunt and uncle had no part in planning this wedding. Apparently, the bride and her mom threw it together in about a month. It showed.

MyNameIsNot

I've seen some tacky and rude stuff, but the saddest thing would have to be my cousin's wedding.  Cousin's dad (FOG) was a raging alcoholic.  He was also addicted to a number of other things.  Anyway, it was a church ceremony.  About 15 minutes into the ceremony, FOG comes stumbling in late, trashed.  He walked all the way up the aisle to the front row, stopping to shake hands and point out to everyone "that's my son!".  He sat down right in front of us and turned around to greet my dad.  The ceremony stopped while everyone watched his production.  My cousin was mortified.  It was the saddest thing I've ever seen at a wedding.  He was asked not to come to the reception.  

LoveMuffins

LOL some of these make for amazing reading...

I think the worst one I ever went to was also one where no one thought the B&G should be getting married, which I'm pretty sure also contributed to the overall unhappiness of the day. There was a videographer wandering around trying to get all of us to talk about how happy we were for them, after months of listening to the bride bitch about the smallness of her ring, the fact that it wasn't a real diamond, that he chose gold metal instead of platinum and being pissy that his father hadn't given the groom control of his trust fund (which he was supposed to get control of at 21 and they were getting married at 18) because if they had the trust fund money then she'd be able to have the wedding she REALLY wanted... it was a struggle to come up with nice things to say and really annoying to constantly have the camera shoved in your face.

The reception was at 5pm, so they only served light hors d'eurves which, considering the reception went on for 4 hours was not ok. They had a veggie plate, a fruit plate and sandwhiches, all of which was generously provided by the bride's sister, which the bride made lots of snarky and bitter comments about under her breath to the rest of us because she didn't think it was good enough (which it wasn't but still, the bride hadn't paid for any of it and she'd been using her sister for slave labor - ie. day-of-coordinator, the poor girl wasn't even a bridesmaid). The location was a small "mansion" so everything was in separate rooms, and the room for dancing was in between where the food was set up and the room where the tables were set up, which was just bad logistics.

Also, by the end of the reception the bride was also planning her "real" wedding with all the changes she would be making in 3 years when her new husband finally got control of his trust fund. That or a big vow renewal at 10 years (which they didn't make it to) with all the things that make up a "real" wedding.

Ps. the groom did not get control of his trust fund at 21. Their divorce was finalized last month. On the other hand, they made it 2 years longer than anyone guessed in the betting pool that we started during the reception. Yeah, I know, we kinda sucked. But... yeah.

harpsdesire

I think I've posted before about a strange wedding I went to.  It wasn't actually that horrible, just... really strange...

For the following reasons.

1) Bride fist-pumped her way down the aisle to 'Eye of the Tiger'.
2) Cash bar meant that most people weren't drinking much, but the B&G got hammered as everyone kept buying them drinks
3)  They had karaoke for entertainment, which was monopolized by the visibly inebriated and musically-untalented groom.
4) Bride dragged a chair from a nearby table and gave the groom what was bascially a (fully clothed) lapdance on the middle of the dancefloor to 'Pour some Sugar on Me'.
5)  When they did the boquet toss, some pre-teen boy intercepted the boquet.  Okay, that was pretty cute, except that when an elderly male friend of the family caught the garter... they not only still made him put it on the boy's leg, but the groom was shouting for him to get it higher up for more luck!

I sort of had a good time watching the insanity.

knmd2012

My friend's wedding was REALLY tacky/rude. I was bothered by it at the time but didn't realize HOW ridiculous it was until I got engaged and started reading the boards here.

1. Registry info printed right on the invitation. To be fair, I had no idea this was even wrong before I looked at this web site because most invitations we get have registry info on them.

2.  Tiered reception. We were invited to the dance part of the reception only, not the ceremony or dinner.

3. WRISTBANDS for bridal party. Seriously. They had wristbands to indicate that they got free drinks from the cash bar and the rest of us suckers had to pay. This led to everyone leaving before 10:00 and the reception was supposed to go until midnight.

4. Dollar dance as a fundraiser for the honeymoon. We did not participate.

5. A groomsman got a DUI right outside of the parking lot and everyone at the reception ran out to watch him get arrested. The reception was 20 minutes from the hotel in an area with no cabs, and the bride did not arrange any type of shuttle/transportation. The groomsman ended up losing his job because of this conviction.

6. A really strange cowboy/seashell hybrid theme. Everyone in the bridal party (including bride and groom) wore cowboy boots, but there were seashells/starfish everywhere.

7. This isn't a huge faux pas, but the bridesmaid dresses did not work for the poor bridesmaids' body types. My friend was a bridesmaid and she has huge boobs, and the dresses were low cut halters. She had about 6" of cleavage out and felt really uncomfortable the entire night.

Ugh. It was BAD.

LittleMissCutiePie

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[QUOTE]My friend's wedding was REALLY tacky/rude. I was bothered by it at the time but didn't realize HOW ridiculous it was until I got engaged and started reading the boards here. 1. Registry info printed right on the invitation. To be fair, I had no idea this was even wrong before I looked at this web site because most invitations we get have registry info on them. 2.  Tiered reception. We were invited to the dance part of the reception only, not the ceremony or dinner. 3. WRISTBANDS for bridal party. Seriously. They had wristbands to indicate that they got free drinks from the cash bar and the rest of us suckers had to pay. This led to everyone leaving before 10:00 and the reception was supposed to go until midnight. 4. Dollar dance as a fundraiser for the honeymoon. We did not participate. 5. A groomsman got a DUI right outside of the parking lot and everyone at the reception ran out to watch him get arrested. The reception was 20 minutes from the hotel in an area with no cabs, and the bride did not arrange any type of shuttle/transportation. The groomsman ended up losing his job because of this conviction. 6. A really strange cowboy/seashell hybrid theme. Everyone in the bridal party (including bride and groom) wore cowboy boots, but there were seashells/starfish everywhere. 7. This<strong> isn't a huge faux pas</strong>, but the bridesmaid dresses did not work for the poor bridesmaids' body types. My friend was a bridesmaid and she has huge boobs, and the dresses were low cut halters. She had about 6" of cleavage out and felt really uncomfortable the entire night. Ugh. It was BAD.
Posted by knmd2012[/QUOTE]

Oh yes, that is. The bride should have been smart enough to get that not all women are the same size/shape. It's incredibly rude and passe to make your bridesmaids wear a dress they are not comfortable with. Either find a dress that can fit everyone comfortably, or give everyone the colour, fabric and length. But I'm sure you know that. If I was at that wedding, I would have considered that one of the biggest faux pas's of all.

Also, that DUI situation? Total bad mix of a) irresponsible drinking (nothing wrong with cutting loose, but if you're going to drive, don't drink) b) poor planning and c) cutting budget corners. Shuttling services are a small price to pay for people's safety. Your friend sounds like a real class act. I would have definitely spoken to her later about her rudeness.

scrpio421

This is some entertaining stuff. 
 I show up as a plus one (of my now fiance) in a nice dress and he's in a suit, everyone else is in cut offs, wifebeater tank tops and sneakers. Luckily we were staying overnight nearby, thankfully we had back up clothing. So we changed into jeans and t-shirts to fit in.
 No apps, only water to drink (no bar), but the bridal party did shots with nips they brought.
The bridal party changed into pajamas (seriously I'm not lying) after the pictures were done. The bride had booty shorts on that said "BRIDE" on the butt. They did so many shots that the bride and groom were trashed about an 1/2 hour into the reception and throwing up the entire night. She couldn't even stand up on her own, I just met her and became a crutch so she could walk to go flirt with the best man.

There was a tractor pull at the reception for the cocktail hour that you could take a ride in an upside-down truck cap. They accidently lost a kid out the side and then ran him over with the second truck cap. He was scratched up, but ok. 

So this is his cousin and quite a few of the guests will also be at our wedding. I'm a little afraid!

lilja032

I went to a wedding two weeks ago which honest to god had goldfish centre pieces (see attached picture), was held in a school gymnasium (because they wanted to self-cater and all the other venues they looked at required them to use the in-house caterer) with bows hanging from the basketball hoops and was BYO alcohol. And the registry included a fish tank. For the goldfish centrepieces.

 Brilliant.

Ali092011

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[QUOTE]I went to a wedding two weeks ago which honest to god had goldfish centre pieces (see attached picture), was held in a school gymnasium (because they wanted to self-cater and all the other venues they looked at required them to use the in-house caterer) with bows hanging from the basketball hoops and was BYO alcohol. <strong>And the registry included a fish tank. For the goldfish centrepieces.</strong>  Brilliant.
Posted by lilja032[/QUOTE]

Wow. At least they didn't expect guests to bring them home... I guess?

knmd2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What's the worst wedding you ever attended? : Oh yes, that is. The bride should have been smart enough to get that not all women are the same size/shape. It's incredibly rude and passe to make your bridesmaids wear a dress they are not comfortable with. Either find a dress that can fit everyone comfortably, or give everyone the colour, fabric and length. <strong>But I'm sure you know that.</strong> If I was at that wedding, I would have considered that one of the biggest faux pas's of all. Also, that DUI situation? Total bad mix of a) irresponsible drinking (nothing wrong with cutting loose, but if you're going to drive, don't drink) b) poor planning and c) cutting budget corners. Shuttling services are a small price to pay for people's safety. <strong>Your friend sounds like a real class act. I would have definitely spoken to her later about her rudeness.</strong>
Posted by LittleMissCutiePie[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I definitely know it's bad! I just thought that ettiquette-wise, other things trumped it. At my wedding, the girls are all getting custom made black cocktail dresses of their choosing, any design they want as long as they're knee length. The same girl in the example is one of my bridesmaids and she's so happy to have the option of a modest neckline and straps!

The image of the bride running out to watch the groomsman get arrested is stuck in my brain forever, so we're definitely paying for shuttle services after our open bar reception :)

I never said anything to my friend since honestly, I didn't even know half this stuff was wrong until after I was engaged. We've been to many weddings with at least a partial cash bar, registry info on the invitation, some variation of the dollar dance, etc, and the tiered reception didn't bother us much since we were surprised to even be invited- I just knew the bride as a friend of my poor friend the cleavage-y bridesmaid. I knew for sure that the wristbands were messed up though.That one was pretty obvious.

andrea2473

I guess the worst one I attended was this past June.  It was a former co-worker of mine and H's and we weren't very close anymore so we were going to decline.  We heard from a good friend (who was also a BM) that the bride was bummed about all of the 'no's' she was getting, so we decided to go.  It was about an hour away so we carpooled with a couple of friends and brought a nice gift from their registry.   Once seated, we sat there for an hour.  In the sun.  In the lawn next to the beach.  In southern North Carolina.  IN JUNE.   It was excruciatingly hot.   The reason for the delay?  The bride had gotten in a fight with her sister (MOH) and kicked her and her daughter (FG) out of the wedding.  She 'luckily' had her sisters dress with her, so she had our friend's (the BM) roommate step in and be a bridesmaid.  We had all worked together at some point but those two were NEVER friends so it was really weird and awkward.  The delay was because they called someone in at the last minute to be the flower girl.  I'm not even kidding.  I don't even know who it was, but we seriously sat there for an hour in the sun waiting on a replacement flower girl.  

The bride looked gorgeous and luckily the ceremony was about 5 minutes long so we didn't have to wait much longer to move over to the tent.  Unfortunately, the food had been ready for an hour and it showed.

Oh, and they had beta fish centerpieces. Which is normally a bad idea, but don't forget that we were outside in the heat to boot.  And a drunk BM put two in one vase.

We never got a thank you note. 

Redeeming factors:
Open Bar (THANK GOODNESS)
The DJ doubled as an awkward saxophone player during cocktail hour so our carpooling buddies, H and I got a big kick out of laughing at that while we quickly imbibed to make up for lost time. 

HobokensFury

I guess the worst wedding I ever went to was a shotgun wedding.  The bride bawled her eyes out all morning about not wanting to get married.  But that's nothing compared to some of the weddings you ladies have been to.