S-S-S-STRESS

BiggieandLittle

Um, so, you know that saying that trouble comes in threes? In my case, I think stress does, too.

1. Wedding. 'Nuff said.
2. My little sister getting married two months after my wedding (to a convicted criminal who's currently in jail), and having a baby with said convict.
3. A terrible (TERRIBLE) job that I'm currently in the process of quitting.

Anybody else having troubles? I think a little company in my misery would be nice!

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naomikb

My recommendation is a glass (or maybe a bottle) of wine.

(Then, make a list of things you have left to do for your wedding, delegate 50% of that list to your FI/someone else, call your sister to tell her you love her, and submit your notice for your job!)

BrittneyRN

I'm currently waiting another 8 days to see if FI loses his job and we have to cancel the wedding.

Blueyeddramatix

I am currently working 2 jobs, one is bearable, the other, was for extra wedding money (retail... shoot me in the face retail) my brother is married to a no good house wife who doesn't ever clean her house and now has e-coli... when you live in filth you get sick! *sigh* not a convict, but I know what its like to not like who  your sibling is with. And always...wedding stuff... I hope you can move on from your job, sometimes things take a while to get better. Also, PP, I hope he doesn't loose his job, That is a terrible thing. Why would you have to cancel the wedding? Couldn't you just do a backyard small wedding? Or do  you want something particular?

RailWayWife

After work tonight, Have a glass of wine, a bubble bath and make a list of what you still have to do. I know if I can see everything I have to do in a list format my stress levels go down and I can start checking things off my "To Do" List.

BrittneyRN

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_s-s-s-stress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:8bfe015a-f2b4-496f-b7fb-226051b0b9d4Post:924fafe0-d3c3-44f8-8003-a4e0870a139d">Re: S-S-S-STRESS</a>:
[QUOTE]I am currently working 2 jobs, one is bearable, the other, was for extra wedding money (retail... shoot me in the face retail) my brother is married to a no good house wife who doesn't ever clean her house and now has e-coli... when you live in filth you get sick! *sigh* not a convict, but I know what its like to not like who  your sibling is with. And always...wedding stuff... I hope you can move on from your job, sometimes things take a while to get better. Also, PP, I hope he doesn't loose his job, That is a terrible thing. Why would you have to cancel the wedding? Couldn't you just do a backyard small wedding? Or do  you want something particular?
Posted by Blueyeddramatix[/QUOTE]

We would have to do something very small. I wouldn't want to spend all our savings on a wedding. We both make about the same money so it would be cutting our salary in half, and I'm lucky I can afford all our bills but we won't be able to save any.

blgrout

Lots of stress, mostly from wedding and holidays, but lately I've had the added bonus of bull sh** work stress too.
And...now I have mono, and that caused my lupus to flare up.  So I feel like crap and have for about 3 weeks now, which sucks. 


Misery loves company.

Take a bubble bath and drink some wine.  It does wonders.

RailWayWife

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_s-s-s-stress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:8bfe015a-f2b4-496f-b7fb-226051b0b9d4Post:85cc8137-0d09-484d-b862-9dcb72df1431">Re: S-S-S-STRESS</a>:
[QUOTE]Why is the response to stress always alcohol on these boards?  What is it with promoting alcohol use as a way to cope?  That's not a healthy coping technique at all.
Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]



I was simply suggesting what works for me. If I am stressed I like to RELAX with a glass of wine and a bubble bath. If you have another suggestion go ahead and add it.

J&K10910

Using alcohol to deal with your problems is called a "drinking problem."

I suggest finding a healthy way to cope with your stress, OP.  First, take things that you can't control out of the equation (your sister's situation is unfortunate, but there's nothing you can do about it, so there's no sense in focusing your energy on it).  Deal with the things you can (make sure you're doing what you need to do for your wedding and quitting your job), and then find a healthy way to relax the rest of the time.

Exercise, puzzles, hot showers or baths, talking to a friend, doing creative things, etc, are all good things to try.

RailWayWife

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_s-s-s-stress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:8bfe015a-f2b4-496f-b7fb-226051b0b9d4Post:fb93d03a-6f47-4cc9-b8ef-9c549836ffcb">Re: S-S-S-STRESS</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S-S-S-STRESS : My point regarding using alcohol as a coping technique still stands.  It's unhealthy.  The fact that you do it to relax doesn't change the fact that it's an unhealthy coping mechanism. My suggestion to the OP would to to work on her problems, not drown them in a bottle of wine.  She should start working on solutions to the problems she can fix and working on healthy ways to cope with the problems she can't. <strong>And I'm sorry that you seem to think my post was directed at you.</strong>  It wasn't.  Drowning your sorrows in a bottle of wine is the go-to suggestion pretty much across the board on the knot.
Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]


Dont be sorry. I was simply explaining my post. I will re word it for you.



Drink what ever you like. Apple Juice, Milk, Water. I dont really care. Then take a warm bubble bath and try making a list. Once I can see exactly what I have to do written out on paper it usually reduces my stress levels.  Good Luck!

murtleturtle

Eat chocolate! Works for me Or popcorn...

soon2bmrsdaniel

Well I am sort of in the same situation!!!

1. Wedding (Like you, enough said)

2. Senior in college graduating 1 month before the wedding

3. A horrible job that I can't afford to quit and work about 45 hours a week..

I can't wait to be done with everything! I am in need of a serious stress reducing massage