I need opinions on if I am being overly sensitive about my mother-in-laws behavior.
When I first got engaged my FMIL sent me a nice card and a congratulations email, she was very sweet. She offered to throw us an engagement party and wanted to know every detail of the wedding. When she realized that I am not converting to Catholicism and having a Catholic wedding (like her other DIL did) she completely changed her tone with me. She has mentioned several times to my fiance and I that our wedding will not be "sacred" and she doesn't believe how people who are not Catholic get married. My fiance is an athiest so our lack of having a religious ceremony should not come as a shock to her.
Since we are not having her dream wedding she has never again mentioned an Engagement Party. I am not the type of person that thinks people need to throw parties for us but she threw an engagement party, a bridal shower, and planned and payed for the whole rehearsal dinner for my SIL. When I asked her to if she was interested in helping plan the rehearsal dinner (she told me she loved planning the rehearsal dinner for her other DIL) she declined to help plan mine saying that it would cause her too much stress. Then she implied to my fiance that I wanted her to pay for it (so not true, we have a budget and it is being paid for by my parents.)
I am starting to feel really bad about everything. My FMIL always talks about how great her DILs wedding was and how she loved being so involved in the whole planning process. She also has told me lies about her DILs wedding, she claimed her DIL had peonies as her flower, because that is my FMILs favorite flower, but that is not true because I saw the pictures and they had roses!
It is getting to the point that I want to say something to let her know that I am hurt by her actions but I am guessing this is probably not very wise. My fiance tells me to not let it bother me because she can be crazy but I don't think it is realistic for it to not bother me.
Am I being overly sensitive?