Date Dilema

jules0505

I've always wanted a fall wedding at our family farm. August is too hot, and the fields (the background scenery) will be harvested starting October 1. The only available date in September without a scheduling conflict is September 11. No one in our family was directly affected in this tragedy, but it is a tragedy nonetheless. Should I go with this date or reschedule for another time of year? I am so torn. Anyone else using this date?

goheels05

I don't see a problem with it.  9/11 is always going to be sad and a period of rememberance, but that doesn't mean you can't have happy celebrations on that day, too. 

Think of it this way, people get married on Memorial Day weekend every year.  I think it's fine.

liz745

There was already a thread on this in the just engaged/proposals section. But anyways, I dont see a problem with it. But you will get lots of people who tell you that you shouldnt do it or that they wouldnt do it.

Although something horrible happened on that day in the past that does not mean that we cannot have joy on that day in the future.

However, if you or your FI knew people who died on that day it might not be appropriate. For example, When my FI and I were looking at wedding dates, April 20 came up because it would work for us, however he is from littleton, CO and was very much affected by the Columbine Shootings (his parents live behind the school) but that doesnt mean that we think no one should get married on that day.

I wouldnt have a moment of silence during your wedding either. Weddings are supposed to be happy, keep it that way. But if the negativity bothers you alot then you could consider adjusting your date

goheels05

She already said that no one in her or FI's family was directly affected by the tragedy.

Also, not everyone checks every board, so she probably didn't see the thread on Just Engaged.

jeannigirl

That was a horrible day in history. Does life stop on that day heaven forbid their would be not marriages or births because of the tragedy. You should have your wedding whatever day and year you want it.

Ignore the comments from people who would tell you that you shouldn't get married on that day. Your guests can choose to come or not and no I wouldn't do a moment of silence has this is a joyful day. Don't make it into some memorial.

coreybride127

I think it would be fine.

liz745

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_date-dilema?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:8f2327fd-e748-486f-ae75-4c3d1d38e220Post:9cb893c3-1bf3-4276-9d28-8eda7c81c01e">Re: Date Dilema</a>:
[QUOTE]She already said that no one in her or FI's family was directly affected by the tragedy. Also, not everyone checks every board, so she probably didn't see the thread on Just Engaged.
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]

Yeah i realize that, i told her so she could go check out what ppl said there

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If you that's the date that works for you, I would say go ahead. Really and truly, something tragic happens every day somewhere in the world.