I need advice on the wedding colors.

bellamartinez1525

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I need advice on the wedding colors. : If its just immediate family (parents, siblings), I think it could be fine but seriously, do not tell ANYONE at this point that you want them in your wedding party, you just don't know (please lurk the WP board for proof of that).
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

<div>Alright then. Thank you for your help/suggestions/advice. I'll bring it down a whole notch and just enjoy being engaged and young. 
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nda_roxybabe

You're welcome. Enjoy it You have lots and lots of time.

forrma7

you lost me after zoot suits...

BecW2be

Dear God,

Thank you for letting this poster be someone else's 18yr old and not mine. Amen.

colsta

"Dear God,

Thank you for letting this poster be someone else's 18yr old and not mine. Amen."

She does seem like an awfully mature 18 year old though. She's just really excited but still has her feet on the ground. She even took all the advice with grace. I think I will be thrilled if I have an 18 year old girl this mature, actually.

Now of course, if I have a daughter, she's not even dating until she's 21.

trix1223

One of my DDs was a very mature 18 year old.  Very.  But I would have been devastated if she were engaged within weeks of her HS education.

I also know that HAD she gotten engaged to the guy she was in love with at 18, who we all adored, it would not have lasted anyway.  She's a completely different woman than she was at 18.

Going away to college, experiencing living on her own, life on her own, making her own decisions~for good or bad~all contributed to the person she is now at age 24.

I'm not saying that the relationship in the OP can't work.  I'm just thinking that it's going to take an awful lot of work, understanding, and flexibility for it to get to a point where they're ready to be married.

BecW2be

Everything trix just said. Being mature =/= developing yourself as an adult and experiencing growth. The quickest way to kill personl growth is to settle down too early. Believe me, I lived it.

bellamartinez1525

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[QUOTE]"Dear God, Thank you for letting this poster be someone else's 18yr old and not mine. Amen." She does seem like an awfully mature 18 year old though. She's just really excited but still has her feet on the ground. She even took all the advice with grace. I think I will be thrilled if I have an 18 year old girl this mature, actually. Now of course, if I have a daughter, she's not even dating until she's 21.
Posted by colsta[/QUOTE]

<div>Thank you for stepping up for me. I appreciate that. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-cool.gif" border="0" alt="Cool" title="Cool" /> </div>

bellamartinez1525

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[QUOTE]Everything trix just said. Being mature =/= developing yourself as an adult and experiencing growth. The quickest way to kill personl growth is to settle down too early. Believe me, I lived it.
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

<div>I understand that there are many reasonable perspectives from older women as to WHY an 18-year-old shouldn't be engaged or anything like that. But you have to realize that it's kind of wrong to just assume that it'll take a lot of work or bring up stories that painted a bad ending by marrying the person you were engaged at a young age, etc. It's EASY to look at the negativity within statistics or what not. I don't let myself fall into stress, resentment, negative thoughts..and so on. I understand that there will be many situations that won't be a walk in the park, but I am VERY open to do the best that I can, work things out, and strive for the best. Small, unexpected situations that have bad results will not stop me from having what I want to experience in my life. I am willing to accept my mistakes and take care of my responsibilities. In other words, if I want something for MY future, I am not giving up. Positivity is important to experience in my life. Not the horrific consequences that other people have experienced. Just because they COULD'VE gotten into a huge mess, does not mean it has to be applied towards ME or other young girls. There are many, many other women who are in their 30's or wtvr that STILL can't handle relationships. I think you just have to really hear what the person has to say for her part rather than judge a simple question that she asked.</div>

M1ssJ

Bella- you've got a LOT ahead of you in the next four years. Just getting through undergrad is hard enough. Buy a 3 inch binder and dividers from wal mart. Divide it into different sections- dress, flowers, venue, favors,etc. And as the ladies said collect ideas over the next few years.  In 2 years you'll be a junior in a undergrad and probably pretty broke, when you start planning for real you'll save someof those ideas and throw some out, it'll calm your need to plan know and give you a litte edge for when you start to actually plan.

Good luck!

bellamartinez1525

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[QUOTE]Bella- you've got a LOT ahead of you in the next four years. Just getting through undergrad is hard enough. Buy a 3 inch binder and dividers from wal mart. Divide it into different sections- dress, flowers, venue, favors,etc. And as the ladies said collect ideas over the next few years.  In 2 years you'll be a junior in a undergrad and probably pretty broke, when you start planning for real you'll save someof those ideas and throw some out, it'll calm your need to plan know and give you a litte edge for when you start to actually plan. Good luck!
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<div><img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /> Thank you; I like the idea. I'm waiting for my job so I can save a lot of money for college and future wedding. So far, I'm picking up a lot of change and putting them into a jar and placing them in those coin holders. I am going to exchange em for cash. I have $100 in change and wish to save more. Anything to help me pay for college.</div>

kdwhitley

I agree. get a scrap book and collect different styles it would be a good keepsake for the future. I actually made a powerpoint presentation. From the time of our engagement till now (3 weeks till) I have changed wedding colors 3 times, venues twice, and even my bridesmaids have changed from the original 5 from relationships going sour or people moving to far away. things do change. look at styles of wedding gowns (i.e. mermaid, ball gown) but dont look at getting one right now. Especially if your going to do designer. They go out of production every year and half. and the best advice... SAVE EVERY PENNY. weddings are not cheap. Since you have so long put back everything you can.

kdwhitley

Bella,
You are very mature for your age. Do not let someone put you down about being engaged at 18. I met my fiance when I was 18 years old and knew that day he was the man I was going to marry. You are right its not walk in the park. When you know you know and as a believer in Christ if that is the man God has selected for you then it will work out. There will be bumps in the road. My fiance and I have had ours. But its all worth it knowing I am going to be his forever and he is the one God prepared for me. falling in love and getting married at a young age is not a bad thing. My grandmother got married at 16 years old, my grandfather 21 (not because she was pregnant even though my mom was born 9 months to the day of their wedding night :S). They have been married for almost 47 years. It is possible. My best friend got married at 19. They are madly in love never fight... its almost quite sickening with their lovey doveyness. You cant stand to be in the room. lol. they have been married for 3 years now. I wish you the best of luck and again never let anyone put you down. If you feel in your heart that he is the one and can see a future with him go for it especially since you seem to understand it wont be an easy path... I wish you the best of luck!