trouble getting motivated/excited...

mandi195

Long story short:
Engaged since October, planning for 2014 (no idea on date yet) wedding.
Found out early December that I was pregnant almost 2 months, so obviously that became the focus and wedding got put on the back burner for right now, as financially we cannot afford to prepare for a child and plan a wedding at the same time.
We found out a few days ago that we lost the baby, which we are finding ways to deal with reasonably well, despite the obvious devastation.
I've tried to get myself excited about wedding planning again, and to sort of distract myself with that, but I feel so disinterested. I know I'm early in the grieving process, but I guess I was just hoping that the excitement from the wedding could help me get out of this funk, and I feel stuck. Anyone gone through anything similar and have any advice?

Dreamergirl8812

I'm so sorry to here that. That's terrible. I would give it time. When you're grieving you sometimes feel guilty for being happy. These are separate events: when you've recovered from your loss, THEN start planning the wedding.

mandi195

thank you. I kind of know you're right, and felt that on some level; I guess I just really wanted something to be excited about, and right now I just feel like a zombie; I'm so numb to everything.
Thank you for the kind words and suggestion to wait until I'm through this.

Weezy56

Don't rush it. Proceed with your planning when you and your fiance feel ready.

I'm very sorry your loss.

lls31

I can't imagine what you're going through - I am so very sorry for your loss.

I would say just take some time to grieve.  You have plenty of time to plan your wedding.  

While I haven't been in your shoes, I have dealt with loss of family members and friends.  I would recommend getting out and doing things.  Personally, my normal reaction to loss (or any negative events) would be to curl up in a ball on my couch and do nothing.  But I honestly think that makes things worse. 

mandi195

Thank you. I appreciate the sentiment and advice.

HobokensFury

So sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need to before jumping back into wedding planning.

mandi195

Thanks for sharing, and I'm sorry for your loss, as well.
I don't know that there is any great advice for situations like these, but I appreciate the kind words, support, and knowing I'm not alone in feeling underwhelmed and without excitement for my wedding during this time.

mandi195

Thank you, ladies. Your words help, each in their own way. I appreciate it.

jennylee813

I'm sorry for your loss, and agree with PPs. Take some time and you'll be ready to plan the wedding soon.

I can't imagine what you're going through right now. I'm not going to offer any cliches, but will say that there's lots of support here if you need it. 

mandi195

thank you.