How do I uninvite a guest?

mmadad

We used to be close and I sent her and her long time boyfriend a save the date.  She has drifted from me and has had several falling outs with other friends of ours.  Our wedding is VERY SMALL because we only invited the people closest to us and we are not close to them at all.  In fact, she is currently not on speeking terms with a few of my close friends.  I need to know how to go about not inviting them.  I know the best thing to do is to talk to her about it but I know she will not be cool about it.  Any advise will be much appreciated. 

SarahPLiz

To be the bigger person, and avoid stooping to her level (rude), you have to send her an invite. If y'all aren't close and she no longer likes your friends, chances are she will not come anyway.

redheadfsu

You sent a save the date so you need to invite her. Sorry. Hopefully she will check not attending.

mmadad

Thanks for the feedback.  I don't want to be rude but I know she will not decline.  She recently attended a Christmas party with essentially the same people and made everyone uncomfortable.  There was a gift exchange and she threw what she got back at the person who gave it to her.  We are not kids.  We are in our 30's and that is not acceptable.  I guess I have to send the invite and cross my fingers.  I should have listened to my fiance and waited on sending out the save-the-dates. 

tidetravel

Your wedding isn't for another 6 months.  Worry about this when you actually send the invites.  Relationships can change in that amount of time.

Also, if your wedding is small and you're only inviting people "close" to you, then she must have been close enough to you recently to have warranted an invite in the first place.  If there has been a dramatic personality change, then something is probably going on in her life.  Put your wedding on the back burner, be a friend, and talk to her - about her life, not your wedding.

mmadad

You are absolutly right.  We were very close and there is something going on in her life.  I have reached out to her, that's why we were close. 

duckie1905

If you sent her a save-the-date then you must send her an invite.  

But, you have lots of time for things/feelings to change.  You won't be sending invites out for another few months.

keegzzz

Yes, definitely give it time.

I agree that you still have to send an invite, but hopefully by then it won't be as awkward.

I had a falling-out with one of my bridesmaids a few months ago & was freaking out about how it would affect my wedding. It took 6 months, but we patched everything up. I guess it helps having a long engagement, too.

526SadieSadie

I know what it's like to have a friend that nobody else likes, but if the others really care about you, they'll make the effort to get along with her for your sake.  Good Luck!