just a vent

ginabean82

my shower was last weekend.  Let me tell you, I really really hate writing out thank you cards.  I have over 40 of them to do and only have done 15.  It's frustrating.  My hand writng is sloppy, and I keep messing up.  Also my skin is disgustingly dry, my hair disgustingly frizzy, I just lost my job, and am getting married in a month and have lost all interest in finishing planning for it.  I can't wait until everything is over.  

How is everyone else?

Avion22

I feel you pain!   I wrote out THREE thank-you cards for random gifts people sent before the wedding, and it completely drained me.  I can't imagine doing 40!    I just hate how they all sounds the same... "Thank you so much for the lovely sheets!"  (of course we think they're lovely, we registered for them).  "We can't wait to start using them." (erm, tmi?)   "Looking forward to seeing you at the wedding in a few weeks!" (of course we are, we invited you!).

[Deleted User]

Bitching about the amount of thank you notes that you have to write is excessively asshole-ish.

emarston1

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[QUOTE]I feel you pain!   <strong>I wrote out THREE thank-you cards for random gifts people sent before the wedding, and it completely drained me</strong>.  I can't imagine doing 40!    I just hate how they all sounds the same... "Thank you so much for the lovely sheets!"  (of course we think they're lovely, we registered for them).  "We can't wait to start using them." (erm, tmi?)   "Looking forward to seeing you at the wedding in a few weeks!" (of course we are, we invited you!).
Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]
Seriously?  It was 3 thank you cards, not 300.

I guess I never understood all the complaints.  I had about 50 to do and I knocked them out in two nights while watching TV.  It's really not that big of a deal.  And who cares if they sound the same?  You're not sending them to the same people so once you have a template of what to write, they go by extremely quickly.

AdeleDazeem

Thank you notes linger...  After I finished most of them, pushed a few off on my husband and finally packed the cards away, we got more gifts!  I think I wrote my last one four months after the wedding.

Nindakay

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[QUOTE]my shower was last weekend.  Let me tell you, I really really hate writing out thank you cards.  I have over 40 of them to do and only have done 15.  It's frustrating.  My hand writng is sloppy, and I keep messing up.  Also my skin is disgustingly dry, my hair disgustingly frizzy, I just lost my job, and am getting married in a month and have lost all interest in finishing planning for it.  I can't wait until everything is over.   How is everyone else?
Posted by ginabean82[/QUOTE]

Somehow I have a feeling this is about more than sticky notes!  I'm so sorry you just lost our job!  I've been there before (not just before the wedding, but still....).  I know that adds so much stress.  Think of it as a way to get some extra stuff done. Take a step back and look at the big piture.  You are GETTING MARRIED in just over a month!!  Take some time to celebrate!!  Hugs!

mhogberg

This last summer I went to a shower, about two months before the wedding, and didn't get a TY until about 4 MONTHS after the wedding.  Can you say rude. I was talking to my FI about this the other day and I told him that the TY notes is the one thing I will make a big deal over b/c if we can't find the time to get them done in a timely matter then there is no use doing the wedding, we could just as well eloped.

Eli Rangel

I agree with the importance of thank you notes, specially knowing that people took the time to buy a gift for you and showed up to your shower. However, I too agree with Nindakay and do feel bad for ginabean82 about losing her job. Planning a wedding is so stressful as it is and just think adding losing your job to this? I'm so sorry to hear about this ginabean82. As tough as it seems try to enjoy the last of your single girl days and think that all of this will soon be over. Also, include your FI when writing out thank you cards. Do it while you both watch tv like emarston1 suggested, or make it a fun night in while listening to your favorite music in the background and a glass of wine. Good luck!

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]Bitching about the amount of thank you notes that you have to write is excessively asshole-ish.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

Agreed.

OP, why don't you just return the gifts if it's that much of a pain in the ass to write out a thank you card to the people who took their time and money to buy you something.

I get that you're having a hard time, but seriously, to vent your frustrations to TY cards is beyond petty and silly. If anything, that would be something I'd look forward to if I were in a down and out mood. People gave you a gift. Be happy about it.

ginabean82

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[QUOTE]Ditto cew and emarston.  If you don't want to write thank you notes, don't have a shower.  Suck it up. I did ten a night after the shower/wedding and got them done in two weeks.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>For your information, I didn't want a shower.  My mom threw me a surprise one.  I kept telling her not to waste her time doing it, and if she really wanted to do it, I wanted to know about it and only wanted her to invite like 20 people. </div>

sparent2010

ZoeLastrange

I sympathize with your bad mood... I guess it has more to do with wedding anxiety, loosing your job, probably stressing about money than the TY cards themselves.... and I see that you just don't feel cheery enough to write some happy messages.... I get it..... Hang in there, it will pass, and try to find enough strength to go through thr TY cards, because people are looking forward to recieving them....

ginabean82

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just a vent : Agreed. OP, why don't you just return the gifts if it's that much of a pain in the ass to write out a thank you card to the people who took their time and money to buy you something. I get that you're having a hard time, but seriously, to vent your frustrations to TY cards is beyond petty and silly. If anything, that would be something I'd look forward to if I were in a down and out mood. People gave you a gift. Be happy about it.
Posted by NcsuPsych[/QUOTE]<div>
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 To be honest, you dont know me and my situation at all so stop passing judgement.  To be honest I didn't want a shower, or a big wedding.  I would have be happy to just elope.  Our families talked us into all this, which is why Im bitching.  Yes I am happy these people got us gifts and that these people took the time our of their lives to come to my shower, but when I am in this bad of a mood the last thing I want to do is write thank you cards.  I understand that thank you cards are necessary, and I plan to get them out less than a week after my shower (which is better than most people do), but I can still complain. My finance wont help with a single thing, and I am doing everything for this wedding, a wedding I didn't even want, and I am just in the worst mood ever.  On top of all this, I loose job and trying to contact the unemployment office is nearly impossible so I havent gotten a paycheck in two weeks.  I am more concerned about how Im going to pay my rent and bills this month, and these thank you cards, and this wedding are just getting in the way.  </div>

ginabean82

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[QUOTE]Bitching about the amount of thank you notes that you have to write is excessively asshole-ish.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>You don't know me so why dont you go back to your perfect little life, and let me bitch about mine.  </div>

ginabean82

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[QUOTE]Oh your poor dear and your TY notes. First world problems sure do suck all the enjoyment out of life.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]<div>
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  Can't tell if this is sarcastic.  And what are first world problems???</div>

ginabean82

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just a vent : Why didn't you turn down the shower?
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>It was a surprise.  I didn't know about it.  </div>

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: just a vent :  To be honest, you dont know me and my situation at all so stop passing judgement.  To be honest I didn't want a shower, or a big wedding.  I would have be happy to just elope.  Our families talked us into all this, which is why Im bitching.  Yes I am happy these people got us gifts and that these people took the time our of their lives to come to my shower, but when I am in this bad of a mood the last thing I want to do is write thank you cards.  I understand that thank you cards are necessary, and I plan to get them out less than a week after my shower (which is better than most people do), but I can still complain. My finance wont help with a single thing, and I am doing everything for this wedding, a wedding I didn't even want, and I am just in the worst mood ever.  On top of all this, I loose job and trying to contact the unemployment office is nearly impossible so I havent gotten a paycheck in two weeks.  <span style="font-weight:bold;">I am more concerned about how </span>Im<span style="font-weight:bold;"> going to pay my rent and bills this month, and these thank you cards, and this wedding are just getting in the way.  </span>
Posted by ginabean82[/QUOTE]

Oh yeah, I'm totally full of judgement. That's exactly what the issue here is.

You know, if you didnt want the shower, and big wedding theres a simple solution. You turn them down.

Go for a run or do something good for someone else. It's proven that exercise helps reduce stress and puts people in better moods. It's also proven that doing good for others makes one feel better about themselves.

I get that your 'in a really bad mood', but really, TY cards are the least of your worries and coming back here to bitch to others and defend yourself in regards to others reactions in only going to make you fall into an even worse mood. You're simply feeding the fire at the moment. So I suggest you step away, and go do something productive instead of claiming that all these people are judging you. Whining on TK isn't going to help pay your bills.

Eli Rangel

All I can say now is WOW... ILoveMilkDuds is right, I mean if you don't want people commenting on your life, then why even "vent" here in the first place? Plus you don't have to be rude. I mean, telling other people that they're obese and that they should lose some weight, really? You are complaining about people and how rude they are but you are just not helping with your comments. With your tremendous negativy is IMPOSSIBLE to even help you. No one's life is perfect, but just because we are not "venting" it here like you are does not mean we are free of problems. So please, stop feeling bad about yourself. Stop crying because you are receiving the opportunity to the man you want to marry, which now I don't even think that's true based on your comment where you mentioned that you didn't even want a wedding in the first place. Now I feel bad for your FI! Are you doing HIM a favor now by marrying him??? Also, if you really didn't want a wedding and you let your parents and in-laws or whoever it was, talk you into having a wedding... why were you such a push over?