Is it weird?

chelsy31588

My FI and I will be married next fall, he wants to start looking for houses, in 2013. I have no desire to look for a house that soon! We've been together for 8 years, going on 9 next April and have been living together in apartments. We just moved back to our hometown this January after graduating from college, and found a really great cheap place and I love it. He hates the idea of throwing money away for an apartment and I feel like buying a house is so permanent especially because I'm not sure I want to live in this town for the rest of my life. We basically returned becasue of family, friends and really good job market. I also have a good amount of school loans he however has none, that is one of the reasons I feel like I can't/shouldn't look at getting a house soon. Am I just being silly about not wanting a house? We are only 23!

jesslca113

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[QUOTE]My FI and I will be married next fall, he wants to start looking for houses, in 2013. I have no desire to look for a house that soon! We've been together for 8 years, going on 9 next April and have been living together in apartments. We just moved back to our hometown this January after graduating from college, and found a really great cheap place and I love it. He hates the idea of throwing money away for an apartment and I feel like buying a house is so permanent especially because <strong>I'm not sure I want to live in this town for the rest of my life</strong>. We basically returned<strong> becasue of family, friends and really good job market</strong>. I also have a good amount of school loans he however has none, that is one of the reasons I feel like I can't/shouldn't look at getting a house soon. Am I just being silly about not wanting a house? We are only 23!
Posted by chelsy31588[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>So you don't know if you want to live there the rest of your life, but do you know what your FI wants?  Does he want to stay there?  And if you moved back because of family, friends and a good job market what would make you leave?!  Those are 3 huge positives in life!  And the way the housing and job market are these days you have a huge blessing on your hands that you have everything in one town.  I'd talk it over with your FI because from the outside your hometown sounds great!  </div><div>
</div><div>I moved out of my hometown and never thought I would return.  Then I met my FI and that's where he lived.  We now own 2 homes (due to not being able to sell) and we are incredibly happy to being living among our friends and family.  Things change so quickly you might find yourself being content in your hometown.</div>

fluttaby32

im in a similar situation- my only advice is communicate and be honest. also realize that both of you should be willing to compromise. basically- just make sure you both know how the other feels. he wont (shouldnt) put you in a place you really dont want to be in.

chelsy31588

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[QUOTE]In Response to Is it weird? : So you don't know if you want to live there the rest of your life, but do you know what your FI wants?  Does he want to stay there?  And if you moved back because of family, friends and a good job market what would make you leave?!  Those are 3 huge positives in life!  And the way the housing and job market are these days you have a huge blessing on your hands that you have everything in one town.  I'd talk it over with your FI because from the outside your hometown sounds great!   I moved out of my hometown and never thought I would return.  Then I met my FI and that's where he lived.  We now own 2 homes (due to not being able to sell) and we are incredibly happy to being living among our friends and family.  Things change so quickly you might find yourself being content in your hometown.
Posted by jesslca113[/QUOTE]

Holy cow I just looked at where you are from and we lived in Toledo for a year! Ohio right? haha that's too funny. Where I live is great, but very expensive, only way to get in or out is boat or plane, small city of only 35,000 so not a lot of options. Plus I'm in Alaska so weather isn't always optimal!

I guess it feels like I'm limiting myself to other options by settling down in one place!

jesslca113

Good ole Toledo!  I actually live in a small town outside of Toledo, but I work in the city.  We're either known for violence or Cedar Point!  haha!

I just say talk to your fiance about it and either way start saving some money just incase.  Then you'll be prepared if something sneaks up on you!