Which vendors if any should I use that my big sister is using 6 months before?

rockandroll322

Long story short, my sister and my wedding is a little more than 6 months apart and I'm worried that it will be compared by friends and family.  My sister has found great deals on her dj, photographer, florist, minister, etc. and has offered to introduce me to them.  I want a different vibe and again I don't want it to be compared to hers.  We're doing it at different places - is that enough?

I'm also worried that she'll be able to steal spotlight by saying "that was my photographer, etc"  <--- I hope that wasn't too blunt, but does that happen?  We don't have the best relationship and she said no to being my maid of honor because she is planning on being pregnant shortly after shes married, does that change the situation?

Thanks so much!

HobokensFury

Honestly I don't think anyone is going to notice.  You can use the same vendors and have a totally different vibe with your wedding.  As long as the venue is different no one will know the difference.

palrmt

Just because you use some of the same vendors doesn't mean that your weddings will mimic each other.  Even using the same florist, your flowers could be totally different.  I wouldn't worry about it too much. 

And if I was at your wedding and she said "Oh that was my photographer"  I wouldn't even give it a second thought.  I would be like "oh ok. cool" and move on.  I wouldnt really think of it as stealing the spotlight.  More than anything I would think she must be an awesome photographer since you both decided to use her.

Cynthia1207

I don't see the big deal if you use the same vendors.  Your sister is not the only person in the world to have booked these vendors so technically you'd always be using someone else's vendor. 

Just because you're booking the same vendors, does not mean you'll have the same wedding.  Even if you book the same photographer, if you have your pictures at different locations, your pictures will look different because of the decor. 

As for flowers, that's one of the most creative parts of the wedding.  The minute your flowers are different, your wedding will look different.  I really wouldn't worry about using the same florist.

rockandroll322

Wow thanks for all of the feedback, everyone!!!!

kmmssg

I wouldn't worry about it.  I would use the vendors if they are good at what they do and you get a great deal.  We had one DD get married in '09 and one was supposed to get married in '10 (called off) and we were going to use all the same vendors because I had a ton of time invested in where the quality and best deals were.  Any good wedding vendor can role with your vision and do what you want.  Otherwise every single wedding they would have ever done would be identical!  Dont' worry about it.  Choose good vendors who can do what you want for the price you can afford.

harpsdesire

Use the ones she had that you loved!  If you didn't love any of them, don't use them.

I really don't think saying "That was MY florist first" will net her much spotlight-- I think most people will be like, "....good for you..?" because they realize the wedding vendors do many many weddings every year.  It's not like they are unique to whatever bride has them 'first'.

Also you can have the same vendors and a pretty different wedding, unless they specialize in one particular style, most are flexible.  For example a florist can do casual wildflowers or formal red roses, a caterer can usually do buffet or plated meals, etc.