How much does Dad pay?

courtney1188

If I knew my father was having a very difficult time financially, and having to work very hard just to get by and was nowhere near being able to retire, I would NEVER ever accept money from him. Either get a better job and save up for the wedding you want, or throw a small wedding, maybe just immediate family at a restaurant or mroe people at a cake and punch reception. But it would be aboslutely awful to take advantage of your father when you know he is doing so poor financially, especially at his age.

HobokensFury

Dad doesn't need to pay anything.  Pay for your own wedding.

futuremrscoachj

Sail,

My FI and I are both in our 20's as well. We're both teachers and, while its not exactly living paycheck to paycheck, its not the high life or anything. My stepfather is graciously paying for the wedding. No, I didnt write this to tell you about my stepfather, im writing this to let you know that even though the wedding is taken care of and we're going to be semi-okay financially, I still have weekly panic attacks about our finances.I could not imagine not being in the best shape financially and still concerned about a 20K wedding. If the wedding was not being paid for, we both have said that we would have a very simple affair and save our money for important things---at the end of the, we're MARRIED! Isnt that the point?. It seems to me that the fact your too concentrated on your "dream" wedding and not the life after your wedding, you're not very ready to get married. Wedding is one day. Marriage is a lifetime... and you have plently of time to have "dream moments" in your marriage.

Re-evaluate.

katelyn26

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_much-dad-pay?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:9a8917a0-f372-44bb-8b17-1867f271bb3fPost:5beee6cc-d73a-4c23-99c7-635a4ebc6cf0">Re: How much does Dad pay?</a>:
[QUOTE]Ummm...how much should you EXPECT?  ZERO! J<strong>ust because you and your FI don't have a pot to piss in doesn't make it your family's responsibility to pay for YOUR wedding. </strong> This is not 1620.  You don't come with a goat. If you want to get married, I suggest you start figuring out how YOU will pay for it yourself.  If you can't afford the wedding of your dreams, you can either 1) wait until you CAN afford it or 2) scale down your dream wedding. Honestly, don't be so entitled.
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this is great...lmao