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ugh...getting frustrated poor customer service

I am editing my post because it was hard to read...now...i made the tux appt first before picking colors, im bass ackwards. so now i went to make bridesmaid appt because i dont want my bridal dress appt yet because I again i am bass ackwards, and i have personal reasons. i want to pick my colors now...soooo i call the bridal place im going through...they give me hassle on phone about appointment...telling me i "need" to make bridal appt first...i said "no" i "want" the bridesmaid appt first. i told them im registered online already to look me up in the computer, they gave me attitude on phone "then" they informed me that this is busy bridal season and wanted to give me a "heads up" that i will be sharing consultants with another bride and her bridesmaids during my appointment and to "not" bring any extra people with me and maybe i shouldnt bring all of my bridal party in this time...(saying this in my head. not to them. HUH REALLY are you serious??)

I asked her about the colors and she said well we have swatches, I said swatches arent going to tell me if my BMs look pretty in those colors. Do you have at least a dress in the more popular colors so they can at least try on that color so I can get an idea of what they look like in that color? She said well yes. i said good because I have to get colors picked on Saturday because I have to give final colors to the tuxedo place. These werent exact words just getting general idea across. Then she was like maybe you shouldnt have done tux appt first. (didnt say this to her...i said this in my head OMG REALLY, i mean how could she say that to me, what gave her the right, I know I messed up but do I need to be reminded of it?)

DO they "really" want my money I don't have to buy my BM dresses there OR my gown. I wished I had thought to get her name because the more I think about it, it was horrible customer service. I would never say that to a potential customer. This is like their only store they have on this side of town where I live and there are "other" bridal stores, just this is "the main chain" like advertised EVERYWHERE.

Sooo I set the appointment spelt out each letter of my name which i always do because of the spelling of my name so its spelt correctly...not hard right? Get the confirmation email and my name is spelt wrong...nothing irks me more then being specific about something and its wrong...so I call back....18 minutes of being on hold...and I finally get someone and then they say "oh it doesnt matter, as long as you're registered correctly online, its no big deal the appointment is still set". I said i would love for it to be changed anyway she was like well it cant be changed now asked me if there was anything else and I was like no (whatever, said this in my head) so she said all bubbly that they would see me saturday morning. im half tempted to cancel it and go online and make the appointment through my registry or just not go there at all.

i know its nothing big, and i feel like im being a bridezilla but to ME (the customer) its something big, its MY NAME. i am in customer service, i have my own business and if i talked to one of my customers like that or treated one of my customers like that they wouldnt come back to me, even for something as simple as a name spelling, its the customers identity...so am i over-reacting? This is just for chit chat and advice purposes, i am not angry or pissed off, i did not yell or call back and complain to the manager or sales associate. I just was throwing something out there. I was calm cool and collected with her on the phone and will be when i go in here on saturday...

Leslie

Re: ugh...getting frustrated poor customer service

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ughgetting-frustrated-poor-customer-service?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:9c4248d8-d9d7-4de7-b546-02ba37d82cabPost:7a4bd082-0189-46f5-a056-3c3d5193690f">ugh...getting frustrated poor customer service</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ok I am gonna give a warning a funny warning but one none the less. I am the most back a$$wards person you will prob ever chat with. I had my first wedding and it should have been my second..it was so lame. to my parents benefit it was what they could afford and i was a very young bride and didnt have or get a say in anything. now...fast forward 25 years and an ex husband later...im having, well want to have the wedding i should have had the first time around and gonna have a better husband to boot too ;) lol... now...i made the tux appt first before picking colors, well the lady on the phone said...you need to reserve this special before it expires you can go in and add colors later...blah blah...so now i went to make bridal appt which i am so not ready for because im still losing weight and i want a cinch back dress and i want to pick my colors now ...soooo i call the bridal place im going through...they give me hassle on phone about appointment...telling me i "need" to make bridal appt first...i said "no" i "want" the bridesmaid appt first. i told them im registered online already to look me up in the computer, they gave me attitude on phone "then" they informed me that this is busy bridal season and wanted to give me a "heads up" that i will be sharing consultants with another bride and her bridesmaids during my appointment and to "not" bring any extra people with me and maybe i shouldnt bring all of my bridal party in this time...HUH REALLY are you serious?? I asked her about the colors and she said well we have swatches, I said swatches arent going to tell me if my BMs look pretty in those colors. Do you have at least a dress in the more popular colors so they can at least try on that color so I can get an idea of what they look like in that color? She said well yes. i said good because I have to get colors picked on Saturday because I have to give final colors to the tuxedo place. Then she was like maybe you shouldnt have done tux appt first. (OMG REALLY, i mean how could she say that to me, what gave her the right, I know I messed up but do I need to be reminded of it?) DO they "really" want my money I don't have to buy my BM dresses there OR my gown. I wished I had thought to get her name because the more I think about it, it was horrible customer service. I would never say that to a potential customer. This is like their only store they have on this side of town where I live and there are "other" bridal stores, just this is "the main chain" like advertised EVERYWHERE. Sooo I set the appointment spelt out  each letter of my name...not hard right? Get the confirmation email and my name is spelt wrong...nothing irks me more then being specific about something and its wrong...so I call back....18 minutes of being on hold...and I finally get someone and then they say "oh it doesnt matter, as long as you're registered correctly online, its no big deal the appointment is still set". I said i would love for it to be changed anyway she was like well it cant be changed now asked me if there was anything else and I was like no whatever so she said all bubbly that they would see me saturday morning HUH? REALLY?? im half tempted to cancel it and go online and make the appointment through my registry or just not go there at all, but i want the tuxes to match colorwise... i know its nothing big, and i feel like im being a bridezilla but to me its something big, its MY NAME. i am in customer service, i have my own business and if i talked to one of my customers like that or treated one of my customers like that they wouldnt come back to me, even for something as simple as a name spelling, its the customers identity...so am i over-reacting? Leslie
    Posted by impalin03[/QUOTE]

    CN : OP got really crappy customer service at a bridal store.


    OP, While I get being frustrated with bad customer service, I think you're causing yourself to stress out about it wayyy too much.

    My name has been misspelled my entire life, by every teacher, employer, friend, yadda yadda. I've gotten used to it and unless it's a legal document, I'll correct the person one or two times and then let it go (usually at that point, they remember). With that said, I've never made a huge fuss  out of it.

    I honestly think you've gotten yourself worked up over something you can't fully control. If you're really that mad, file a complaint with the store and take your business elsewhere.

    Also, your post was extremely hard to read.
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  • To answer your question, YES you overreacted.  My name has been mispelled and mispronounced many, many, many times.  Does it get aggravating?  Sure it does but it's not worth it to make a big deal about it.

    Btw, the consultant is right, you shouldn't have made the tux appointment before knowing what colors you are ordering for the BMs.  I don't know what her tone of voice was when she said it but unless she was overly rude about it and condescending, I don't see anything wrong with her pointing out something that ultimately might help you.  Think about it.  If you don't order the dresses that day, you'll basically waste your tux appointment because you still won't have any idea what color the girls will be in.  Maybe that's the point she was trying to get at.  I'm playing devil's advocate though.

    Let it go and try to enjoy your experience as much as possible.  This should be a happy time.
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  • edited February 2012
    I just wanted to throw out there that you don't have to have colors for the tuxes.  If you go with something neutral, it will all "go" without having to exactly match.  Our groomsmen wore gray vests, with DH in ivory, and my girls were a shade of blue.

    If you don't worry so much about exactly matching, then you'll be fine even if you don't get your dresses picked out on Saturday!
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  • I think you are over reacting a bit. I worked at a shop and sometimes I would ask people to spell their name for me and they would be total jerks that I even asked. We had so many misspelled names in the appointment scheudle and it did not matter what bit. Now if we botch their name on their bill they sign or their COA that could be an issue but at that point they are sitting in front of me and I asked to see their ID anyhow.

    It is "Bridal Christmas" for all shops from Jan-March for all the happy brides that got engaged from Christmas-Vday and want to get into a shop. Trust me WALK INS are nasty people that thow fits if they have to wait....If there are no fitting rooms then what do people want to do...try on things in the middle of the store? Appiontments are best and some places are not staffed to take more then one bride or party per time slot.

    Normally picking your colors first and then going for tux is best.
    Nichole Tampa, FL BabyFetus Ticker
  • Yeah, you're over reacting, take a bit to cool off.  I know first hand how annoying it is when people get your name right.  I've had people in my own family misspell my name.  It happens. Let it go.
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    edited February 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ughgetting-frustrated-poor-customer-service?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:9c4248d8-d9d7-4de7-b546-02ba37d82cabPost:7d4dede5-4c4b-4208-8fab-40bc51fc0d08">Re: ugh...getting frustrated poor customer service</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yeah, you're over reacting, take a bit to cool off.  I know first hand how annoying it is when people get your name right.  I've had people in my own family misspell my name.  It happens. Let it go.
    Posted by ElleB87[/QUOTE]

    Oh My Great Aunt swears there is no H in my name...so much so that every birthday and Christmas still it has no H...talk about a sucky gift with the name spelled wrong lol. Oh well.

    ETA: Not that the gifts suck but the gift in question is a custom box with my name drilled into it...and not spelled right lol
    Nichole Tampa, FL BabyFetus Ticker
  • Yes, you are over reacting.  You need to calm down and look at the big picture.  It isn't something that is going to change your wedding day so let it go.

    I would advise to get in a better mind state and not to be so critical of people helping you and trying to book your events and or be your vendor.

    In some cases it is okay to be critical but I know from working in the restaurant industry being overly critical just makes things worse and everyone runs the other way when they see you come in.
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  • Bah - I worked as a medical scheduler for a few years - and I'd still eff up people's names when they spelled it out. After hearing people reciting letters all day, they start to sound the same.
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  • let me say one thing...im frustrated not mad....i didnt call back and be a bridezilla...i didnt call back and complain to the store manager...i did let it go.

    im gonna go to my appointment and share my consultant with the other bride and have a great time with my BMs :)

    and yes i know that i shouldnt have made the tux appointment first but i did and everything worked out fine and they are working with me patiently. As I said I do things differently and not every bride does things the right way, but as long as everything gets done, what does it matter I guess. Anyhoo :D

    i am as sweet as a southern belle because that is what i am and if i wasnt then my momma would come back from the grave and smack me in the back of the head.
    thats why i posted on here first because i wanted to make sure that i wasnt over reacting over nothing. I am not stressed about it now nor was I then. but i will see how the appointment goes, i do realize that this is a busy time, but rudeness i will not accept under any circumstances.

    I am sorry that my post was hard to read for some of you.  I appreciate all the time and effort for everyone to post and comment :) thank you for your advice I will def take all of it to heart, I have a long way to go :)
  • Too many books written in forums....
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    [QUOTE]Too many books written in forums....
    Posted by lnk060710[/QUOTE]

    i will make note to myself to make things shorter if i post anymore...just thought i would post my thoughts and put everything out there...
  • 31 years of international customer support (deeply technical support but support). So did she say "You idiot, you shouldn't have booked your Tux appointment first. What the H were you thinking? Boy are you stupid, are you sure you're mature  to even get married?"

    Or did she say, it might have been a better idea to schedule your tux appointment after you've chosen your gown and colors. 

    What she actually said, how she actually said it and HOW YOU INTERPRETED it could be two very different things.

    CHILL OUT.
  • edited February 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ughgetting-frustrated-poor-customer-service?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:9c4248d8-d9d7-4de7-b546-02ba37d82cabPost:aa2a1249-9ce3-4ab9-a23b-836c6290db28">Re: ugh...getting frustrated poor customer service</a>:
    [QUOTE]CHILL OUT.
    Posted by skippylouwho[/QUOTE]

    wooow talk about people needing to chill out...i just posted on here for thoughts. laugh...im calm...never was PISSED or YELLED at anyone. I was just frustrated there IS a difference...geesh didnt mean to blow up people...i think i am done posting for awhile...

    i am going to enjoy my saturday appointment with my BMs and have fun...
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: ugh...getting frustrated poor customer service : wooow talk about people needing to chill out...i just posted on here for thoughts. laugh...im calm...never was PISSED or YELLED at anyone. I was just frustrated there IS a difference...geesh didnt mean to blow up people...i think i am done posting for awhile... i am going to enjoy my saturday appointment with my BMs and have fun... i think some people on here need some margaritas...and some chill pills themselves...gawd and they talk about me being stressed nice friendly advice everyone thanks...what a way to make a blushing bride whose literally doing this for the first time feel REAL welcome..I appreciate it...
    Posted by impalin03[/QUOTE]

    Hun, re-read your post and take into account the title of your post. Since we can't hear you speak, we go off what you write and <em>how</em> you write it.

    Im not sure what you mean by "what a way to make a blushing bride whose literally doing this for the first time feel REAL welcome"?

    You asked for opinions and opinions are what you got.
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    [QUOTE]WOW really..you want to have the wedding you've always wanted, which will include many fine details and this is what you are getting frustrated over? And I learned a long time ago that it's not good etiquette to bad mouth your ex. You loved him at one time. GOOD LUCK is all I can say! 
    Posted by lnk060710[/QUOTE]

    And I really would like to know where I said anything about bad mouthing my ex? All I said was that I was getting a better husband this time around which if I had a better husband the first time then I wouldnt be divorced now. 

    I am sorry but I just dont think that was a polite thing to say without knowing any of the details of my former marriage. Regardless of whether or not I loved him at one time, you do not know if I am civil with him or not.

    <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-cool.gif" border="0" alt="Cool" title="Cool" /> stay cool and good luck to you
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: ugh...getting frustrated poor customer service : Hun, re-read your post and take into account the title of your post. Since we can't hear you speak, we go off what you write and how you write it. Im not sure what you mean by "what a way to make a blushing bride whose literally doing this for the first time feel REAL welcome"? You asked for opinions and opinions are what you got.
    Posted by NcsuPsych[/QUOTE]

    I am sorry for that comment. I just got something on my mind and it sidetracked me. I am going to erase that comment. My bad...<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-innocent.gif" border="0" alt="Innocent" title="Innocent" />
  • There's no point in deleting that comment as you've already been quoted.
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