Rescheduling/Road Block

jhmw706

Hi,

I'm new to the boards so not sure this is the right board to post on.

We have run into an issue with the Catholic Church concerning my fiance's annulment -- he thought it was done 5 years ago, paperwork never filed by the priest and he never knew.

We planned everything in July/August - met with priest, set hotel date, etc. and then find out in november from this priest who was suppose to say our wedding that the paperwork was not in order and we cannot move forward wtih our plan to get married in teh Catholic Church.

So my fiance's started over in the process, and in the process we have met a nice priest in our area (we live in MD) who cares and is trying to help. The priest inNJ is nothing by rude.

No one can tell us if the annulment will be finalized by May, so i think we will move it to Aug./Sept - if we find out that's a good plan from our MD priest.

Any tips on communicating to guests - we alreayd sent out the save the date cards. But i want to decide now since it's 5 months from today, and I do not want to have a non-church weddig.

Thanks!!

goheels05

I agree with danieliza.  Your guests don't need the nitty gritty details of why you are changing the date, just send out new STDs.  Sorry this happened, that must be really frustrating.  GL.

jhmw706

Thanks...i've read places where it says you should call everyone, others say to send a note. I'm trying to tell certain people who would have to fly now, but I hope to have it all settled in the next few weeks. And yes, it's been frustrating and then some...i had everything planned, so sorta have to start over, but also can do it under better circumstances i hope and not have a black cloud over my head. All the location details are the same, it's just the date that's changing.

jeannigirl

Wow sorry to hear that, that sure would be a bit frustrating. Yea just send out updates on STD's Take a deep breathe it will all work out for the best. You just had a little bump in the road. SMILE

MyNameIsNot

Definately send something out ASAP, and start word of mouth in the meantime.

BTW, I've heard of annulments taking 18 months.  Are you sure that it will all be worked out by August?  I might consider pushing it back as far as spring '11 just to be sure you won't have a problem.

jhmw706

I am hopeful that it can be resolved quicker - i have personal reasons for not wanting to wait until 2011. We have a lot of people in our corner, so am just hopeful. thanks!