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SO DH had a big interview on Friday.  He thinks it went very well, but won't hear anything until mid-May.  If he gets the job we would need to relocate. There is no guarantee as to where we might end up, stateside or abroad.  I am excited but super nervous.  Change is good, but at the same time I've lived in the same place for almost 30 years now and would be really sad to leave everyone and everything I know.

Any reassuring words?  (and yes I know it's silly to stress now, when nothing is happening for 2 months either way)
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I was nervous but super excited when we moved this past summer. I was ready for a fresh start and new life, and the timing was perfect! We had just gotten married, so it seemed like the perfect time to begin a new life in a new place. Embrace the change!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_possible-move?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:a3003882-67ec-4751-9a58-bd874ae964acPost:197a6cd5-e078-4851-bf8b-d9bf861b16bd">Re: Possible move</a>:
    [QUOTE]I was nervous but super excited when we moved this past summer. I was ready for a fresh start and new life, and the timing was perfect! We had just gotten married, so it seemed like the perfect time to begin a new life in a new place. Embrace the change!
    Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

    The only thing that concerns me is that DH will be away for training for awhile, and possibly have to leave for deployments (it's a JAG position)  I'm going to convince him we need a dog (if practical where we are) so that I have someone to keep my company at home.  I have a fear of being lonely I think.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I understand. My husband took a new job (hence the move), and he is away for a few weeks to a couple of months at a time. Fortunately, he had lived here a few years ago when we first started dating, so I already had a friend base here having met people when I would visit, plus I have several former students who are military and stationed here, so that all helped me to settle in faster. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    I hear you on the nerves.  That job I posted about last month for my H is slowly but surely moving forward.  He says he has news for me tonight when I get home.  I'm so nervous, because we REALLY need this job to pan out, but it will take him away from me for a year or two. :(
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  • kaos16kaos16 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_possible-move?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:a3003882-67ec-4751-9a58-bd874ae964acPost:5a9e38c8-46f7-4c08-828a-6abc1a85fb11">Re: Possible move</a>:
    [QUOTE]I hear you on the nerves.  That job I posted about last month for my H is slowly but surely moving forward.  He says he has news for me tonight when I get home.  I'm so nervous, because we REALLY need this job to pan out, but it will take him away from me for a year or two. :(
    Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

    Ahhh!  We'll have to start a knottie support group!
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  • OwningAHome1981OwningAHome1981 member
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    Good luck.

    Long Island is a very tough place to leave. Such a beautiful place... and we have the best wedding receptions! ;)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_possible-move?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:a3003882-67ec-4751-9a58-bd874ae964acPost:e0d547fd-80a4-4b7b-864e-6baf1fb0d47d">Re: Possible move</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Possible move : Ahhh!  We'll have to start a knottie support group!
    Posted by kaos16[/QUOTE]

    Haha, something like "Long distance married old hags anonymous"?
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  • kaos16kaos16 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_possible-move?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:a3003882-67ec-4751-9a58-bd874ae964acPost:f2c646be-820d-4ace-8bad-8507eaa7f5ef">Re: Possible move</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Possible move : Haha, something like "Long distance married old hags anonymous"?
    Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

    perfect! the LDMOHA
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_possible-move?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:a3003882-67ec-4751-9a58-bd874ae964acPost:50ca4128-51f1-4ba5-b009-1a7f6c5d858f">Re: Possible move</a>:
    [QUOTE]Good luck. Long Island is a very tough place to leave. Such a beautiful place... and we have the best wedding receptions! ;)
    Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    or one of the most expensive places to live ever.........i'm looking forward to getting off the rock for a bit
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    I have moved more times than I can count on my hands.

    The first 3-9 months can suck. You downright might hate it.   You don't know where the doctor is or the car repair place you have to use google maps to even find Walgrens.  It's frustrating.  You will be very tempted to say "back in LI we did things like "x", back in LI".  It's common.  You have just be patient.   It will start to feel like "home" between 6-12 months.    You become more familiar where everything is which makes things easier.


    Try to move into a transient, up and coming or newer neighborhood.  I find it's easier to met new people when others are somewhat new themselves.  Some places I've lived were pretty established.  They were set in their ways and had their core group of friends and it can be hard to break into those groups.   The newer or transient places we moved to seemed easier to met new people.    Of course, that is not a hard fast rule, just my experience.

    Join clubs to met people.   We just joined a bocce ball team.  We met the head of the league while walking the dog.   We met another couple while having dinner at the bar instead of a table. We got to talking, had a lot of the same interests.  If we had dinner at a normal table we would not have met them. Things like that help getting to meet people.

    GL.  DH and I have been married for 4.5 years and this is our 3rd state.   My parents have moved 30? times in 44 years. They move to China in a month.   Moving is in my blood.






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  • kaos16kaos16 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_possible-move?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:a3003882-67ec-4751-9a58-bd874ae964acPost:b0b47a16-28ac-4b1d-a3a2-57d6fb5bae6a">Re: Possible move</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have moved more times than I can count on my hands. The first 3-9 months can suck. You downright might hate it.   You don't know where the doctor is or the car repair place you have to use google maps to even find Walgrens.  It's frustrating.  You will be very tempted to say "back in LI we did things like "x", back in LI".  It's common.  You have just be patient.   It will start to feel like "home" between 6-12 months.    You become more familiar where everything is which makes things easier. Try to move into a transient, up and coming or newer neighborhood.  I find it's easier to met new people when others are somewhat new themselves.  Some places I've lived were pretty established.  They were set in their ways and had their core group of friends and it can be hard to break into those groups.   The newer or transient places we moved to seemed easier to met new people.    Of course, that is not a hard fast rule, just my experience. Join clubs to met people.   We just joined a bocce ball team.  We met the head of the league while walking the dog.   We met another couple while having dinner at the bar instead of a table. We got to talking, had a lot of the same interests.  If we had dinner at a normal table we would not have met them. Things like that help getting to meet people. GL.  DH and I have been married for 4.5 years and this is our 3rd state.   My parents have moved 30? times in 44 years. They move to China in a month.   Moving is in my blood.
    Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

    Super great advice. . . . .thank you!!!!!!
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