.. Small Wedding..

MandyP86

Just wondering is anyone else planning a very small wedding? We are looking at about only 10 guests, most of which are my immediate family (my FI doesnt't speak to his family so they won't be in attendance).  Anyway, what issues have you faced (if any), what are the pros/cons? Thanks!

AdeleDazeem

Yes'm - we are inviting 13 people. 

The biggest problem so far as telling people they aren't invited.  I know that no one should ask point blank if they are invited, but we've gotten it.  We also had to deal with our parents' siblings and their children being slightly miffed about it.  I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but it's going to happen. 

Oh - and getting my mom on board to this idea took a long time.  She really hated the immediate family only idea.  She's come around a lot after I explained why we wanted to do this way.

Pros - it's easy to plan and I think it really is a celebration for the people who will be most affected by this new marrage.  My second cousin once removed will only see my new husband at random family reunions.  But my mother and father are gaining a son-in-law.  My sister is gaining a brother-in-law... it's a new immediate family.

quotequeen

My brother had 5 or 6 people at his wedding, and then a couple more people joined for dinner afterwards.  It was very low key, and everybody seemed happy.  He had a larger reception a few months later.

CCBelle

We had 68 guests at our wedding, which was considered "small" by everyone involved.  I have absolutely no regrets - and now we say we could have invited even few people.  Especially as some of our guests we felt like we "had" to invite, and we've barely spoken to them since the wedding.  I think a small wedding is great as you'll be able to really enjoy everyone's company and really enjoy yourself.  Plus, everyone included will feel very special to be part of your day.

Kristin789

FI and I each invited 7 people.

I liked having a small wedding.  People really seemed to feel special, people actually met the people at their table and actually talked to them, people liked that the wedding and reception were in the same room so they didn't have to struggle back to the car, hassle parking, and drive somewhere else where they would have to find another parking space, and then find how to get inside and find their seats, etc.

I can't think of any "cons."

rmhowell.thinkpink

open church wedding, 60 people for the formal reception (family only) and a HUGE 250+ person BBQ just to hang out and celebrate when we get back from our honeymoon- the best of both worlds- intimate reception with the family, messy fun food and casual BBQ activities with all out friends!

CaptiolBride

our is 80. everyone keeps telling us "wow that's not a lot of people." or "that's small"

jena.n.ross

Speaking as someone who didn't make the small invite list, my feelings were a little hurt.  My mom was invited to my first cousin's wedding, but my brother, stepdad, and I were not.  Looking at the pictures, they had a reasonably sized reception venue, so I'm not sure if their small list was because of food cost...?  I didn't feel like I could ask.

So, it's good for you guys, because it will be ultra low stress, and good for the people you invite, but be prepared for some hurt feelings, especially from the "almost close enough" family.