No Motivation

deeregirl219

Ok, so I became engaged last March. In May I wanted to go look at bridesmaid dresses with my MOH. My intentions were just dresses for them since I am way too picky and wanted to get some ideas since my girls vary in height and size. Then my MOH thought I should try on the potential dress. No hair or make-up, not even heels. Well I tried on 6 or 7, and created a top 5 list. Internally I was upset because my mom wasn't there with me. I'm closer to her than my MOH, since we've had a few trials in our life.  The next time I tried on dresses about 4 months later, it was just my mother and I. The shop owner just told me to pick dresses I liked. By the time I went through the whole store we tried them on.  I picked 12 out only 2 fit. I told her my size ahead of time, but she had be try dresses on that were a few sizes to small.  
So here's the problem, I'm going looking again this Saturday with both my mom and MOH with the intent to buy, but I am not all excited/ motivated. I know it's "the dress" but part of me says it's just a dress.  I'm 50/50 girly/outdoorsy. My wedding is outdoors and my venue in chic.  I guess my theme is Rustic/Garden Chic. The venue can be seen at allureone.com to get better ideas. How do I lift up my spirits?? Please help, I feel like crying because this is a very big deal and I fell like I don't care. That something is wrong with me. By the way my wedding is June 12, 2010.

Thanks for any thoughts!

bowlerchick1705

trust me i know how you feel about the non motivation thing..... but sometimes you just have to stop and think you are marrying the guy of your dreams and yes the wedding is a big deal but in the end everything will come together even if it seems like it didnt because guess what in the end ur still getting married........ a few months after me and my hubby got engaged i was layed off from my job right now im striving to just get by on my bills and i know even though i dont want to think about it that im not going to have alot of things for my wedding that i want and it is stressful i go to school full time my hubby is three hours away my wedding is going to be in his home town and i have to plan everything when i have time to go up there which isnt very often...... all i look forward to is yeah im not going to get all the right details for the day but im looking forward to expanding my family and living my life with him..... so try not to stress to much... things always have a way of working out and im sure you will find the perfect dress for your special day.....

corinnemarie22

Well as for the dress situation I get where you are coming from. My first experience trying on dresses was HORRIBLE... i cried it was bad. It was 4 months after my mom passes away who was my bestfriend. So my stepmom really wanted to try an make me feel better by asking me to try dresses on and make all the apts. so we could go to different stores. As wells as 3 of my sisters an bridesmaids feeling bad an wanting to join. As for that part... to many people ALWAYS a bad idea... to many opinions. But when trying on dresses Im a size 16 and the first store did there best to let me try dresses that fit... however they were nothing like I was even remotley wanting... so I saw it as I got to see what I dont like and doesnt work. Then the second store... a smaller bridal shop that had only size 10. They put them on you like your a paper doll... and magically you are supossed to imagine how good it would look in your size and on you. I dont like that part. So here is what I did and maybe it would help.
I looked in a few magazines at dresses that looked like something I was looking for. Looked up the designer online, made sure I liked the dresses that designer offered. Then I looked for stores near by that carried that line, chose my favorite dress of the collection and called all the local stores. Specifically ask if they had that dress or dresses in stock and what their sample size is. I found it is possible to try on a size 12 and be a 16. So any store that carried the dresses I was looking for in a 12 or higher I went there. It actually helped alot! Because the 3 stores I went to with those sample sizes had other options in that rage as well... which lead me to find my perfect gown... which wasnt any of the designers I originally chose.
I know it takes time... which it sounds like you may not have. Maybe ask you MOH to help but... it only makes you feel better to atleast put dresses on. An as STUPID as I think it is because not ever bride is a size 6 put smaller stores only carry your basic sample dresses in small sizes. So try to call ahead . Even if you dont do the research just atleast ask how many smaples they have in ur size range... and dont believe them when they say "they can show you how amazing you would like in the gown no matter the size"
hope that helps

goheels05

Most shops only carry samples in one size (usually size 10), and it is hard to get an idea of how it will look on you.  And this is really good advice: 

[QUOTE] I looked in a few magazines at dresses that looked like something I was looking for. Looked up the designer online, made sure I liked the dresses that designer offered. Then I looked for stores near by that carried that line, chose my favorite dress of the collection and called all the local stores. Specifically ask if they had that dress or dresses in stock and what their sample size is. I found it is possible to try on a size 12 and be a 16. So any store that carried the dresses I was looking for in a 12 or higher I went there.
Posted by corinnemarie22/QUOTE]