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Laid back bride... good or bad thing?

Tomorrow marks seven months until I marry my fiancee. So far, my fiancee and I chose the theme and colors for our wedding. We are going for a rustic country side theme (very Italian!) We booked our hall, church, and wedding photographer. My wedding gown is almost completely paid (only $200 to go!)  My dress that I said 'yes' to was the very first gown that I tried on (featured on my page)

My soon to be mother in law will be taking care of the flowers, invitations, cake, dj, and honeymoon. She used to own three floral shops and is an event coordinator. My mother is going to host my  bridal shower. The shower will fall on a Saturday evening - She's going to rent a tent  in the back yard with lighted candles, music and wine.

 My major stressor at the moment is the guest list. I'm not too stressed about anything else because my soon to be mother in law and I see eye to eye ( We have the same style and she has an eye for detail!) Although she will be helping with the decorating, invitations etc, we are not planning 24/7, seven days a week. 

Everyone keeps asking how the wedding planning is going and I just smile, nod my head, and say 'great!' Sometimes I feel overwhelmed when I have to answer questions regarding the planning, such as what caterer we're going to choose, or the dresses that will be chosen for the bridesmaids! Speaking of bridesmaids, ugly gowns are out of the picture, my girls are going to look stunning.

Actually I should begin looking for favors sooon before relatives get impatient and start looking themselves - LOL! Okay so I'm a little laid back, but I know everything will turn out  beautiful on my wedding day. Anyone else out there with a similar mind set??
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  • HA!  I often wondered the same thing.

    No way.  Not strange at all.

    I am so laid back about my wedding - I don't even have a theme.  I don't have colors, I could care less what is on the tables.  My dress was the first one I tried on and it was half off, so SOLD!

    I have a place, food, drinks, a dress, and a future hubby.  I'm set.  People keep asking "how is the planning" and I'm like "I was done MONTHS AGO".

    I have around 7 months too!  Feels good, hu?
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  • I'd say most of the planning I did was 2-3 months out.  I was never stressed, unless I was pissed at my mother, and well, my mother is a flippin psycho.

    You're doing fine.  :)  Keep up the good work.

    Also - fiance = male, fiancee = female.  Just FYI :)
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  • 7 months out and you think you are behind in taking care of favors? I mean, besides the fact that favors are completly optional, 7 months is a long time.

    When people ask what your plans are for specific aspects of the wedding, they're probably just making conversation (few of them would probably even know the different local catering companies) so I don't think they'd care if you just said "Oh, we've booked some things, but we're enjoying our engagement and not rushing through taking care of all the logistics."
  • Laid back is the way to be IMO.  I didnt have a wedding theme... or save the dates... or favors.... or centerpieces.... I booked my hair and makeup girl 2 weeks before my wedding.... I figured out my accessories the morning of my wedding (like literally, stopped in Target and bought some clearance hair clips on my way to the hair dresser)....

    I say do what makes you and your FI happy and comfortable, if thats going with the flow, then go with the flow!
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  • I am soon reaching my laid-back bride status...I have the majority of the things done it is just largely getting the smaller details that people won't miss done.  I think it is better to be relaxed and enjoy the planning and engagement than to be stressing and bitching until the very...last...second
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_laid-back-bride-good-bad-thing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:a86128f8-17ce-404b-b3ee-878f63247255Post:a34711f8-4da1-42f0-b845-cc2ef81b0405">Re: Laid back bride... good or bad thing?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'd say most of the planning I did was 2-3 months out.  <strong>I was never stressed</strong>, unless I was pissed at my mother, and well, my mother is a flippin psycho. You're doing fine.  :)  Keep up the good work. Also - fiance = male, fiancee = female.  Just FYI :)
    Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

    I seem to remember a certain stressful dress issue....
  • i hope to not be stressed out. I have the church and reception venue right now and plan to stay ahead of schedule. There is nothing wrong with it. The last wedding I was in was a short engagement and the bride took a month off work afterwards! I know I will want a break, but I don't want to need a sabatical.
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  • Sounds like you've got a majority planned so you don't need to be stressed. Enjoy the next 5 or 6 months, then you'll probably feel some pangs of stress.

    PS: is there any way you can shrink your sig pics? They are huge! In the URL there should be a number with an X in front of it (ex: x180) if you change that number it will change the size of your pics.
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  • I found being laid back to be helpful.  I didn't really care about what the flowers looked like exactly, or the cake, or my hair... that way I didn't have a precise expectation... which was easy for vendors to meet. 

    My photographer thought I was funny because I told him I wanted one nice picture of me and my husband... and a few of the guests.  His body of work was good, so I just told him to "do his thing"   - So much easier than micromanaging

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  • Thanks for all your responses! I feel A LOT better now
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  • Yeah all of my stress came from the guest list issues.  Everything else was pretty easy.  I used to always think I was missing something because people were constantly asking me "are you going crazy yet?" or "is the stress killing you?"  And I just didn't get it.  But I also am a firm believer that it's only ONE day, and ONE party, so no use freaking out about it.  Plus it's way more enjoyable when you relax. 
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  • dnbeach12 .. I just noticed that your picture was taken at Niagra Falls. I couldn't help but remember that we saw a wedding party taking pictures while we were there this summer. I snapped a picture of them because I thought they were cute! It really looks like you guys but I'm not sure. I just noticed that and thought it was really weird.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_laid-back-bride-good-bad-thing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:a86128f8-17ce-404b-b3ee-878f63247255Post:9f60b218-00fc-4bd7-a1d9-efa518acb985">Re: Laid back bride... good or bad thing?</a>:
    [QUOTE]dnbeach12 .. I just noticed that your picture was taken at Niagra Falls. I couldn't help but remember that we saw a wedding party taking pictures while we were there this summer. I snapped a picture of them because I thought they were cute! It really looks like you guys but I'm not sure. I just noticed that and thought it was really weird.
    Posted by JJWillis3[/QUOTE]

    Thats really funny, do you remember what day it was?  There were plenty of people taking our pictures.  The wedding was July 30th, and our girls were in short black dresses.
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  • i can't remember, but I pulled up the picture from my photobucket to compare it with your pic on here.

    http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y70/LibraGirlJess/356.jpg?t=1291156399

  • It's a terrible picture! lol
  • OMG that's us though!  That is too funny!  What a small world.
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  • Here's one that you can see some of the same girls. 


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  • You guys look so beautiful! I'm not from NY, we were just on vacation. Where was the ceremony and reception?
  • Aww thank you, that's so sweet.  It was all right in Niagara Falls, since that's where H and I are both from and our families are still there.  The ceremony was at my church growing up, and the reception was at The Conference Center Niagara Falls, which is right across from the Seneca Niagara Casino if you were down there at all.
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  • If I could, I'd tell the ceremony/reception venue coordinators "these are the colors I want, just make it pretty", but no go.  So I'm definitely a laid back bride.  I've got 4.5 months to go and I haven't even looked at dresses yet.  Guess I better get on that.  :)
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  • I'm in the same boat. We had to find a photographer two months before the wedding. And we did it, just fine. No troubles, no stressing out when we found out our original one bailed.

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