Booked a DJ and now there is drama. (might be long)

bandjwedding2012

 Yesterday at a bridal show I met this great dj. He was running an awesome speical. We get six hours and 2 dj's for 500 bucks. Set up and tear down are included and don't count against our six hours. It's two equipment set up's since we are outdoor for the ceremony and indoor for the reception. This guy come with great reviews, the bridal show has been using him for years. Everything was perfect, called fiance about the guy he said book him. So I did.
   Now here is the problem. My FMIL wants a certain DJ and the guy I picked isn't him. When I talked to her two weeks ago, she said she didn't even have her Dj' number and she would try and find it and get us prices. When I told her yesterday about our dj, she went bat s*** crazy. Said she booked her dj months ago and that she couldn't believe I would do this to her, and that her reputation was going to suffer for it. That my FFIL was juts furious with me and I should just cancel mine. I repeatedly told her when we talked two weeks ago she never mentioned this and that my mind reading skills haven't worked in a while.
   I didn't say this to her, but I kept thinking, why would I book two dj's? Who does that, it's not like we're swimming in all this extra money that I thought what the hell two dj's is perfect. She went crying and screaming to fiance about it and now he's like well I really like the other guy and can't we just cancel yours since I've never met him.
  He forgets I've never met her dj, no one asked me if I wanted her dj and I'm just suppose to believe she forgot she booked a dj and now she has one, when two weeks ago she couldn't find the number. It sounds like crap to me. I at least called fiance, read everything about my pick to him over the phone and he said it sounds great go ahead and book him. Did I mention his dj is more expensive and we only get one dj from that guy. 
       It's fusterating, I only told her cause his mom has been pretty awesome with the wedding stuff and very supportive. Sure we've had our little disagreements but nothing major and certainly nothing on this scale of crap. I adore my FMIL, I think the world of her, but that being said I want to smack her a little bit today. Thanks for letting me vent.

J&K10910

Is she paying for the DJ?  If she's not paying, she doesn't get to pick and book him.  If she is paying, then you screwed up by not running it past it her before booking.

Avion22

Wow, what a situation. 

I think you fiance needs to take this one from here.  Honestly, it's HIS mom, so he should deal with it.  As to which DJ you go with, I think that's up to you.  She shouldn't have booked you a DJ without telling you first (which it sounds like she didn't and now she's just saying she did to make you feel bad).

RailWayWife

You your fiance and your FMIL need to sit down and talk like adults. Each of you can explain your side of the story and come up with a soulution. Maybe after you tell her the great deal you got from your DJ she will be more understanding about why you booked him.

PS I dont understand why someone would freak out over a DJ. Its  a DJ. Your FMIL sounds very immature to me.

kdevlin9

How does a DJ hurt her reputation?  I'm sorry.  2 DJs for 6 hours for 500 bucks is pretty much amazing. Stick with your guy.

missmckenzie2

I would keep your DJ your booked him for a reason and they really seem like a fantastic deal. As for the FMIL's DJ, does she have a contract? No contract= no DJ. it was inappropriate of her to go ahead and "book" a DJ without even consulting you first she will just have to deal with the fall out if it is really that big of an issue. FI should back you since obviously he didn't even know about the other DJ since he told you to go ahead and book them.

bandjwedding2012

To answer some questions, fiance and I were under the assumption we were paying for our own dj. Which is fine, we've been saving up that wasn't an issue. We never asked her to pay for anything, she says she will be for her dj but not ours. Again not a problem because we were planning on paying for the dj ourselves, like we have been with the rest of the wedding stuff because it was important for us to be able to pay on our own.  Normally FMIL doesn't freak out about these things, so I don't know why this is such an issue for her.
  I have told her what a great deal it is, she doesn't care she wants her and only hers.
   The reason it is two djs is because of our location. We're getting married outdoors in this outdoor theater, and instead of waiting for him to unhook his equipment and put it away and then come dj at the reception would just take to long. He can't leave it out there because it's sort of an open park area that anyone can use. We talked to other brides who have had him at our location and they all had nothing but great things to say about him. He's been voted the best dj in our area several times and he's used at several of the differnt bridal shows in the area.. So I really believe and trust that he is a good dj with an excellent reputation.

aragx6

I would have your FI ask his mom to see the contract from her DJ before canceling yours. I'm not entirely convinced this DJ is even booked, which would worry the heck out of me.