deceased idea

brittniD2011

I was trying to figure out something to do for my fiance sister who passed away five years agoand he. Was closes to her and I really want something nice for her all my bouquets will have a pink butterfly in them since that was her favorite color and she love butterflies but is there something else I could do would it look dumb to put her picture on a chair with her favorite flower there?

wondermom05

My fiance's parents passed away last year (about 6 months apart from one another) and we're thinking of having a "memorial candle" that's lit before the ceremony and stays lit throughout.  My friend found a cute one with a poem printed on it from oriental trading.

tldh

Ask your FI if he wants to do something and, if he does, make sure that his parents and siblings are on board with it.

JadziaDax

I like wondermom's idea of having a memorial candle. I'm not so crazy about the idea of putting her picture on a chair with her favorite flower. As a guest, I would just feel really really sad every time I looked at the chair. 

etrattles

I went to a wedding recently where they had place cards at a table for deceased grandparents, I thought it was nice and simple. I also really like the idea of having small photos in your bouquet, you know they're there but it's not super obvious.

MsRachelT

I have to agree that a memorial might be too much for family members unless you talk to them first.

The butterfly idea sounds nice. A locket with her picture in it as a lapel pin for your FI (and even the other members of his family)  could also work and be a nice gift from you to him or his family.

I thought these two articles were interesting and may help.

http://www.engagementexperts.com/wedding-engagement-tribute-for-deceased-parents.html

http://www.oh-lovely-day.com/2011/11/its-in-details-honoring-loved-ones.html

brittniD2011

well thanks for they ideas i think were just going with the butterflies in our bouquet because everyone knows when they see a butterfly its her so thank you guys so much.

brittniD2011

i wold never do anything without consulting his family first we are a very close family and they to are helping me try to think of ideas for her

kmmssg

Absolutely don't do ANYTHING without running it by your FI's family.  Those butterflies might be great in your eyes but they could turn a happy event into something dreadful for his parents and other relatives.  They will be painfully aware of her absence and will want to be happy for you and FI.  A surprise reminder could send them into tears.  Please just run it by them.  I'm sure they will love you for the gesture but they need to be aware of what it is, be ok with it, and have no surprises.