A little frustrated? That doesn't explain how I feel...

bethanyj6811

Well, now I'm just I don't even know, because I had to push off the wedding until next year, due to a death in the family about a month ago, which caused me to get behind on my wedding planning and my wedding date was for June 8 of this year. I am now unsure of when to have the wedding or anything, and even worse is that I have to start from scratch because it was my step-mother who died, and she was supposed to be in the wedding, and I came to live with my father to help with my 8 year old brother who has disabilities. kinda rough on me, not to mention, she died the night before my birthday, so this was not a good past month. sorry to put this all out there but I needed to vent.

blgrout

I'm sorry to hear about your stepmom.  That's a lot to go through, you don't have to make a decision about the wedding right away.  Take some time to adjust, since it sounds like you've had to deal with a lot lately.  The wedding will come together when you're ready.

bethanyj6811

thank you!

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I don't mean to sound insensitive, but I am shocked at how self centered your post sounds. Your step mother died leaving, what sounds like, an 8 year old with disabilities and your father, behind and all you can think about is your wedding timeline and the fact that she ruined your birthday dying. Wow.

J&K10910

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_a-little-frustrated-that-doesnt-explain-how-i-feel?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:b56f8634-027a-4cd1-9857-58dde20adec4Post:86d4ac0e-5606-4c70-8301-cd39e05d9bd5">Re: A little frustrated? That doesn't explain how I feel...</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't mean to sound insensitive, but I am shocked at how self centered your post sounds. Your step mother died leaving, what sounds like, an 8 year old with disabilities and your father, behind and all you can think about is your wedding timeline and the fact that she ruined your birthday dying. Wow.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

Ditto this.  I mean, I get how it can be overwhelming, and the wedding is just one more thing... but her death affected other people and other things than just you and your wedding, and maybe it would help put things in perspective to remember that.

kmmssg

Sometimes a good vent  is great medicine for getting things straight in your mind.  I don't think you were trying to be shallow, I'm guessing you are feeling kind of overwhelmed with everything and you are just trying to figure it out.  I wish you the best in working everything out.

bethanyj6811

People, I have been stressed... and you call me shallow and self absorbed???????????? WTF!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm dealing with grief... I was just venting about what is going on.. thank you to those who understand... and sorry it seemed that way... by the way... didn't you read the whole post? I said that I help my father. I am his rock right now... you think I'm shallow, well the whole reason I was posting was to vent, and to ask whether I should postpone... I wasn't saying she ruined it. I am sad she is gone. don't judge me by what you think I meant. I don't even ask for attention. I'm just trying to figure out what to do because of this.

CaitlinLoiko

Those have got to be on the top 10 list of things not to say to a grieving person. Of course she is talking about this in relation to her wedding, she is on a wedding website.

OP, I'm so sorry for your loss and everything else. Just take it one day at a time for now. (hugs)