So, my dad has made me an offer that I'm not sure if I should refuse... he says that he'll give me the 8-10,000 dollars that we would have spent on my wedding in cash for a downpayment on a house if I just have a small, private wedding with immediate family and close friends. We would still have a small get-together/cookout at my aunt's house afterward. I'm not huge on parties and dancing anyway, but I just don't want this to be something that I regret.
Several of my already-married friends have told me to take the money and run; they don't remember much about their wedding day except being exhausted and worrying about food running out/guest boredom.
I know that there's no way anyone can tell me what to do, but advice/your own experiences would help me to keep all factors in mind. Thanks.