Oh, Wedding Month Boards.

sonya+adam

People on the Wedding Month boards should really lurk in the other boards for a while. 

This one girl on my Month Board was talking about all the progress she's made and how she just can't wait for the time to pass by (which, I get. I'm anxious for the time to pass too.), and she mentions that she's already asked her entire wedding party. Our wedding month is August 2014. 

I told her that she ideally should have asked much, much later down the road in case things happen, as they often do, but obviously it was too late for that now. She then proceeded to tell me that her BMs were mature, and if any of them should bow out, she had plenty of friends to replace them with. 

Again, I told her that that would be incredibly rude, and she should NOT do that, and I gave her reasons why not. 

Her response: "Don't worry. I know what I'm doing. Thanks anyway." Plus some other words.

COOL. Needless to say, I was annoyed.

Barbiiieee

I have a really strange month board too.

misssunshine17

Mine is weird too. Not welcoming at all and bad advice all over. 

jennylee813

Yup. Month boards are 'special.'

Mine is the same way. Every once in a while I stop by there, but it hurts my brain, so I leave.

ljsquintz

That's too bad - I actually found my month board (October 2012) to be super helpful, friendly and supportive (but not of bad ideas).  Sorry yours aren't so great.

lls31

My wedding month board was actually pretty good for the most part.  There were some newcomers here and there who needed a little kick in the butt, but it was overall a good place to chat.  A small group of us actually became friends and some of us ended up meeting IRL (and we're in the process of making plans to meet up again soon). 

SlothGoals

I haven't experienced too much crazy on my month board. So far the ladies are just supportive and excited.

HobokensFury

Month boards are pretty much Wedding Bee- they love to blow smoke and rainbows.  For the most part mine wasn't too bad but there were some crazies.

Peledreamsofrain

Yeah my month board was a lot like wedding bee.  One girl actually posted about how angry she was with her grandmother for declining to attend the wedding due to health reasons.

I told her that perhaps she should find some sympathy for her poor grandmother, who was stuck all alone in her home missing a family event, instead of being angry with her.  All the other girls came ot the OP's defense.  It boggled my mind.  How could you possibly defend being angry at someone for having health problems?  Seriously?

ohmrs2014

My month board is pretty ok so far.  We are excited and supportive, but I haven't seen any bad advice going around yet LOL.

Salsera29

I'm still pretty new here, but I feel like the wedding month boards are like the friend you go to when you want to be told what you want to hear, and the international boards are like the friend you go to when you need an honest opinion about whether or not you're being an jerk.

I've learned so much lurking on these boards, it scares me to think about how many jerky things I could have done without even realizing.  

jennipea382

I hope no one thinks that about my month board! Mine is pretty good at being friendly, but also telling people our honest opinions. I think it all depends on who ends up posting there.

sonya+adam

Yeah, like, the girls are friendly, but they just need some sense knocked into them. Or at least be willing to hear the advice that others have.

HobokensFury

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_oh-wedding-month-boards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:c03692be-d6c0-4fc6-839a-3704a24f7efbPost:47bac387-e38d-4cb2-892c-d7fd0f083bd9">Re: Oh, Wedding Month Boards.</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm still pretty new here, but I fee<strong>l like the wedding month boards are like the friend you go to when you want to be told what you want to hear, </strong>and the international boards are like the friend you go to when you need an honest opinion about whether or not you're being an jerk. I've learned so much lurking on these boards, it scares me to think about how many jerky things I could have done without even realizing.  
Posted by Salsera29[/QUOTE]

This is exactly why I say they're like wedding bee. 

jennipea382

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_oh-wedding-month-boards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:c03692be-d6c0-4fc6-839a-3704a24f7efbPost:a0c146db-6d9b-4075-b0ec-85980878f191">Re: Oh, Wedding Month Boards.</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, like, the girls are friendly, but they just need some sense knocked into them. Or at least be willing to hear the advice that others have.
Posted by sonya+adam[/QUOTE]

That's true. I think the girls on my board have taken it pretty well when people have given them advice they probably didn't want to hear. It's kinda sad when a grown adult can't take it!

Sharpschruter22

I love my month board of May 2013. We all have gotten pretty close and after our secret Santa gift exchange, we started a FB group and pretty much just post there now.

cnf2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_oh-wedding-month-boards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:c03692be-d6c0-4fc6-839a-3704a24f7efbPost:25b2fc35-3978-4fcb-9199-3d1976df8d9b">Re:Oh, Wedding Month Boards.</a>:
[QUOTE]I love my month board of May 2013. We all have gotten pretty close and after our secret Santa gift exchange, we started a FB group and pretty much just post there now.
Posted by Sharpschruter22[/QUOTE]

<div>This is why the June 2013 board is pretty much dead. The small cluser of us who got along all migrated to a private FB group. However, we do still linger and give out advice (ettiquette based, we try to helpful, not wedding bee-ish) to the newbs who are still somehow popping up. </div>

tirathemrs

OKAY LET ME CLEAR THE AIR SINCE APPARENTLY THIS THREAD WAS MADE ON MY BEHALF....THANKS TO sonya+adam

I told you that i had initially chose my wedding party and advised those who i wanted to be in it because i was supposed to get married August of 2013 and i was already in September of 2012 so yeah i had already spoken with a few of my friends advising them of my engagement and what was going on, but TRUST ME I KNOW HOW TO TAKE ADVICE AT LEAST GOOD ADVICE WHEN NECESSARY and yours didnt matter and wasnt needed nor necessary at the time......

Now, let me also say I have plenty of sense and I know right from wrong as well as I know how to plan weddings and i have planned several, and yes being out over a year or two years can be a bit too long to tell anyone that you want them in a wedding party but again i was already within a year. And for you to come to another board and whine and complain like a little girl about something you have no idea of makes me further believe your a little salty about the MOD position that you think im trying to get LOL...I have sooo many other things in life that im concerned about other than that position IE: IM NOT INTERESTED IN IT THAT BAD...you can have it....

So to end my long rant ill just say you should first learn to understand the situation and learn about the persons issues before you go ASSuming and posting to others about me and my wedding....THANK YOU!!!

tirathemrs

UHH StageManager14  
What did you find so wrong with my post because i surely didnt see anything wrong with what i said and how it was stated?!? 

freebread03

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_oh-wedding-month-boards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:c03692be-d6c0-4fc6-839a-3704a24f7efbPost:5521eb65-572e-4700-b522-1a5e9a91c638">Re: Oh, Wedding Month Boards.</a>:
[QUOTE]UHH StageManager14   What did you find so wrong with my post because i surely didnt see anything wrong with what i said and how it was stated?!?  
Posted by misstira[/QUOTE]



Pretty sure It was the lack of punctuation, and, among other things, the lack of understanding between the difference between "your" and "you're". She wasn't saying there was something wrong with what you said.