So my FFIL apparently hates me. And Idk what I did to make him hate me. Though apparently I did it before he met me. The latest incident was yesterday I had an exfriend (my godsons father...long story) txt me randomly to tell me his wife (godsons mother and also an exfriend) left him. I asked why, he told me why, he then tried to guilt me into coming to hang out with him and failed (apparently he realizes he has no friends and he'll try to be a better person...blah blah blah). I told him no 1 I'm at work and 2 soon as I get off work I'm going to bed. So anyway while that was happening I was txting FI and basically going WTF?
Well fast forward to today and said incident. FFIL called FI on FI's way to work to chat and check up on him and FI told him about the txting with exfriend and me telling him about it and reading exfriends txts to him to try and prove to his father that I don't keep secrets and that I can see through mens "tricks" (his fathers words. Apparently I'm female so I'm dumb enough to fall for mens "tricks" and let them do whatever). So his father responded with "they aren't trying to stay with you are they?" (why would "they" be trying to stay with us? She left him they're not a "they" anymore), "I wouldn't have responded to the txts" (I probably shouldn't but I only do it so FI and I can keep up with our godson and I tell FI about every txt I get), "I'm afraid for you son cause when you say I do that's it", and my favorite "I think she's used to a lifestyle you can't provide" (apparently cause my parents drive nice "new" cars (as in bought in the last 2 years) and own a nice house (all of which they make monthly payments on) we're upperclass and "rich"...whereas he paid cash for his late 80's early 90's truck and lives in a poorer neighborhood (was nice when they moved in 25 years ago went downhill real bad though)). He's actually told FI that once I use him for all the money he's got (FI laughed and said what money?) I'm going to leave him like I did my ex. He doesn't believe a husband can rape a wife which is why I divorced my ex.
He also doesn't approve of us getting married. He actually told FI to live with me, knock me up, but don't marry me cause then he's stuck for life. He doesn't approve of spending money on a wedding cause it's a waste. My retort when he goes on and on about how we should just go to the courthouse and call it done "Why should I hide the fact I'm marrying your son? I'm not ashamed of him, I wanna let everyone know that he's mine!" He asked FI tonight (direct qoute from txt) "Meant 2 ask u ! Am I gonna b rbquired 2 wear a suit n Sherry a dress 2 ur funeral opps weddin?"
Idk what to do anymore. I know FI should handle it and he has on several occasions told his dad to back off and get over it but he won't listen. I about to the point I want to lock him in a padded cell with my stepmother and an angry flying monkey who has lots of poo LOL!
And on the note of my stepmother apparently she's a lying b*&@%! I went down last month to go with my sis and cousin to get their dresses (or at least pick them out cause my cousin didn't know the next time she'd have off between now and the wedding and she wanted to get advice from a consultant on what to do since she'll be 5 mths pregnant then! YAY I'm gonna be an "aunt"!) and my stepmother told me not to worry about my sis's cause she didn't wanna be my MOH. Well I was txting my sis tonight and I point blank asked her "Do you want to be my MOH or not?" and she said "Yes I do provided I can get a ride" (which probably means that even though our daddy RSVPed yes he'll be a no show the day of). I told her not to worry about the ride she could go with mammaw, aunt debbie, or I could come get her the night before. I'm so tired of my stepmother trying to ruin my life and torture my little sister. If my sis doesn't end up as emotionally/mentally scarred as I am from that woman it'll be a miracle. I doubt she'll end up as scarred as me though cause she hasn't had an abusive prick of a husband yet (least I hope not....she's 13 lol!)
here endth my rant....I just had to get that off my chest. Thanks to any who attempt to read it! And I bolded the ()ed parts to try and make it easier to read.....sorry if it doesn't!