Bridal Shower Questions!

Stoven

I am struggling with my bridal shower and it hasn't even remotely happened yet.  Who sends out the invites? Me or my bridesmaids? Who pays for them?  Do you usually serve food?  If so, do you get light catering or have people eat before hand?  Maybe make punch and light snacks and bring your own food???

I'm freakin out a little here.  I live in AZ and my bridesmaids are in MI so it's kinda hard to coordinate stuff cross country.

Any help is greatly appreciated!

laurenclaire1386

It's rude to throw your own shower. If someone wants to throw you a shower, they will. And then they'll be the ones taking care of all this stuff. The point is, don't worry about any of it. All you should contribute to your own bridal shower is a guest list.

MyNameIsNot

It is very rude to host your own shower.  It is also rude to ask for one or to let on that you are expecting one. 

If someone wants to host a shower for you, they will come to you and offer to do so.  Sometimes BMs throw them, sometimes mothers throw them, sometimes other relatives throw them, and sometimes no one throws them.  Whoever offers takes on the responsiblity to plan and pay for it and handle everything, including invites. 

A shower is a gift to you from the person who throws it. 

Stoven

That's what is happening here.. My bridesmaids want to throw one for me, I just wasn't aware of who actually took care of the logistics and invitations.  Good to know! I will let them know that they are in charge of all of that and I will supply the guest list.

Thanks!

stina93446

Please don't throw your own shower. This job is not for you. It comes off as gift grabby. Leave the planning to your bms. They'll make it happen, no matter where they are if they can. If they can't, someone else will do it or you go without one.

banana468

Don't worry about this.  A shower is thrown for you but not by you.  People may ask for your input but beyond that, this isn't something that you need to worry about handling.