I hate to be a downer, because I am so very in love and excited to be married... but my bridesmaid are (geographically) all over the place, and other than my pushy FMIL and my well-meaning but opinionless fiance, I am basically doing everything alone. His groomsmen are totally worthless (for the wedding- I love them as friends!) so I'm also planning the bachelor and bachelorette parties. To top it all off, we are only having a four month engagement, so everything is happening really fast.
So I'm wondering if I'm alone in feeling very isolated. The worst part is, I'm not even sure what I want from anyone. The root of the whole thing is that I don't even want a traditional wedding. I have said from the beginning that I would prefer to elope or have a destination wedding, and my lovely future husband and his family nearly died from shock... Of course, none of them want to help plan anything, they just want to have attitudes when I don't magically read their minds. I have been criticized on entertainment (I wanted a band, was then told to book a specific DJ), venues (I chose a place not owned by a family friend), flowers (the number I want the bridesmaids to carry! I cannot make this up.), bridal party selection, and even colors! (which, by the way, are gorgeous- a deep red, gold, ivory, and black.) My fiance is trying to be very supportive, he just isn't really into this stuff. He has spent evenings stuffing envelopes and doing a LOT of smiling and nodding- the things I would expect from bridesmaids, normally... All I can say is that I don't think I'm going to enjoy my own wedding, and I cannot wait for the marriage part of this nonsense.
so back to the original point- does anyone feel like they are stranded on some sort of bridal island? Am I taking crazy pills?