Leaving

roxirose

I am leaving this forum. People here are judgemental and rude and extremely obnoxious to me. I have found one out of 50 people here that have been even slightly happy for me. I am happy, so please don't act better than me. I wish you all the best in your marriages because if you are so quick to judge other people, don't expect to be such a better person or wife than I will be.

To those of you who are reading this and are genuinely nice to EVERYONE who has done nothing wrong, I wish I could have gotten to know you.

I will still use this site, and for those of you who would live to prove me wrong about this, please private message me and I would love to get to know you.

dtbluv

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[QUOTE]I am leaving this forum. People here are judgemental and rude and extremely obnoxious to me. I have found one out of 50 people here that have been even slightly happy for me. I am happy, so please don't act better than me. I wish you all the best in your marriages because if you are so quick to judge other people, don't expect to be such a better person or wife than I will be. To those of you who are reading this and are genuinely nice to EVERYONE who has done nothing wrong, I wish I could have gotten to know you. I will still use this site, and for those of you who would live to prove me wrong about this, please private message me and I would love to get to know you.
Posted by roxirose[/QUOTE]

<div>I do sincerely wish you good luck in your marriage, but I also hope you take peoples advice to heart.  Nobody here is hoping you fail, just that you change your mind about getting married right away.

That being said, I feel like every post you make just proves how immature you are. </div>

QueerFemme

Peace out kiddo.

thejucheidea

RamonaFlowers

Don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out. The TK gods HATE ass-prints on their doors.

cwaggoner07

I truly wish you all the luck in the world. I don't think marriage is going to be as easy as you think it will be, but I would never truly wish unhappiness on anyone. I don't think anyone here wishes unhappiness on a random internet stranger. Good luck.

zitiqueen

Awww, what's the matter, pumpkin?

thejucheidea

Confession: I harshly judge anyone who spells 'judgmental' as 'judgemental'.

shanding4787

Buh bye.

HobokensFury

Are you going to stomp your feel and slam the door on your way out like the child that you are?

FWIW No one wished you unhappiness or a bad marriage.  We just have more life experience than you and urged you to get some as well before getting married.  Not one person said you should be together and love each other. We said you shouldn't get married.  

EcoBrideSuki

Cause you know you're just so different when you put religion into it....

EcoBrideSuki

Also...

StephBeanWed61502

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[QUOTE]Along came a huff, and she left in it.
Posted by 1covejack[/QUOTE]

In spite of the creative use of GIFs by others, cove, I think this is my favorite post of the thread.

StephBeanWed61502

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[QUOTE]Not going to lie, it makes me sad when I take the time to type out a long response that is not nasty and includes some hopefully useful advice and then the OP gets all huffy and leaves. I want those 10 minutes of my life back. OP - I would encourage you to go back and reread the responses a few<strong> years</strong> from now when <strong>you've finished going through puberty and</strong> your emotions aren't this high-rolling. Use the critical thinking skills that high school should have taught you, carefully read through the responses and see what we actually said vs. what you and your emotions think we said. You'll find that they weren't as insulting as you think they were.
Posted by laurelrenee1[/QUOTE]

FTFY.

EcoBrideSuki

JaneAustensGhost

If someone told me they were married at 17, I would automatically assume they were poor, pregnant, and/or stupid.

I acknowledge that the knee-jerk reaction would definitely need to be questioned, but that would my first, unfiltered reaction.

HobokensFury

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[QUOTE]Not going to lie, it makes me sad when I take the time to type out a long response that is not nasty and includes some hopefully useful advice and then the OP gets all huffy and leaves. I want those 10 minutes of my life back. OP - I would encourage you to go back and reread the responses a few days from now when your emotions aren't this high-rolling. <strong>Use the critical thinking skills that high school should have taught you, carefully read through the responses and see what we actually said vs. what you and your emotions think we said. You'll find that they weren't as insulting as you think they were.</strong>
Posted by laurelrenee1[/QUOTE]

But OP didn't go to high school. She was home schooled which explains a lot.

lindsaynewbride10

It's probably for the best, you've basically made an a** of yourself in the past few days anyway. Good luck with your marriage.

ljsquintz

Good luck to you. I have read your previous posts and while many of the replies contained good, constructive advice, I could have done without the patronizing use of terms such as "my dear", "pumpkin" and "sweetheart" in others. I'm sorry you had to deal with that; I get that you were just looking for some advice.
I got married at 32 and I have no regrets. I know that I am very different and have different aspirations/needs/priorities than my 17-year-old self. I would not have wanted to be married at 17 because I had so much of the world to see and explore, and I wanted to date different types of people to see what was best for me. I am so glad I took the time to do that. But I am not going to tell you what to do, just my two cents. Best of luck in the future.

cwaggoner07

I find it humorous when someone announces they are leaving. I used to do that when I was mad and young and I wanted more attention.

Ali092011

Here's a very important internet lesson. Keep it in mind next time you want to gain friends, support, or someone to listen to you: People on the internet ONLY KNOW WHAT YOU TELL THEM. You pretty much stormed in here with a flashing sign on your forehead that says "I'M SEVENTEEN!" If you didn't want people to tell you you're too young for marriage you should have done two things:

1. Not told everyone that you are seventeen. If you had started posting about wedding planning or guest lists or house hunting or anything else besides your age, I can guarantee this would not have blown up in your face like this.
2. Not asked everyone to be "honest" with you about whether or not we think you're too young to be married.

You got exactly what you asked for. Now what was your problem again?

RamonaFlowers

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[QUOTE]I find it humorous when someone announces they are leaving. I used to do that when I was mad and young and I wanted more attention.
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]

I always see it like "I'm running away from home, and you can't stop me! I mean it! I'm really going! There's absolutely nothing you can do about it! I'm really going now! I packed up my knapsack and everything! Really, you can't stop me! You're going to miss me when I'm gone, I mean it! I'm really, really, really going now, and you can't stop me! ... okay, seriously, I need to know that you're going to miss me if I actually leave, what can I do to make you love me already?!?!?!?!?!"

GardenMaven

So roxirose cannot live with her FI unless they are married due to being a devout Catholic.  As someone who was raised Catholic, I am wondering how that no birth control thing is going to work out.  I hope that her fiance has a good job that can support him, her and the babies.  I also know that once you have children, it is more difficult to finish college.  Not impossible, but harder, and with limited financials, it will be even worse.  Which of course will not strain the relationship or anything....

That popped into my mind today, so I thought I'd share.

Viczaesar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Leaving : I always see it like "I'm running away from home, and you can't stop me! I mean it! I'm really going! There's absolutely nothing you can do about it! I'm really going now! I packed up my knapsack and everything! Really, you can't stop me! You're going to miss me when I'm gone, I mean it! I'm really, really, really going now, and you can't stop me! ... okay, seriously, I need to know that you're going to miss me if I actually leave, what can I do to make you love me already?!?!?!?!?!"
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]
<em><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000163/" rel="nofollow">Captain James Hook</a></em>: No stopping me this time, Smee. This is it. Don't make a move Smee, not a step. My finger's on the trigger. Don't try to stop me, Smee.
<em><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0001364/" rel="nofollow">Smee</a></em>: Oh, not again.
<em><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000163/" rel="nofollow">Captain James Hook</a></em>: This is it. Don't try to stop me this time, Smee. Don't try to stop me this time, Smee. Don't you dare try to stop me this time, Smee, try to stop me. Smee, you'd better get up off your ass. Get over here, Smee!
<em><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0001364/" rel="nofollow">Smee</a></em>: I'm coming. I'm coming.
<em><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000163/" rel="nofollow">Captain James Hook</a></em>: Stop me! This is not a joke! I'm committing suicide!
[<em>Smee makes the gun go off which aims at the toy ship in the pool model</em>]
<em><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000163/" rel="nofollow">Captain James Hook</a></em>: Don't ever frighten me like that again.
<em><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0001364/" rel="nofollow">Smee</a></em>: I'm sorry.
<em><a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000163/" rel="nofollow">Captain James Hook</a></em>: What are you? Some kind of a sadist?

catrb89

You have a lot of growing up to do. You came here expecting everyone to blow sunshines and rainbows up your ass, but that's not how life works. Everyone at 17 thinks they're the expection to the rule, but until you pay bills and live with a person, you really have no idea what adulthood really is. Take the advice people gave to you. No one was rude, they were just honest. And sometimes honesty is not exactly what you want to hear.