Starting from scratch

rfaivrecarver

I was three months away from my big day when I learned I need to scrap my wedding and scale it WAY back. and postpone it to a later date. I am bummed about postponing it as it was around the corner, however my wedding just got a lot cooler. We needed to cut cut costs due to the financial strain. My fiancé and I have moved it to a semi elopement in Hawaii!!! A small ceremony on the beach and then a dinner in a nice restaurant. Of course anyone is welcome to come who was on our guest list. And I thank god everyone is being so understanding, luckily we haven't paid for much, luckily my bridesmaids hadnt made travel arrangements/bought their dresses.luckily our immediate family can afford a vacation in Hawaii and are cool with going and understand.
So everything is working out better than I could imagine. So why can't I be ok with pushing the big day back? I guess that comes with time, and time has a way of flying right.

blgrout

I can see why you're upset, that would suck to push back your date.  But it sounds like you did it for the right reasons, and everything will work out a lot better in the end.

And your new date will come before you know it. 

rfaivrecarver

Yeah. I mean I have so much other good stuff going, my wonderful fiance is funding my nursing degree. It has been a dream of mine to be a nurse since we have been together for 5 years. There was just always something in the way of my going. So the fact that Kevin wants to fund this brings me to tears you know. Then we have touble having an open dialouge about money so Kevin is finally open to some couples therapy so we can communicate better, something else I have wanted for a little while. 'I mean seriously all this awesome stuff. I feel bad for being bummed, I am soooo glad you guys get it. No date yet, my Dad got us tickets for our honeymoon in Hawaii and we want to change the date on them. We have till the end of the year to change the tickets at no charge. I need to either do it next winter break (boooooo too far) or between summer quarter and fall (cross your fingers this would be ideal for me) I mean plus it's HAWAII! I used to want a weddig in Hawaii before i got engaged even, so in reality I am getting my dream wedding, I just thought is was totally not doable, but to my surprise it is actually not very expensive. Plus I am doing aa real low maintence weddimng due to classes such as microbiology, chemistry, and developmental pysch I mean lordy lord! I got no time for a high maintenance anything! Plus I still gotta work! The mortgage aint gonna pay itself!

rfaivrecarver

I just thought of something. I should really make some friends in these chatrooms on the knot. I am pretty sure I will have a few meltdowns over even the lowest of low maintenance weddings, and I should have people who know my situation, so I have people to go to during a meltdown. Good thinking huh!