picking the date..how'd you do it?

trinalo

FI's family relocated to South Carolina a few months before we got engaged. The weekend of August 7th was the latest weekend in the year we could have picked before his little sisters need to be back in SC for school stuff.

naenay797

My fiance is a firefighter and has 6 days off in a row every 9 days. (I know, rough schedule) We also needed to work around when my future stepson could be here since he lives in another state. So it had to be Summer. The only full weekend my FI has off in June is the weekend of the 26th. So June 26th it is.

arv266

Our first plan was to have our wedding at Walt Disney World, as we had already booked a joint family vacation with my sister (and her family) and my brother (and his family) and our kids.... He didnt think his sisters would come to his wedding, and I have to admit that I was completely and totally wrapped in a Dreams Do Come True wedding...  I realized that having it in Disney would alienate his family as it would be difficult for them to attend.  Plan B - 11/28/10 in NYC, which is the Sunday after Thanksgiving.  We figured it was the one time of the year that most of the family is around.

Reghan

These are funny! I've never been asked how we picked a date before. Originally, we wanted to marry on the day we became official (which was, conveniently, a Saturday). But getting married outdoors in OK in the middle of the summer is not a very nice thing to do to your guests! For a while we were considering having a DW, which then made the date the last Saturday in February. When we finally decided to have it at home outdoors, it had to be early summer/late spring and we had to be out of school. At the time, FSIL was engaged and chose the same date that we wanted(!) so we picked the Saturday after that. They broke off their engagement, but we kept the date anyway. Little did we know at the time, it looks like it's going to end up being the perfect day for an outdoor wedding.

fairy_diva

Most people love our answer, we got engaged Dec 31st, 2009 and wanted to be married this year.

1. FI is an avid deer hunter.  In WV deer season starts in mid-October and runs through Dec 31st.  Most of his Saturdays, if not working, is spent in the woods.

2. I wanted time to plan, so it had to be July or later.  Esp since my dress won't be here until May 31st.  July & Aug for an outdoor ceremony will MELT you in southern WV.

3. The venue I wanted will give us an outdoor ceremony. It fills up very fast.  When I called they had 2 weekends available in Sept.  Labor Day weekend and the 25th.  The 25th won because I didn't want to screw up people's holiday weekend plans.

JeFlanigan

C_Grimmer I love it, i think that's awesome!!
My Fi proposed on our 5 year anniversary (Mar.12), and WE decided we wanted it either March or September.  After deciding it would be 2001, I decided September made more sense (as its going to be me who does most of the planning, I gave myself the time).  Trying to keep it with the anniversary date, September 12 is a Monday so we back tracked two days... September tenth.   9.10.11 Never even occurred to me, until about two weeks ago, in a blog post on, none other than, The Knot. 

californiadreamin07

Well, I wanted to do it at the end of July, because it meant I'd have more time in my job to make money before law school, but FI military schedule got changed, so I pushed it as little forward as possible.  I had originally wanted to do it 4th of July weekend, but my venue didn't do events on that Sunday, so I pushed it a week before, which is my dad's birthday (June 26).  He keeps telling me it's the best birthday present ever, and it is what would have been the 50th anniversary of the JOP's parents (his dad passed away many years ago).

charlenen

I avoided May-Sep coz it was too hot where I'm getting married. We also wanted it to be on a Saturday as many of the guests are out-of-town. Then we decided on the date based on when the reception/ceremony venue is available. 

megk8oz

DH and I got engaged in March 08. We had to pay for the wedding ourselves and quite a few times had to push back, because of our money situation. We refused to book anything until we knew we could 100% afford it.

We finally got everything in order last summer. We were tired of waiting, and figured that we wouldn't need a fully year to actually plan, since the venue we wanted was pretty inclusive ... so we went to our venue in the middle of last July and pretty much said "We have money, we don't want to wait too long, what's the first date in 2010 you have available?".

We got married on 01/01/10. We think it's pretty awesome, lol.

catemeg

We're not even engaged, but we know when we want to get married.  He finishes law school in May 2012, takes the bar in July 2012, and essentially between now and then it would be impossible for him to take more than 2 days off at a time, so a honeymoon wouldn't be happening.  So we want to do it post-bar exam.  And he'll get his results approximately 6 weeks after taking the bar, at which point the Marines (yes, he's a Marine) will give him his orders when to report for duty.  We want to do it during those 6 weeks so that we won't have to worry about him taking the days off, or having his orders change so that we'd have to reschedule everything.  It's like an oasis in the middle of a storm!  So we think we'll get married in August, a few weeks after he takes the bar to allow us to take a few weeks for a honeymoon.

karmellah

i asked FI what his fav months are to get married in and he said, May,. june, or august. So I said August. So far we have aug 27th, but whenever the preist is free is when we'll doit. i hear too many brides changing their dates 3 4 times because of the preist.

sicily1126

We chose my FI father's birthday. He passed away 2 years ago, and we wanted to do something to honor him 

Sessac81

My boss and I were both getting married and talking about wedding dates.  We both thought 10-10-10 would be a great date, and easy to remember, so I mentioned it to my FI.  He looked at me, all suprised and said "that's my mom's BD" (she has passed and I had NO idea it was her BD.  He said that it would mean a lot to him to get married on his mom's BD.  But, then we realized that his family reunion would be on 10/10, so we decided on 10/9. That way, when I go to his family reunion (which will be my first reunion with his family), I'll be his wife!

OpalineTowers

Our anniversary is on October ninth. We chose the eighth because it's a Saturday and it'll be easy to remember how long we've been together. Plus, the weather in October is gorgous down here.

pavingtheroad

We knew we wanted the summer. June was out because both sides has many kids still in school. I liked the idea of July. We then went between the 10th and 17th but 07.10.10 sounded better to us.

ustanerd

We were planning to go on honeymoon in June, so we picked the first weekend in May that would accomodate my work schedule. Then we decided not to honeymoon until September, but the May wedding date stuck anyway. Just as well, I guess, it will be five years and one week from when we met.

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Ours was mostly about the weather. We wanted to avoid scorching hot weather, so June through August was out. We wanted to avoid months when it rains almost every day, so it had to be before May (although weather this year was weird so it didn't matter so much anyway). So that left April. We didn't want the first weekend because that's Easter, third weekend was my dad's birthday, so we just picked the second weekend.

dulcis_femina

We chose ours for a couple of reasons.  We wanted to have a our wedding in late October/early November because that was around the time we got together.  Second, I have a terrible time remembering dates, so my fiance thought it would be neat to get married on November 5th because of the little poem inspired by Guy Fawkes that says "Remember, remember the 5th of November..."  It's a bit cheesy, but its also kind of cute and I will definitely remember.

jrpetrik

We'd originally picked June 2011 with no specific date, just shortly after we both graduate at the end of May (we're in grad school). Then we decided that waiting 17 months (at the time, obviously) was way too long, and we started thinking about December 2010. We figured this was as early as we could go and still be in a decent spot financially (yay for being students with no loans). Then, FI crunched some numbers and said that we could do August 2010. We then decided on 21 August based on various logistical matters.

littlemisssara

We both wanted a fall wedding - Spring/Summer is too warm and Winter is too close to the holidays. So we only looked at dates in sept, oct, nov...

I threw out Oct because i just dont like that month - i dont know why, I just dont.
Sept 4 was too early, sept 11 is sept 11 so we didnt want to get married on that date, sept 19 is the week before his sisters bday and we didnt want to be on our HM for that, and sept 25 is his sisters birthday, so that's out.

Everything past the first weekend in November seemed WAY too far away, so we decided on Nov 6 and ended up being able to book both venues for Nov 7. Only
24 more weeks to go!

Mikayla11

My FI and I had several factors that went into picking our date of March 12, 2011

Fall in Gainesville, FL is completely out of the question...everything in this town stops for Gator football.  Our venue is in the downtown area which is also were the tailgater's with orange and blue painted faces are drunkenly screaming and yelling.  Also people will insist that there is a TV at the reception so they can watch the game (I've seen it too many times before).

Winter is ugly in FL.  There's no snow, just brown plants.

Summer is ridiculous here, way too hot especially since my F-In-L's are visiting from Michigan for the 1st time ever.  My future FIL really likes to complain about the heat so I figured I'd avoid that all together.

Here's hoping next March will be just as pleasant as this years.

princesscorpio

FI want a time when my son was out of school and not around any major holiday. We decided on July , but early in the month because his birthday is late July.

mhickey426

I totally agree about the sweating and blizzard comments.  That left us to spring and fall. We went with the fall because we both love the colors.  We went with the date because we started dating Oct 9 and it would be our 4 year anniversary and was a Sat.  that was the only day the hall had booked so we went with 10/10/10 because its a cool date and because its a Sunday on columbus day weekend so it might as well be a sunday. Plus the fact that sundays are cheaper made it nice too.

naiadfae

We wanted a fall/winter wedding, since we're in Florida, but being in retail, its nearly impossible to get a day off let alone a week.  October is all about the kids getting ready for halloween(making our own costumes) so we chose September.  The last weekend was booked everywhere we could afford, the 19th is my parents anniversary, I didn't want the first weekend, so that left the weekend of 11th.  We booked on the 12th, which is now our football teams first homegame.

Piru

It's going to come down to time off between the two parts of an internship. I have June off so it will happen sometime then. I'm thinking right in the middle so I have time for last minute prep and for recuperation.

I was set on an outdoor wedding so summer was really the only option. I would prefer it to be in August or July since that's the most reliable weather here in OR but I will probably still be on an internship across the country.

If I weren't set on outdoors in Oregon, I would pick April 3rd since it's our anniversary but chances would be really good that it would be cold and rainy. So summer it is.