Double Dad trouble..

amoerland

He my issue. I have two dads. My real father and my step-dad. 

I don't have the best relationship with my real dad. But I have an amazing relationship with my step dad. (I call my real dad father or dad and my step daddy)

I already know what song I would dance to with my step dad. But I don't have on for my real dad and I don't want him to feel down. So I need a song for that. I have gone over tons of songs but I am not sure what song would be good since I don't really have the best relationship. 

One more thing...how would I do the walk down the aisle...My older sister did the half way thing...but I don't know about that..and some people say both but I don't want it to look like they are carrying me down...sigh any suggestions?

Thanks Mandy

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]He my issue. I have two dads. My real father and my step-dad.  I don't have the best relationship with my real dad. But I have an amazing relationship with my step dad. (I call my real dad father or dad and my step daddy) I already know what song I would dance to with my step dad. But I don't have on for my real dad and I don't want him to feel down. So I need a song for that. I have gone over tons of songs but I am not sure what song would be good since I don't really have the best relationship.  One more thing...how would I do the walk down the aisle...My older sister did the half way thing...but I don't know about that..and some people say both but I don't want it to look like they are carrying me down...sigh any suggestions? Thanks Mandy
Posted by amoerland[/QUOTE]
As far as the "real dad" dance, just skip it.  You don't have the best relationship, according to your own words, so it seems forced, and takes away the signifigance of the dance you're going with your step-father.  Plus, your guests don't need the torture of sitting through yet ANOTHER dance.  If you feel the need to dance with your father, just ask him to dance at some point throughout the night.

As far as the walk down the aisle, that's up to you.  You can do what your sister did, which is walk down halfway with one, and then halfway with the other.  You can have them both walk you, one on either side, with arms linked.  You can walk down by yourself.

amoerland

Not sure. I'm sure his feelings would be hurt. I am trying to work on the relationship a bit more. I don't like hurting peoples feelings esp with my family. But thank you for the advice so far! Means a lot.

(:

ichellemay1

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[QUOTE]He my issue. I have two dads. My real father and my step-dad.  I don't have the best relationship with my real dad. But I have an amazing relationship with my step dad. (I call my real dad father or dad and my step daddy) I already know what song I would dance to with my step dad. But I don't have on for my real dad and I don't want him to feel down. So I need a song for that. I have gone over tons of songs but I am not sure what song would be good since I don't really have the best relationship.  One more thing...how would I do the walk down the aisle...<strong>My older sister did the half way thing</strong>...but I don't know about that..and some people say both but I don't want it to look like they are carrying me down...sigh any suggestions? Thanks Mandy
Posted by amoerland[/QUOTE]

I was at a wedding where the girl had a situation similar to what you are describing and she did this.  It was very sweet and the bio Dad was thrilled to be included. 

I agree with PP on skipping the dance - that wouldn't be as easy to "split".

VRL

Another possible option is to walk down the aisle with one father, and have the father / daughter dance with the other.

Though I can concede that this may not be ideal.