brides

lovelylindsayy

wow... is it just me or are there alot of rude and judgemental brides on this site??
where are all my friendly texas gals at?!

jessienjeremy

I am in Corpus and our wedding is in Houston!

Congrats!!

lovelylindsayy

I hear ya TULA, many seem to think their way is the only right way though... but I guess Im more open-minded.  I think a person can state their opinion without being condemning, but that's just me!

lovelylindsayy

I graduated from TAMUCC.. goo islanders!! lol

lovelylindsayy

YEP.. Fiance is from here and his job is here so we are stuck... for now.

marissa_claire

Yeah, you also can't tell tone at all based on how someone writes something.  It's just words.  Sometimes I say something harsh but am meaning it in a way that "I'm really trying to help you from making a huge mistake" but it's just hard to read when there's only text.   

lovelylindsayy

Yea, I suppose that's true lol

Tula214

Agreed. Just before you snap back, try to clear things up. I find myself doing that sometimes. Also, try not to say things just out of anger, and if you do.. admit it. The women on here are very forgiving of misunderstandings.

lovelylindsayy

Im more of the ignoring type.  If i dont like or agree with what I hear thats fine. I can respect that we all have the right to have varying opinions.  ill just take my questions elsewhere, to those who have what I view as valuable input like my parents (and that is whether I agree or disagree with their opinions, they always have a solid case).  I feel so blessed to have wise parents and future in-laws.  This is something they have been through, many people on this site are in the same position i am and we are novice to wedding planning.

marissa_claire

Yeah, and actually, to follow up that too - I think every last girl on here has been picked on at one time or another.  I certainly have.  Sometimes it's words don't come out right and sometimes things are misunderstood because they are in text, so people don't always understand all of the background.  

All we can tell is what a girl says in a post, so if a bride comes on here griping that her mom's not paying for anything - other girls will be quickly to jump on her, but if the bride explains that maybe the backstory is that mom has told her for years that she has a bank account set aside for wedding stuff, it's a different story.  That's not the greatest example, but there's a lot of times where someone will come back and give more backstory that explains more and changes the situation.

lovelylindsayy

That's true, it's impossible to ever truely know anyones entire story or intentions.  I guess I thought there might be more support and mutual comrodery because we are all in the same boat to some degree.

brhinkle

Wow, Im from Texas and have yet to see any 'mean brides'...
 People are very oppinunated but shoot aren't they everywhere not just IRL?? Just because were all brides and brides to be doesn't mean we have to be all kittens and rainbows all the time ; )) Everyone means well and in their own "special" way are helping others out!
 
Its fun seeing all diffrent types of personalities and hearing diffrent opinions...

Please dont go posting stuff like this on the international boards...

Now this is great advice... 

ashleywhitsett

I am from TEXAS! I am currently attending Texas A&M University and my wedding is in February 2012 and I couldn't be more excited!

trix1223

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[QUOTE]Wow, Im from Texas and have yet to see any 'mean brides'...  People are very oppinunated but shoot aren't they everywhere not just IRL?? Just because were all brides and brides to be doesn't mean we have to be all kittens and rainbows all the time ; )) Everyone means well and in their own "special" way are helping others out!   Its fun seeing all diffrent types of personalities and hearing diffrent opinions...<strong> Please dont go posting stuff like this on the international boards...</strong> Now this is great advice... 
Posted by brhinkle[/QUOTE]


Ummmmm, this IS an international board.  OP:  When you put out an opinion or a question, or a request for feedback, you're leaving yourself open to getting opinions, answers, and feedback.

If you want validation only, then I suggest a local board or even weddingwire which I'm told is more unicorns and rainbows.  But it you want helpful, honest, albeit often blunt advice, this is the place to be.

We'll tell you what your friends and family will be thinking but won't say to your face because they don't want to hurt your feelings.  We don't have a vested interest in your feelings.  So I'd venture to say that our responses would be more helpful in the long run.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]I hear ya TULA, many seem to think their way is the only right way though... but I guess Im more open-minded.  I think a person can state their opinion without being condemning, but that's just me!
Posted by lovelylindsayy[/QUOTE]

Honestly, though, a lot of things people comment with here aren't their own opinions, it's accepted etiquette. So if you consider doing a potluck reception for example, a lot of people will come in and tell you "no, please don't do that, here's why -"

jessienjeremy

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[QUOTE]I am from TEXAS! I am currently attending Texas A&M University and my wedding is in February 2012 and I couldn't be more excited!
Posted by ashleywhitsett[/QUOTE]

Hello fellow Texan!

Are you getting married in Houston?

jmkes

Texas lady here!  Born & raised in Houston, getting married here, then moving to FW (where FI is from).

As far as opinions - there are ladies on here who say what they mean without holding back.  There are some who say what they think but it comes across the wrong way.  Then there are some (and y'all can't deny that a few of these types exist) that do take shots at others.  That's a risk you take when asking for advice or posting something on here.  It's a mix of all different personality types and ladies who may have different ways of speaking than others do.

ashleywhitsett

No I'm getting married back home in deep east texas!

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: brides : Hello fellow Texan! Are you getting married in Houston?
Posted by jessienjeremy[/QUOTE]