I cried today... my "friends" are so JEALOUS!

MyNameIsNot

Why is "they're just jealous" the knee-jerk response for any teenager who gets flak about doing something dumb?  

It's the same logic as every girl that is prettier than you is automatically a skank.

Maybe they aren't jealous.  Maybe you're just a 15 year old drama queen.  

Hatsumomo7

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[QUOTE]Seriously, I think you need to back away from the keyboard, because this post and the one on E are just making you look childish and immature.  And regardless of what you say happened, these posts are making it look like you're not the innocent one.  Pour yourself a drink and vent that way, instead of posting about how jealous everyone is of you.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
^This^

Rosie109

Maybe your gay friends are jealous of your right to get married when they can't?

MLekathLEEN

mehgank

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I cried today... my "friends" are so JEALOUS! : No more to the story but when people are MISERABLE they want u to be miserable as well. Misery loves company is definitely a true statement. They are not "good friends", one was actually one of my best friends for a little while and after we ended our friendship, she befriended people who didn't like me just to get back at me :( . She had absolutely nothing to do with these people while me and her were cool, I found that quite strange. Where in that post do I make it seem like I'm "better than them" because I'm getting married? <strong>They are all GAY, anyway!</strong> They don't plan on getting married any time soon and I don't think they really care about that but it's funny how people were happier and okay being my friend when I was single or in a rough relationship but as soon as I'm happy... everyone has something negative to say.
Posted by brittanyjterrell[/QUOTE]

The fact that you use that term in a derogatory way to describe your "friends" that you don't like disgusts me. Grownups don't speak that way. And by saying that, you're inviting a whole heap of negative comments, so next time you want to bitch about your piddly wedding drama, think before you start spewing terms like that. It's offensive and unnecessary.

aegrish

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I cried today... my "friends" are so JEALOUS! : <strong>The fact that you use that term in a derogatory way to describe your "friends" that you don't like disgusts me.</strong> Grownups don't speak that way. <strong>And by saying that, you're inviting a whole heap of negative comments,</strong> Posted by mehgank[/QUOTE]

so true.

jaytee16

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I cried today... my "friends" are so JEALOUS! : The fact that you use that term in a derogatory way to describe your "friends" that you don't like disgusts me. Grownups don't speak that way. And by saying that, you're inviting a whole heap of negative comments, so next time you want to bitch about your piddly wedding drama, think before you start spewing terms like that. It's offensive and unnecessary.
Posted by mehgank[/QUOTE]

<div>Could not agree more.</div>

Dferrari17

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[QUOTE]Why is "they're just jealous" the knee-jerk response for any teenager who gets flak about doing something dumb?   <strong>It's the same logic as every girl that is prettier than you is automatically a skank</strong>. Maybe they aren't jealous.  Maybe you're just a 15 year old drama queen.  
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

Wait... That's not true? Damn.

undyingmizery

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I cried today... my "friends" are so JEALOUS! : No more to the story but when people are MISERABLE they want u to be miserable as well. <strong>Misery loves company</strong> is definitely a true statement. They are not "good friends", one was actually one of my best friends for a little while and after we ended our friendship, she befriended people who didn't like me just to get back at me :( . She had absolutely nothing to do with these people while me and her were cool, I found that quite strange. Where in that post do I make it seem like I'm "better than them" because I'm getting married? They are all GAY, anyway! They don't plan on getting married any time soon and I don't think they really care about that but it's funny how people were happier and okay being my friend when I was single or in a rough relationship but as soon as I'm happy... everyone has something negative to say.
Posted by brittanyjterrell[/QUOTE]

I DO love company!

OP - You come off as a brat get over yourself. If  you don't like what people say it's a little option called "edit friends list" and then... you delete! WOW! FB drama disapears. It's almost like magic!

As for IRL- ignor it

OBX2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I cried today... my "friends" are so JEALOUS! : How are they making me look like I'm not innocent? I was genuinely hurt about what someone said about me and I was coming here to maybe get some advice and not <strong>be slandered by the SUPER rude "brides"</strong> on this board but I knew that would be too much to ask. Oh, well. I will just talk to my FI about it, as usual. No more posts needed .
Posted by brittanyjterrell[/QUOTE]

I knew this was coming.

Do you even know the definition of slander?  Well here ya go:
<div class="header"><h2 class="me"><font size="4" color="#000000">slan·der</font></h2><span>  </span><span class="pronset"> <span><a id="fncyb" href="http://app.dictionary.com/signup/popup?source=favorites&fnCallback=loginuser&callbackAction=addToFav&domaindest=reference.com"></a></span><span style="display:none;" class="show_ipapr"><span class="prondelim">/</span><span class="pron"><font size="3">ˈslæn<img class="luna-Img" src="http://sp.dictionary.com/dictstatic/dictionary/graphics/luna/thinsp.png" border="0" alt="" />dər</font></span><span class="prondelim">/</span> <a href="http://null/help/luna/IPA_pron_key.html" target="_blank"><img class="luna-Img" src="http://sp.dictionary.com/dictstatic/g/d/dictionary_questionbutton_default.gif" border="0" alt="" /></a> <span style="display:inline;" class="pron_toggle"><a title="Click to show spelled" class="pronlink"><u>Show Spelled</u></a></span></span><span style="margin-top:8px;display:block;" class="show_spellpr"><span class="prondelim">[</span><span class="pron"><span class="boldface"><strong>slan</strong></span>-der</span><span class="prondelim">]</span> <a href="http://null/help/luna/Spell_pron_key.html" target="_blank"><img class="luna-Img" src="http://sp.dictionary.com/dictstatic/g/d/dictionary_questionbutton_default.gif" border="0" alt="" /></a> <span style="display:inline;" class="pron_toggle"><a title="Click to show IPA" class="pronlink"><u>Show IPA</u></a></span></span></span> </div><div class="body"><div class="pbk"><span class="pg"><span><strong><em><span style="background-color:transparent;cursor:default;">–noun</span> </em></strong></span></span><div class="luna-Ent"><span class="dnindex"><span><font color="#333333"><span style="background-color:transparent;cursor:default;">1.</span> </font></span></span><div class="dndata"><span><span>defamation;</span> <span>calumny:</span> </span><span class="ital-inline"><span><em><span>rumors</span> <span style="background-color:transparent;cursor:default;">full</span> <span>of</span> <span>slander.</span> </em></span></span></div></div><div class="luna-Ent"><span class="dnindex"><span><font color="#333333"><span style="background-color:transparent;cursor:default;">2.</span> </font></span></span><div class="dndata"><span><span>a</span> <span>malicious,</span> <span>false,</span> <span>and</span> <span style="background-color:transparent;cursor:default;">defamatory</span> <span>statement</span> <span>or</span> <span>report:</span> </span><span class="ital-inline"><span><em><span>a</span> <span>slander</span> <span>against</span> <span>his</span> <span>good</span> </em></span><a href="http://null/browse/name"><u><em>name</em></u></a><span><em>. </em></span></span></div></div><div class="luna-Ent"><span class="dnindex"><span><font color="#333333"><span>3.</span> </font></span></span><div class="dndata"><span class="labset"><span class="ital-inline"><span><em><span style="cursor:default;">Law</span> </em></span></span><span>. </span></span><span><span>defamation</span> <span>by</span> <span>oral</span> <span style="background-color:transparent;cursor:default;">utterance</span> <span>rather</span> <span>than</span> <span>by</span> <span>writing,</span> <span style="background-color:transparent;cursor:default;">pictures,</span> <span>etc.</span> </span></div></div></div><div class="pbk"><span class="pg"><span><strong><em><span>–verb</span> <span>(used</span> <span>with</span> <span style="background-color:transparent;cursor:default;">object)</span> </em></strong></span></span><div class="luna-Ent"><span class="dnindex"><span><font color="#333333"><span>4.</span> </font></span></span><div class="dndata"><span><span>to</span> <span>utter</span> <span>slander</span> <span style="background-color:transparent;cursor:default;">against;</span> <span>defame.</span> </span></div></div></div><div class="pbk"><span class="pg"><span><strong><em><span>–verb</span> <span>(used</span> <span>without</span> <span>object)</span> </em></strong></span></span><div class="luna-Ent"><span class="dnindex"><span><font color="#333333"><span>5.</span> </font></span></span><div class="dndata"><span><span>to</span> <span>utter</span> <span>or</span> <span>circulate</span> <span>slander.</span>

No one here has slandered you.  Instead they have asked your age and asked why it bothers you so much if you aren't friends with these people anymore.  In no way, do either of those warrant slander.

Have a glass of wine and chill out :)</span></div></div></div></div>

OBX2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I cried today... my "friends" are so JEALOUS! : No more to the story but when people are MISERABLE they want u to be miserable as well. Misery loves company is definitely a true statement. They are not "good friends", one was actually one of my best friends for a little while and after we ended our friendship, she befriended people who didn't like me just to get back at me :( . She had absolutely nothing to do with these people while me and her were cool, I found that quite strange. Where in that post do I make it seem like I'm "better than them" because I'm getting married? <strong>They are all GAY, anyway!</strong> They don't plan on getting married any time soon and I don't think they really care about that but it's funny how people were happier and okay being my friend when I was single or in a rough relationship but as soon as I'm happy... everyone has something negative to say.
Posted by brittanyjterrell[/QUOTE]

Now THIS is slander unless they really are gay? 

Do you have a problem with gays?  Do you feel it appropriate to use that term lightly?  I take extreme offense to this b/c I have 2 cousins that are gay and guess what?  They are married too.

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]Why is "they're just jealous" the knee-jerk response for any teenager who gets flak about doing something dumb?   It's the same logic as every girl that is prettier than you is automatically a skank. Maybe they aren't jealous.  Maybe you're just a 15 year old drama queen.  
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

This exactly. 

The "they're just jealous" remark is something jr. high kids say.  Are you sure you're 23?  If so, please stop talking because you are giving the rest of us early 20's girls a bad name.

nrawlings26

why would you use the word friends for them?  that i don't understand

tabbyb3007

Why are you listening to these peopel? You don't need people like this in your life. You don't need this kind of drama. Tell them to get a life and leave your alone.

dragonwagon

FI and I had a pretty large crowd of people who were completely against our relationship at first.  We pissed off an entire church. He and his then girlfriend led a youth praise and worship band. (Read: He was/is not a pastor.) BUT, he was a very influential person to the youth group. They all loved him and looked up to him. Fi and her were like a celebrity couple in their eyes.

So when the cat was out of the bag that we'd been seeing each other,  their relationship ended and it was very public. It was also very public that I was to blame, since I obviously "stole" him from her and the youth group.

That being said, FI and I can both admit and did admit to those people: yes there was a better way to go about what we did. We were wrong and immature. That's why we had to face all the "hate." Eventually we left the church. We surround ourselves with people who care for us and support our relationship.

 If they are really saying things like this to you, then they aren't your friend. You should ignore and avoid them because their opinions shouldn't monopolize your feelings. But most importantly, if you and your FI have somehow stirred up all the controversy, be the bigger person and just own up to it. And then go your separate ways. Because if you are legitimately in love, and the Facebook propaganda isn't just a cover up for what's actually lacking in the relationship; then it would behoove you to just delete these people from your life and your FB.

AbbeyS2011

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[QUOTE]FI and I had a pretty large crowd of people who were completely against our relationship at first.  We pissed off an entire church. He and his then girlfriend led a youth praise and worship band. (Read: He was/is not a pastor.) BUT, he was a very influential person to the youth group. They all loved him and looked up to him. Fi and her were like a celebrity couple in their eyes. <strong>So when the cat was out of the bag that we'd been seeing each other,  their relationship ended and it was very public. It was also very public that I was to blame, since I obviously "stole" him from her and the youth group.</strong> That being said, FI and I can both admit and did admit to those people: yes there was a better way to go about what we did. We were wrong and immature. That's why we had to face all the "hate." Eventually we left the church. We surround ourselves with people who care for us and support our relationship.  If they are really saying things like this to you, then they aren't your friend. You should ignore and avoid them because their opinions shouldn't monopolize your feelings. But most importantly, if you and your FI have somehow stirred up all the controversy, be the bigger person and just own up to it. And then go your separate ways. Because if you are legitimately in love, and the Facebook propaganda isn't just a cover up for what's actually lacking in the relationship; then it would behoove you to just delete these people from your life and your FB.
Posted by dragonwagon[/QUOTE]

This just burns me when I read something like this - like you just yanked him away from her, and he had no say in it.  Puh-leeze.  Obviously he wanted to be with you more than her.  You evil temptress you LOL. 

As for the OP, she needs to grow up and realize it is freakin' annoying to see posts daily/hourly/minute by minute of how much "in love" she is with her man.  Who gives a flying flapjack?

mstar284

I didn't even go through drama like this in high school. It all sounds very juvenille, so you should probably just do your best to ignore it and live your happy life since you can't change their minds.