I don't know if I had mentioned this at all, but my best friend for the past 10 years is having an engagement party this month. They got engaged about 9 months ago, I don't remember the exact date.
Anyway, this friend used to be like my partner-in-crime, my right hand man, you know the type. That is up until she started dating her now fiance. She started dating him 4 months after my 20th birthday (4 years ago) and basically that was the end of our friendship. Every year I have a birthday party, dinner, BBQ, or something fun & celebratory yet she hasn't come out with me for my birthday since I was 20. I probably sound silly being mad about that, but it's not as if she says she can't make it. She tells me she's definitely coming & then just doesn't show & turns off her phone the day of. Also, she never would come see us at our apartment if I invited her over, or she will invite herself over & then cancel. Over the past week alone, she made plans with me 4 times-- she made the plans & invited herself over, not me-- and then cancelled on me all 4 times. We live 20mins away max.
So now she's having an engagement party this month. Her FMIL is throwing it for her. Here's my problem with this-- yes, they are engaged, but no, they do not plan on getting married any time soon. They have a summer 2012 wedding date listed on their registry, but it's not for real. They're really not going to be getting married until late 2013, but there's no date set yet. So I get this invite to the e-party in the mail, it's hand written & says: pool party! bring a towel! inside it like a childs birthday party, but there are also slips for their registry at BB&B and directions to the house in it like it's a bridal shower.
Am I wrong for thinking it's weird she created a bridal registry for an engagement party?
Then, I'm like okay, well they are trying to buy a house so they need things for it since they live with her parents right now & have nothing. I planned on buying her a few things from her registry even though I'm broke as a joke & she would never come to my engagement party... well, she would RSVP & then not show.
Anyway, the deal on the house fell thru unfortunately so they put an offer on another house & they were counteroffered & couldn't meet it so now there's not house. Also, there's no wedding.
Instead they booked a trip to the Dominican Republic in 3 weeks because they deserve a vacation from all the bad house deals or something like that.
I took off of work to go to her e-party even though I know she would never come to mine, she would never come to my bridal shower & certainly not bring a gift so last week I texted her saying "omg my co-worker so&so bailed on me! I have to work the day of your party."
So am I supposed to go to this engagement party & bring her a toaster & blender because they got engaged & are moving into a house that doesn't exist while pretending to get married?