Name change?

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I am unsure if I would want to change my name when my soon-to-be fiance and I get hitched. He has more traditional values and I am more liberal. We have discussed this a few times, but I am not sure still. I do see his side with our future family having one name and easier for kids and such.  Yet on the other hand, my last name is dying with my sisters and I, as we have no brother.

Any opinions??

ElleestJenn

I completely get what you mean. I have a brother but my parents are not hoping for him to get married in the near future. 

I love my last name. My last name goes with my first and middle name. My mom keeps making it a point every time I talk about how someones recognized me by my last name and she says "see you won't be recognized if you changed it to newlastname'. Personally I love my name but it's important to FI that I take his last name. Since I'm a performer my stage name will always be Jenna maiden name and married name wiil be Jenna FIlastname, a Julia Roberts' kind of thing. 

redheadfsu

The decision is extremely personal & 100% yours alone. Both sides have a valid argument. But he should get zero say on what you do.

NillaWafer10

It's definitely your choice.  Personally, I would hyphenate my name if I were planning on having children.  That way, we at least shared one last name.

It's also a good idea to keep your last name if your name is important for your career.

callisto11

It is a very personal choice.  I went back and forth with it.  Just so you know, my kids have a different name than mine.  When I divorced when they were little I took back my maiden name.  My 21 year old son entered my new last name in his phone contacts and thought is was weird for me to go from maidenlastname to marriedlastname.  Your kids will know you for you.  The name matters not to them.  On that note, I did change my name when I was married last month.  I feel that the name defines who we are as a family.  Just us....good luck!!!

buckettgirl

My maiden name is prominent in my hometown and many people recognize it and of course want to know who I belong to (My dad holds a county position; my uncle has a popular local band; and my grandparents have lived there their entire lives).
When I divorced, I kept my married name because I couldn't decide what to do and didn't want the hassle of changing all the legal paperwork...
Now, I really wished I would have taken back my maiden name and am considering hyphenating my maiden name and FI's last name.
ALTHOUGH, I have asked FI if he would take my maiden name :P
He won't, but is understanding if I wish to not take his name at all.  As long as I get rid of my current last name, one way or another.  LOL

tlbattaglia

I'm taking my FI's last name.  It is very important to him.