MOH's Gone Wild

andiharrell

Hey ladies, I could really use some advice.

I have two MOH: My cousin and my best friend.

Now my best friend can be extremely domineering, and in a day to day situation, I just brush it off, but for the wedding I am a tad concerned.

I love her dearly and do not want to hurt her feelings, but she is not used to me saying no to her and I have already felt her pushing her ideas on me. (Example: I am having my wedding next October but don't want to do a "fall theme" and she is making it her mission to convince me that orange is needed in my palate knowing I am not a fan of the color. She also designed dresses for the bridesmaids and wants me to ask my other girls to shell out the cash to have a dress custom made!) 

It is a sweet gesture and I LOVE that she is getting into it so much, but how do I nicely explain to her that while I appreciate and love her input, I would like to take the reigns on this one?

ChanelShades

Easy. Just tell her. I would kindly explain that you have a grand "vision" for your affair and have been thinking about it since you started wedding planning. Thank her for her suggestions. try to incorporate something she suggests if you wish. Otherwise, just stand up for yourself. 

brilibby4

Just tell her.  If she is your best friend you should really be able to talk to her about how you are feeling.  Tons of people will most likely try to give you advice and offer ideas for your wedding.  Simple say "Thanks for thinking of us.  We will keep that in mind." or "Thanks so much but we already have our hearts set on doing ___ for that part of the wedding.  That was a great suggestion though!".

AdeleDazeem

Grow a backbone and say "thanks for the idea, but I have other plans."

NillaWafer10

I would say, "what a great idea! I bet that would be fabulous for your own wedding."

futurepivko

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[QUOTE]Easy. Just tell her. I would kindly explain that you have a grand "vision" for your affair and have been thinking about it since you started wedding planning. Thank her for her suggestions. try to incorporate something she suggests if you wish. Otherwise, just stand up for yourself. 
Posted by ChanelShades[/QUOTE]


this.