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Need to Vent about Guest List

I have been trying to compile a guest list just close family and friends. I have asked FH to do the same. My mom is paying for the reception space and the catering for us so she is caping the max people at 100 which is fine I dont like big weddings. I am fustrated because my mom, FH and I all agreed after a friends wedding no children because of the screaming during the ceremony and the running around at the reception. So mom and I also made another limit no second cousins to cut the list down more. I was talking to FH tonight and I told him to have his grandmother (who knows more about his family than him) to call my mom when possible so they can disscuss the guest list. We got into an argument about his aunt and her daughter bringing a child. I truly dont want any kids except the wedding party kids and they are leaving early with a babysitter since they are young. I dont know why they cant get a babysitter like the rest of my family is most likely going to do. I have many young second cousins that are young and i would love them at the wedding but we cant afford it.

So frustrating especially when discussed this earlier. Sorry needed to vent.

Re: Need to Vent about Guest List

  • Aw :( There's always going to be drama with invites and guestlists. Even the small and simple engagement party my parents threw for me was dramatic so I can only imagine what it will be like when I actually get to inviting people to my wedding :S Think positive though. Things usually have a way of working themselves out :)
  • It's both we can't afford to have the kids and I don't like kids at weddings I don't want to sound mean here. His family is coming from out of town as is a lot of mine. My second cousins will need a babysitter or someone to watch them that day. I don't know to suggest budgeting for one or what. I feel if I make an acception my family will wonder why they wernt allowed to bring their kids since they know I am close the them. See why I am frustrated? I would rather not make an exception and cut the loss rather than worry about it but I don't want my FH angry / resentful at me. My mom and him actually brought up the no kids policy and I didn't like it at first. After my friend got married and kids cried during her ceremony and you couldn't hear anything and they took over the reception I loved the policy. We had to institute no second cousins because I have a huge family. My mom is one of 12 siblings. 4 are left but I have numerous cousins. And yes we are a very close family. I know I have a lot of time left, but this issue is certainly driving me nuts already.
  • When I was married the first time I had a kids free wedding, and we gave everyone the option of taking their kids to a babysitter we hired nearby the venue. It worked out well, there weren't too many. But it is an option.
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  • In Response to Re:Need to Vent about Guest List:[QUOTE]When I was married the first time I had a kids free wedding, and we gave everyone the option of taking their kids to a babysitter we hired nearby the venue. It worked out well, there weren't too many. But it is an option. Posted by princess pop[/QUOTE]

    Now in general how much did the babysitter charge for the day? This may have to be an option as many will be coming from out of town. Did you have the children / babysitter go to a nearby relatives house or where? We are thinking the ceremony will be around 4 and dinner around 6. So it's not like the parents wouldn't see their kids the whole day, its mostly just the evening.
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