2 Family weddings...too close?

nddp0506

My future sister in law got engaged about a week before my fiance and I did.  They have set a date of May, 2011...how much time should we allow between weddings, as not to take away from the other wedding?  WE want to get married either this winter (only a few months away) or spring, but DO NOT want to step on her toes!
 This is all four parties second wedding, so we aren't talking first wedding emotions.
Thank you!!!
~N

glam70s

I think technically as long as it's not the same weekend, you're fine. However I would probably give them a couple of months worth of space. If you want to get married this winter, do it! I would say during or before March, or during or after July would be fine. But I might be biased - my cousin is getting married three weeks after I am, and my sister will be two weeks after that, so we're obviously all okay with having family weddings crammed together...

AdeleDazeem

I would look at your guest list and think about who has to travel to both weddings.  As a courtesy to those who might have to shell out traveling expenses twice, I'd separate the weddings.  If you want to get married this winter, I think that sounds great - after the holidays and a few months before the other wedding.

It's considerate of you to think of them

NillaWafer10

I would say winter would be better.  My family was pretty exhausted after our wedding haha!

soduhpop

i was wondering the same thing. my fi chose our date, april 7th and then his brother chose the date july 16th. and they chose the same place we did to get married and the same food. my fi's nephew is getting married in feb, we r in april, my aunt is in june and my soon to be bro-in-law is in july.

aerinpegadrak

I think it all comes down to travel.  If they're local, I don't think I'd even mind going to two weddings on the same weekend, but if I'm having to travel for both, I'd want at least a month in between, preferably 2-3.

Kate61487

I agree with PPs, but I also think you should consider how much overlap the guest lists will have.  For example - my uncle's niece (by marriage) got engaged a week before we did, and their wedding is two weeks after ours; but my aunt/uncle are basically the only overlap.  Obviously this is your FI's sister so the whole family will overlap, but is the family large? or are we talking 15 people?  If it's the later talk to them and see how much time they feel they need.  If we're talking 100 people then give a couple months.

palrmt

Honestly a couple months is very generous.  My FI's co worker got engaged shortly after us and their date is set for almost exactly one month after ours.  Honestly it wouldny matter if it was one week.  I really don't think one wedding will detract from the other at all.  Obviously though PP's are right when they say to consider travel.  If a fair amount of people will have to travel for both weddings, then it would be considerate of you to schedule them at least a month apart.