To go or not to go...

Ashly018

I am getting married mid October, and my fiance lives out of town... A friend of mine is getting married about a week and a half before me... My x will be there, and I'm not comfortable going to her wedding with him there and my fiance not being able to go with me.  I know it sounds stupid, but the truth is I met her thru him, and since him and I broke up I have spoken to her maybe 2 times.  We never talk, we hardly text, and maybe once in a while we will leave comments on each others facebooks.  Her fiance is my x's good friend, and even though we said our relationship wouldn't change if my x and I broke up it obviously has... The sad part for me is before either of us were engaged I had planned on asking her to be my maid of honor, that's how good of friends I thought we were... So I pose the question, do I go or politely decline?

laurenclaire1386

Sounds to me like you have plenty of personal reasons to just politely decline. That doesn't mean you can't send a wedding gift and a nice card, expressing how much your friend means to you.

trix1223

Politely decline and send a lovely gift.  That's not at all unreasonable.

kaynix21

Agreed.

But, if you did really want to go, does your FI mind if the ex is there and he's not? Clearly you didnt' work out for a reason, and you are engaged and getting married. If you are more worried about FI than the fact you are going alone, have you asked FI?

But if you are straight up uncomfortable and do not want to be there, it is totally OK to decline. A card a nice gift are perfectly acceptable.