Stag & Drag/Stag & Doe Party

AdeleDazeem

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_stag-dragstag-doe-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:eafd249c-60e4-40d8-ba6b-bf3602475e94Post:38efcfad-f87d-4721-b620-17c789cfdd08">Re: Stag & Drag/Stag & Doe Party</a>:
[QUOTE] Why don't you read up on them and use your critical thinking skills to determine whether or not they're okay rather than just going with whatever your tacky friends would do? 
Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

I'm pretty sure critical thinking skills went the way of red pens and trophies for only the winners.

ROBINRENE5

This type thing is not common in my area. I have a stepbrother that lives in Buffalo, NY and see on Facebook that this is something they do there. I see posts about buying tickets and random games going on. Although I am not sure hat exactly goes on, he seems to go to alot of these things. If you want support on this, maybe check a board in that area? That being said, I would not attend one of these. I will have the wedding FI and I can afford and will not charge our friends or ask them to pay for our reception. Good luck.

allychase

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_stag-dragstag-doe-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:eafd249c-60e4-40d8-ba6b-bf3602475e94Post:a12d131b-ea18-456f-b21a-b1718ff03785">Re:Stag amp; Drag/Stag amp; Doe Party</a>:
[QUOTE]This type thing is not common in my area. I have a stepbrother that lives in Buffalo, NY and see on Facebook that this is something they do there. I see posts about buying tickets and random games going on. Although I am not sure hat exactly goes on, he seems to go to alot of these things. If you want support on this, maybe check a board in that area? <strong>That being said, I would not attend one of these. I will have the wedding FI and I can afford and will not charge our friends or ask them to pay for our reception. Good luck.</strong>
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</div><div>This. And ;ike a PP said, just ask your friends and family for the money directly so you don't even have to plan the party. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

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SJM7538

They are also called jack and Jill's in my area and are super common. Four or five people I went to hs with have all been married in the past two years and they all had one. I got invited to purchase a ticket to all of them but declined. I hadn't seen or talked to these people since I graduated. A few people asked my fianc and I if we were having one and my dad offered to throw us one and we declined. It wasn't for us. And honestly... There are enough pre wedding parties as it is. Who the hell needs a shower, a bachelor and bachelorette, a jack and Jill and the actual wedding?

KSerafin17

I am from Pittsburgh, born and raised and I can tell you that no one in my circle or community would think of doing something like this for a wedding. To support a charity, a fallen soilder, a child with an illness- yes. To fund your personal wedding- no way!

I also went to college in Erie for a year and have many friends from that area and I can tell you that none of them would find it fitting to participate in this event either. Why- because it is beyond tacky and inappropriate.

Instead of putting thought, energy, and time into this tacky mess....why don't you pick up a second job with your free time and raise the money on your own?! Just a thought!

allychase

I really love when the OP claims its acceptable in their area and multiple posters from the same area come and defend the idea that its absolutely not acceptable. OP why don't you come back and tell the PP who's from your area that its common practice where they live? Seriously what ever happened to common logic and critical thinking skills... Or just plain etiquette. I wish OP realized the but everyone else is doing it! Excuse is not really okay when you're an adult. Think for yourself, maybe start a new trend in your area.. Courtesy.

Jager1219

I've heard of stag parties, but I thought they were a thing from the past and pretty much outdated (like head tables).  I've also heard of Jack & Jill's, but those have always just been a couples shower.  Basically the same thing as a bridal shower, but for the couple instead of just the bride.  The Jack & Jill's I've seen have mostly been baby showers more so than bridal showers.

I also dislike the "money dance", but I think that is a cultural thing that is still a family custom.  So I can't say much to it because it's not my heritage.

NYCMercedes

To the posters from Pittsburgh, maybe it's just Sierra's "social circle". Not surprising that nobody is in her social circle.

allychase

In Response to Re:Stag :[QUOTE]To the posters from Pittsburgh, maybe it's just Sierra's "social circle". Not surprising that nobody is in her social circle. Posted by NYCMercedes[/QUOTE]

Lol probably. Five girls who do something similar so the proper etiquette the rest of the population follows doesn't apply to them.

Summer2011Bride

Posting blogs of other rude people doing this doesn't help your cause. Almost every wedding I've attended had a dollar dance, but I find them so rude that we didn't have one. I don't give a flip that other people did something rude; I care about not being rude also. Is this not something you're interested in? Or do you always just blindly do what you've seen others do without actually thinking for yourself about it?