How did you meet your FI/Husband or Wife?

Sharpschruter22

There are several ladies here who have met their SO online. If so, what site did you use? How did the rest of you find him/her?

I met FI online on OkCupid. It's hard to believe I found him on a free site since I had paid for so many memberships on other sites like eHarmony and Christian Mingle. I did meet my 2 year relationship ex on CM. :P

I actually met FI bc of my ex. I fully admit to stalking his CM account and saw he noted he moved to OkC. So of course I created a profile to see his. Sidenote: He even had pictures of us posted!!!! Anyway, I ran across FI profile and sent him a message to which he never replied. 6 months later I messaged him again. He was online but didn't reply back so I overreacted and sent him a terse note. Turns out he got online to check my message but it was late so he planned on replying in the morning. We had a bit of a rough start, but we started over and here we are!

FI also met me bc of his Ex. She cheated on him and made him a profile to help him get over her. After he found me, she tried like heII to get him back. B! please. He's mine!!!

Tell me your story?

thejucheidea

We met at the first anti-Scientology protest in Nashville back in 2008.

Simply Fated

We met at work. We bonded over our dislike of mixing work with pleasure lol. 

Peledreamsofrain

My husband and I met online!  I say it was PlentyofFish, he says OkCupid.  It's a fun argument we have because I had profiles on multiple sites and went through A LOT of dates.  Most of the guys I ran into there were either super nerdy, shy, or had too many issues to deal with the real world.  I became an expert in kicking the latter to the curb :P.

My husband fell into the 'shy nerd' category, and he admits that he checked out my profile and didn't initiate contact because he thought I was out of his league.  I'm so glad that I took the chance and reached out to him.

Of all the relationships I've ever been through, this is by far the best.  No drama, no manipulations, no issues, and mutual giggly silliness.  I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop, since sometimes it feels like nothing can be this perfect.

Anywho, enough of the mushy stuff. :P

ZeroOrchestra

I had a "date" with this guy that I had met a few weeks prior at my neighborhood dive. I decided to walk to meet him. While there, one of his friends stopped in and we all chatted awhile. We passed by that friend's house later for a drink and saw him on several occasions after It turned out the guy I was dating was a stage 5 clinger and we parted ways.

Shortly after, I ran into his friend at that same dive bar. He invited me to a get together at his place. After everyone left for the night, we stayed up and talked for a few hours. We had a good bit to drink so he offered me his bed while he stayed on the couch but I refused and took the couch. The same thing happened the following evening.

The next week I tried to stay away and not look too eager. We met up again midweek, he came to my place and we fell asleep on the living room floor listening to records (Jeff Buckley, I recall), which was like my ideal fantasy perfect fall in love scenario. At that point we were still playing it as just friends, which only lasted about another week.

He is now my H, and always tells me about how he saw me walking in my little black sundress to meet his friend that first day as he was driving home.

warpedredpenguin

I met H on plentyoffish. Ironically, he went out once with a girl who is now the wife of one of my good friends. They also met on PoF. I only met one decent guy on OK cupid. 

One guy kept messaging me offering to pay me to let him do things to my feet. I couldn't find the block feature quickly enough. Ew. 

Another guy called me disgusting filth for not being a virgin. He just assumed. 

Sharpschruter22

In Response to Re:How did you meet your FI/Husband or Wife?:[QUOTE]My husband and I met online! nbsp;I say it was PlentyofFish, he says OkCupid. nbsp;It's a fun argument we have because I had profiles on multiple sites and went through A LOT of dates. nbsp;Most of the guys I ran into there were either super nerdy, shy, or had too many issues to deal with the real world. nbsp;I became an expert in kicking the latter to the curb :P.My husband fell into the 'shy nerd' category, and he admits that he checked out my profile and didn't initiate contact because he thought I was out of his league. nbsp;I'm so glad that I took the chance and reached out to him.Of all the relationships I've ever been through, this is by far the best. nbsp;No drama, no manipulations, no issues, and mutual giggly silliness. nbsp;I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop, since sometimes it feels like nothing can be this perfect.Anywho, enough of the mushy stuff. :P Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

Same thing here Pele. I went on many dates and all had something wrong with them, either socially awkward, but smart, attractive but talked about his ex wife non stop etc.

FI was just perfect. He is a mix of all the good things I had in prior relationships without all the bad. He is amazing.

Penguin, I never had luck with POF. It was full of gross men being vulgar in messages to me. In my experience, OKC was a bunch of smart engineer types that just hadn't found anyone yet and most with a reason why. FI works so much and never gets out to meet anyone ..same as me. We clicked and knew within three months we would be married and he gave me a nice sparkler to prove it. :D

veronicavpling

my space three years ago lol. i added him because i thought he was someone i knew but...come to find out it wasnt and he was away in cali cause he's a marine and he always asked me to join him for dinner and etc and i always stood him up and we were talking on and off and kinda a lame on and off talking two years ago i finally got to know it. we were talking for awhile at that time he's stationed in japan. and then we finally got to know each other and started dating met him and now we have a baby together and living together. small world. his ex gf's mom was my grandma's house nurse.

kjlamb

I met my FI on OKCupid. He was everything I was looking for in a guy. We messaged for awhile, then finally went on a date. It turns out that his cousin and I knew each other from high school. We were in the same class and graduated together. I went to a boarding school, and his cousin and I lived on the same floor. 

There were some complete wierdos and Creepers on OKCupid-there were lots of bad first dates and relationships before FI came along, but it was all worth it. 

tlc35

Eharmony! We were matched within a week of me joining. Our first date was the week of Christmas 2010. He was having dental issues and hardly ate anything I can't believe he didn't cancel and am so glad he didn't.

bridalmarch

I was working for the newspaper in my city and dating a guy who worked for the online portion of it. They worked in a different building and my BF at the time kept telling me how funny this friend he worked with was, but I'd never met him and it became the running joke that this guy didn't really exist. Finally at a happy hour, BF introduced me to FI. FI was sitting on a bar stool eating wings and watching the Orioles game. BF says "Hey FI, this is Bridal March, the girl I've been telling you about." FI swivels his stool, looks me up and down, grunts "Hi" and turns back around. I thought he was a jerk. Turns out he's just shy.

FI and I lived in neighboring apt complexes and we eventually started carpooling to work. FI was developing feelings for me but I was still dating the other guy. He and I eventually had a fairly drama filled break up and FI wanted to give me some time, I guess. We were going to have a big fancy work dinner and FI apparently was working up the courage to tell me he liked me/ask me out and was planning on telling me this at the dinner. This was about 3 months after the first guy and I broke up. That night, FI skipped the dinner because his sister got a flat tire, and with the help of an open bar, ex-BF and I rediscovered each other. FI came to pick me up for work the next morning and saw ex-BF and I coming out of my apartment together and I apparently broke his heart  

Ex-BF and I were together for another three months after that, then had yet another drama- filled break up. FI jumped on it this time and asked me to go to a Ben Folds concert with him, and we danced and he kissed me goodnight. We were sort of inseparable after that. 

....that's the long version. Generally we just tell people we met at work lol. 

MrsGandthebeag

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WinstonsGirl

I was set up with DH.  I played Roller Derby with a girl, and her Husband worked with DH.  DH came to watch a game she was playing in and saw me hawking beer in my derby hot pants and asked his friend who I was.  Friend told his wife who declared it was setup time.  Neither of us was really keen to do it, but we gave in and said ok.  

Katoners

In Response to Re:How did you meet your FI/Husband or Wife?:[QUOTE]I was set up with DH. nbsp;I played Roller Derby with a girl, and her Husband worked with DH. nbsp;DH came to watch a game she was playing in and saw me hawking beer in my derby hot pants and asked his friend who I was. nbsp;Friend told his wife who declared it was setup time. nbsp;Neither of us was really keen to do it, but we gave in and said ok. nbsp; Posted by kje_[/QUOTE]

FI and I met at a roller derby bout too!!

FIs sister and I work together and for months she kept telling me she wanted to set me up with him. Worrying it wouldn't work out and things would be awkward between me and FIs sister at work I kept refusing. One day she mentioned try we're coming to my bout and I told her that was great and that I was sure they would have fun. I then realized she was ignoring my refusal and was bringing him with to meet me.

I was wearing fishnets and a tutu. We talked at the after party and he asked for my number. We had our first date a week later and have been inseparable ever since. And now we are forever indebted to FSIL!

MoonlightSilver

H and I met online too, but not on a dating site. We were only 14 (me) and 15 (him) when we met on a message board for anime. We chatted for a while, became online boyfriend and girlfriend, and then it expanded to real life when we met in person two years later. 

jennipea382

I met FI in college. I was in a sorority and I hung out with some of the guys in one of the fraternities a lot. He started hanging out there and ended up joining. We became really good friends and hung out all the time. He had hinted at liking me, but I of course was after other guys who weren't the greatest. I finally woke up and realized what I wanted was right there in front of me the whole time! I was nervous about it because I didn't want to "ruin" our friendship (we were so close that I even said I wanted him in my wedding one day - never thought he'd be the one I'm marrying!). Luckily things have been amazing and he's still my best friend :-)

2012FutureMrsB

We met on christiandatingforfree.com  We both had profiles on eharmony and other sites, but couldn't afford the payments, so we only had the limited free profiles with them. The free site, though was exactly what we both needed, lol! He saw my picture and immediately fell in love with my smile  

We were long distance at first and I originally didn't want long-distance but the same week he contacted me I discovered I was going to have to move to finish grad school and my mom was having health problems . . . and he lived exaclty half way between my parents in TX and my other family members in AZ. So I thought, what the heck? Maybe I could do this long-distance thing. 

We knew right away that we were meant for each other. As soon as I finished grad school (a year after we started dating), I moved across the country to his town; we got engaged 10 months later, and now we've been married almost 8 months!

emeejeeayen

We were introduced by mutual friends because of FI's obsession with some movies my parents worked on way back when. We became really good friends, but I didn't think he was my type at the time, though he told me he liked me quite a bit. His friends got me SUPER drunk at a party one night, and I ended up kissing him. I think we made out all night (I don't remember?) but once I realized we had chemistry I was sold. 

GoofyAssChick

I was hanging out with friends tailgating before Cincinnati Bengals games. I was a part of a rather large group who were season ticket holders and we had a pretty big party going on each home game. My fiance started coming to the same tailgate and we started becoming friends fast..mostly picking on each other. He always picked me to be his beer pong partner. We were dorks but we had a good time. While standing in line for the portopotty, he offered to hold my coat and we would talk about things in line about ourselves. We just bonded. Eventually we became Facebook friends and a flirtation developed and he asked me out. Eventually we had a first date and the rest is history. I love that man. :

jenajjthr

H and I orginally knew each other when we were teenagers.  He was dating a friend of mine.  Him and his GF had a more open relationship that shocked me when I found out, and I backed away from the friendship.  Fast forward 20 years.  I had left my exH due to an abusive relationship and created a Facebook account (originally created to cyberstalk exH to find out about his cheating).  I got friended by many friends from HS, one being current H.  He messaged me one night when we were both on and I found out he married GF but she had passed away the previous November.  We started talking and became friends.  We had a lot of mutual interests and we both helped each other get through the loss that we both suffered.  About a month into our friendship we went on our first date and we haven't looked back since. 

MaryGraceRich

All of these stories are awesome!  Im sorry this is kinda long.
     I met FI in high school originally.  His friends hung out with someo f my friends.  we lived around the corner from each other but never really hung together unless our mutual friends were hanging out.  He is 3 years older than me so he graduated years before I did.  He went to basic training for the army and then Sept 11th happened adn he was called to active duty and within a few years was sent to Iraq. 
     During these few years one of our sets of friend sgot married and moved to PA and both of our best friends started dating each other.  The four of us would hang out from time to time but I NEVER thought FI was someone I would have dated.
     One day I was walking home from work and I was bored and lonely.  I looked through my phone and found his number.  I sent him a little hello text.  We chatted a bit and he asked me what I was doing to next day.  I didnt have anything planned sp he thought we should hang out.  I thought nothing of it.  We were friends.  I thought he just wanted to hang out.  We went to the movies.  I was wearing old jeans and a tshirt because I didnt think it was a date. About halfway through the movie he put his arm around me.  I freaked out...on the inside.  It took a violent shove into being a date and I wasnt prepared for it. 
He dropped me off at home and I ran from the car like it was on fire. He thought he was never going to see me again.
     When I got inside I called my friend (who at this point was now engaged to his best friend) I was nearly panicking.  I couldnt beleive that I had gone on a date with him. She said why not give it a shot.  I thought about it.  He was a very different man than what he was in high school.  So I took her advice. A year and a half later we were living together and a year after that we are were engaged.  I have never been so compatible and comfortable with another person.  He is amzing.

Benny618

Jdate!!

WinstonsGirl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:How did you meet your FI/Husband or Wife?: FI and I met at a roller derby bout too!! FIs sister and I work together and for months she kept telling me she wanted to set me up with him. Worrying it wouldn't work out and things would be awkward between me and FIs sister at work I kept refusing. One day she mentioned try we're coming to my bout and I told her that was great and that I was sure they would have fun. I then realized she was ignoring my refusal and was bringing him with to meet me. I was wearing fishnets and a tutu. We talked at the after party and he asked for my number. We had our first date a week later and have been inseparable ever since. And now we are forever indebted to FSIL!
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<div>I love going to watch Derby, though we haven't been lately.  I miss playing, but other priorities take precidence.  Hopefully I can get back into it later.  How long have you played??  Anyone who needs a good Saturday night date idea should look into it if they have a local team</div><div>
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AddieCake

I actually met mine online but not on a dating site. We met on Pogo Games in a game called Word Whomp, where you unscramble letters to make words. 

HobokensFury

We met at a bar called Texas Arizona.

JadziaDax

We lived around the block from each other for years. We met when I spotted my husband walking his dog past my house. I thought he was really cute and would wait outside for him to walk by every night. One day, my sister stopped him and started asking him questions. We started hanging out and have been together since. 

random4180

Boy Scout Camp in 2006. He ran the Archery Range and I ran Handicrafts. We were friends for about a year and then decided to give this whole relationship thing a try (it's a first for both of us, so no crazy exes or bad blind dates, yay.) We went a bit long distance since he was still in school then I moved upstate after about 2.5 years. We moved back home to NYC in 2011 and he proposed soon after. 

ljsquintz

We met in Vegas. 

lauralaur

We met through what we call a "mutual enemy." My high school boyfriend had broken up with me about a week before I was supposed to start college. He worked at Lindt and I used to hang around the store a lot and made friends with a lot of his coworkers. One such coworker was my age and was going to the same school as me. She mentioned that I should meet her boyfriend's roommate. I asked if he was hot and she replied that he was an Army firefighter. Sold. She turned out to be a b!tch, which H already knew when we met, so we no longer speak to her or her now H, but I did get H out of all of her drama so that was cool.

Barbiiieee

We met online, technically. He posted his iPod for sale on Craigslist and I was going to buy it. He emailed me his phone number to make arrangements to meet and sell it. I called him that night to let him know I could meet up the next day to buy it, and we stayed on the phone for 7 hours. We met up the next day, and have pretty much been inseparable ever since.

ROBINRENE5

We went to school together but didn't know each other (he says he knew me, but I didn't know him).  A few years later, we were each out with our separate group of friends at a bar.  One of my girl friends said he looked familiar and that I should ask what his name was.  I am not shy at all, so when he walked by, I asked him what his name was and where he went to school.  He thought I was nuts since he knew who I was.  We became friends after that because I was dating someone else.  That ended, and we continued being best friends for a while.  Eventually, it just made sense for us to date because we were already inseparable and loved spending time with each other.  We both knew we would end up together, but we just had to wait for the right time.  Here we are 6 years later - and I get to marry my best friend!