Do people not know how to use a mailbox?

kennazebrowsky

Just feeling a little stressed. Our RSVP cards were post cards- stamped and addressed. Very easy to return! A few people I guess are just assuming we knew they are coming , but we all know what happens when we "assume" .

achiduck

When is your RSVP date? A lot of girls here received a large amount of their RSVPs back in the days just before and just after the cutoff date.

Afterwards, wait a week to allow for stragglers and then start calling. If worse comes to worse, you'll just have to tell them that since you have to give the caterer a final headcount, if you don't hear back from them by X date you'll have to mark them down as not attending.

emarston1

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[QUOTE]When was/is your RSVP date?
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]
This.  I'll reserve all comment until I know your deadline.

kennazebrowsky

It's this weekend. Just figured people would respond quicker! I know I always do it right away but that's just me I guess! Lol sorry, just needed to vent

ShakeUpTampa

I was missing over 80 , a few came in the days after the deadline and then I had to hunt down a few and so did FI's mom.

achiduck

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do people not know how to use a mailbox? : Yes, be patient.  You will receive some late.  A lot of people don't send them back until they reach the respond by date. <strong>Out of curiosity did you put enough postage on your RSVPs to account for the postage increase that happened over the weekend?
</strong>Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

This is a good point. I also thought their was a grace period though?

emarston1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do people not know how to use a mailbox? : This is a good point. I also thought their was a grace period though?
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

No grace period.  The prices went up and people had ample notice.  Occasionally I've heard about the post office holding mail and then the receiver has to come in and pay the difference but I'm not entirely sure.

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do people not know how to use a mailbox? : No grace period.  The prices went up and people had ample notice.  Occasionally <strong>I've heard about the post office holding mail and then the receiver has to come in and pay the difference but I'm not entirely sure.</strong>
Posted by emarston1[/QUOTE]

I've also heard of this. It really sucks, but it happens.

trixie549

I totally feel your pain. There are several people who we ABSOLUTELY KNOW are coming to the wedding (FI's sisters, grandmother, and best man, to name a few), but haven't sent back their RSVPs yet. What the heck! It's already stamped (with a forever stamp to account for the postage increase) and addressed...just send it back, already! Ugh...

achiduck

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do people not know how to use a mailbox? : I've also heard of this. It really sucks, but it happens.
Posted by NcsuPsych[/QUOTE]

Wow, this makes me really glad that we have "forever" stamps in Canada. They don't have a value marked on them but they're a standard letter mail stamp that you purchase for what the price of postage is at that time. They don't expire and can still be used even when postage goes up.

Juris11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do people not know how to use a mailbox? : Wow, this makes me really glad that we have "forever" stamps in Canada. They don't have a value marked on them but they're a standard letter mail stamp that you purchase for what the price of postage is at that time. They don't expire and can still be used even when postage goes up.
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

They have these in the US too. But generally wedding invites need specific postage and so you can't use them. (or most people don't because they want the pretty stamps-no snark because I got pretty ones for mine too)

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do people not know how to use a mailbox? : They have these in the US too. But generally wedding invites need specific postage and so you can't use them. (or most people don't because they want the pretty stamps-no snark because I got pretty ones for mine too)
Posted by Juris11[/QUOTE]

This exactly.

I got cute ones for my invites & rsvps. The invites were normal size, but the stamps still weren't 'forever' stamps. The rsvps were postcards and only needed a 35 cent stamp (again, not a forever).

LizziebeeUT

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[QUOTE]I totally feel your pain. There are several people who <strong>we ABSOLUTELY KNOW are coming to the wedding (FI's sisters, grandmother, and best man, to name a few), but haven't sent back their RSVPs yet</strong>. What the heck! It's already stamped (with a forever stamp to account for the postage increase) and addressed...just send it back, already! Ugh...
Posted by trixie549[/QUOTE]

Meh, I don't really see a point in getting worked up over this.
If I KNOW someone is coming to the wedding, I don't care if I get a card from them. My bridesmaid N didn't care if I sent my RSVP card back. We worked together, we talked about her wedding every day. She didn't need a piece of paper in her mailbox to confirm that.

trixie549

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do people not know how to use a mailbox? : Meh, I don't really see a point in getting worked up over this. If I KNOW someone is coming to the wedding, I don't care if I get a card from them. My bridesmaid N didn't care if I sent my RSVP card back. We worked together, we talked about her wedding every day. She didn't need a piece of paper in her mailbox to confirm that.
Posted by LizziebeeUT[/QUOTE]

It's more about the meal choices than the actual attending vs. not attending. I need to be able to get a final count to my caterer, and can't start making assumptions about which entree people would like to eat at the reception, KWIM?

LizziebeeUT

That makes sense. Both N and I did/are doing a buffet style, so it doesn't really matter for us.

kennazebrowsky

We have a good friend who is a post master so we knew about the postage, we made our RSVP a post card to save on that and keep it where it needed to be! I got a good mailed in amount today! I think I'm just wigging cause it's like 32 days away . I'm over planning and decorating and ready for it to be here! My dad is driving me crazy and my stepmom is like that evil stepmom in Cinderella! if I have another nightmare about the wedding I might scream. I am totally laughing at myself over all of this!

didi8772

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[QUOTE]When is your RSVP date? A lot of girls here received a large amount of their RSVPs back in the days just before and just after the cutoff date. Afterwards, wait a week to allow for stragglers and then start calling. If worse comes to worse, you'll just have to tell them that since you have to give the caterer a final headcount, if you don't hear back from them by X date you'll have to mark them down as not attending.
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

<div>I wouldn't do this. Although it's frustrating for guests to just assume and not RSVP, sometimes people just plain forget or something else. I would do the best you can to call, email, or somehow contact everyone who hasn't replied and ask them if they are attending. This is especially important because if you mark them down as not attending and a bunch show up anyway, you're in trouble with the head count!</div>

sessionswedding

Honey, I'm still waiting on 72 people to RSVP to my November 2011 wedding.  People are rude.  Give it a week or two and start calling.