Single

seansprincess14

Well turns out the guy I was dateing after me and my fiance' broke up turned out to be a real jerk. I have decided to concentrate on myself and work and not worry about weather or not if Im get taken advantage of or hurt. I hope one day I can find the right guy that will love me for who I am and treat me the way I deserve to be treated.

AceTT

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[QUOTE]Well turns out the guy I was dateing after me and my fiance' broke up turned out to be a real jerk. I have decided to concentrate on myself and work and not worry about weather or not if Im get taken advantage of or hurt. I hope one day I can find the right guy that will love me for who I am and treat me the way I deserve to be treated.
Posted by SeansButterfly[/QUOTE]
I wasn't here when you were first posting about this (I looked at your post history and read past posts to catch up), but I'm glad you're taking time for yourself now. You deserve it.

StephBeanWed61502

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[QUOTE]This is the best thing for you, honestly.  I hope that you really learn to love yourself before you go back into the dating scene so that you know what kind of guy you want and what kind of guy will treat you properly.
Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

I couldn't agree with this more.

Spending some time single, on your own, will help you so much in the long run.  I was single for a while before I met my FI, and knowing that I could be happy on my own, without a guy, made it much, much easier for me to hold out for the <em>right</em> guy, and to reject any and all losers at the first sign of loser-dom (instead of making excuses for them, which is what I'd previously done before realizing I could be okay alone).  Good luck and hang in there - adjusting to being single after being in a series of relationships isn't the easiest thing in the world, but it sounds like it's the best thing for you right now.

RailWayWife

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Single : I couldn't agree with this more. Spending some time single, on your own, will help you so much in the long run.  I was single for a while before I met my FI, and knowing that I could be happy on my own, without a guy, made it much, much easier for me to hold out for the right guy, and to reject any and all losers at the first sign of loser-dom (instead of making excuses for them, which is what I'd previously done before realizing I could be okay alone).  Good luck and hang in there - adjusting to being single after being in a series of relationships isn't the easiest thing in the world, but it sounds like it's the best thing for you right now.
Posted by StephBeanWed61502[/QUOTE]


This is great advice. Be single, enjoy life. When the right man comes along you will know. Until then just take time for yourself  :)

zitiqueen

Okay, I just re-read your first post and now I remember you.

In that post you said you achieved your life-long goal, which was to work at Disney World and now you work at WalMart. What is your new goal? Do you have a new goal?

I also agree that you need to spend some serious time alone. Like at least a year. Consider more education. Maybe your new goal can be to get a college degree.

kristin neo

 im new here and missed your posts so I went back and read them....Wow, you have taken a beating  by other members!!

1~ the best thing you can do is take time to learn who YOU are

2~you're young, and there is no need to rush

3~ give your self a few months before dating 

4~ love  and lust are TWO DIFFERENT THINGS 

5~ it takes about 1 yr after starting to date someone to come outta the honeymoon stage

back story about me

im 32, I met my first husband when I was 19(2000), moved in after 4 months, got enaged 9 mo's got PG 1 month after that, postpond the wedding till after the baby, said "i do" at  21 all this was while he was working a camp job( home for 6 days at work for 8) had 2 more kids 

speed forward to dec 2009, after 9 years with him and the last 3 trying  to keep it together for the kids...I left 

I KNOW if we would have waited to get engaed and PG that we would have never made it to 2 yr:(  

met my fl jan 20th.2010 had our first date jan27,2010, he  moved in Aug 1st, 2010 got enaged april,2011, I told him I wanted to have a long engagement, he was and is fine with it we didnt set the date till feb of this yr

some say i  rushed and I was not ready, but my marriage was LONG done before i left, in the last 3 yrs of my marriage I made some huge changes with "who I was" got some friends of my own, started taking time for me, eating right, losing weight, schooling...lots of things that made me srtonger as a person and a woman

hope this helps

ujocdeelovely

I agree with PP's. Focus on you! Never rely on a man and always put yourself first. Enjoy being single and have fun with your friends and family. You only live once. When the time is right you will find that someone.